Monthly Archives: November 2007

Mingle Bells: Tips For Networking At Your Holiday Party

 
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Yesterday, we discussed a recent study on monkeys and what you can learn from them about rationalizing.

Today, you’ll learn four tips to network your way through your holiday parties.

Mingle bell #1:  Break the ice.
Ideally, someone introduces you. In fact, look for people you know talking to people you don’t know. That’s the easiest way to get introduced to someone new.

If that option is not available, just think of an interesting opener. You might comment on something they’re wearing. Or discuss the food, the drink, or the place that you’re at. If all else fails, talk about the weather! 

Mingle bell #2:  Find something in common.
Find out how they know the host. Obvious, isn’t it? But with that information, you may get a clue to other people, places or things that you have in common with the person you just met.

When all else fails, fall back on our humanity. Check up on current events before the party, particularly lifestyle news. You can always make fun of the celebrity du jour!

Mingle bell #3:  Take a genuine interest in them.
Some people network solely to do more business. They’re looking for money with every contact. In our opinion, this is a mistake for two reasons. First, you don’t get to know some of the best people you’ll ever meet. Second, people see through it quickly.

Listen intently. Remember two ears, one mouth? You’ll learn more than you ever imagined, simply by letting others talk about themselves.

Mingle bell #4:  Make a lasting impact.
We live in a society hell-bent on moving fast. Speed dating came first. Now we have speed interviewing and speed networking. An article recently suggested that if you spend more than two minutes talking to someone you just met, you’re wasting your time. We think this is bull caca. Yeah, we checked the spelling … according to Webster, we got it right!

You shouldn’t force it. If there’s a lull in the conversation, find a graceful way to exit. But keep your goal in mind – to find new people with whom you connect. You’ll be more effective thinking quality, rather than quantity.

Use these four tips to take a sleigh-ride to successful networking!

Our quote today is by an unknown author.   

“How far we travel in life matters far less than those we meet along the way.”

So mingle your way through the holiday. You’ll make spirits bright!

Next time, we’ll get aggressively passive when we talk about how to build a passive income that sets you free.

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

Get The Monkey Off Your Back

 
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Yesterday, we discussed how to build your self-confidence. Today we’ll talk about a recent study on monkeys and what you can learn from it.

Yale University recently released the results of a study on the behavior of some monkeys when given a choice of M&Ms. The researchers broke their experiment into the following four steps:

Step 1 – The researchers gave each monkey an assortment of M&Ms.

Step 2 – They let each monkey choose their three favorite colors. Let’s say that “Spanky” chose red, blue and green. From all appearances, Spanky liked all three colors equally.

Step 3 – Then, Spanky was only shown the red and green M&Ms. Spanky chose the green one.

Step 4 – They showed Spanky the previously-rejected red  M&M and the blue M&M. Spanky chose blue; he rejected the red one again. In a disproportionate number of cases, the monkeys rejected the M&M they had discarded in Step 3. The researchers conclude that this reinforces the monkey’s previous decision. This, in spite of the fact, that he had no preference between the three initially. It turns out that monkeys rationalize their decisions!

Here are three things we take away from this:

  • You’re prone to rationalize. It’s comes naturally!
  • Think about this as you’re making decisions today. Don’t let past decisions unreasonably cloud current choices. You may be factoring in a bias from your prior selections. You’ll make better decisions today, if you’re aware of this inclination.

    For example, we have a friend who failed in business when he was younger. Now, even though he is extremely bright and has gained relevant experience, he won’t even consider going into business again. He (and his family and many friends) are letting his prior experience cloud his current judgment.

  • If you can, rationalize and move on!
  • Time and energy are often wasted second-guessing ourselves. Take a lesson from the monkeys at Yale. Focus on what’s important now, not on what happened yesterday. Time is precious – spend it productively.

    As humans, though, our decisions are often more complex than demonstrated by this study. What do you do when a past decision is affecting your life today?

  • If you must, take action immediately!
  • If a decision from your past is haunting your present, change course. You may need to do some research; do it now – the sooner, the better. Do what’s necessary today to create your dream future.

    Take someone who has racked up a huge credit card debt. He or she should stop using credit cards immediately, find ways to save money, and get a temporary, part-time job if necessary. Rationalizing will only make it worse. Do something about it now!

That’s what we can learn from this barrel of monkeys. Rationalize it if you can. Change it if you must. Either way, move on!

Our quote today is by pastor and speaker, Ralph Washington Sockman.

“Let us not bankrupt our todays by paying interest on the regrets of
yesterday and by borrowing in advance the troubles of tomorrow.”

Get past the monkey business of the past. Make today your day! Tomorrow, we’ll look at some tips for networking your way through the holiday season … and every season. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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