Category Archives: Relationships

The Recipe for Success with Your Partner and Key People

The recipe for BIGG SuccessCatherine Morgan over at the PointAtoPointBTransitions blog recently wrote a great post about using your “lens” in your decision making process.

When evaluating opportunities, she encourages us to use our “lens” to find the right fit and to filter out those that aren’t.

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Catherine provides a couple of examples: A client who is using his lens to evaluate his next career step and a solopreneur who is using her lens to find companies with the budget for her core services.

Our lenses

We thought we’d share our lenses with you because it will help illustrate the recipe for success in your relationships.

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Mary-Lynn FosterI look for win/win and have the courage to walk away when that doesn’t end up in the equation. I take time to consider the opportunity. I weigh out the good and the bad. I’m careful to not inject “good” where it isn’t simply because I want it to be there. I’m equally cautious to not put something in the “bad” column because it takes me out of my comfort zone. In the end, my decision is based on what is right for me, and I’ve learned this through past decisions that were both correct & incorrect.

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George Krueger I’ve learned the hard way that I’m terribly optimistic. So I look at the downside of opportunities. The faster I can get to “No”, the better. If the risk can’t be reduced to an acceptable level, I pass. If the risk is tolerable, then I weigh it against the financial and non-monetary rewards.

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The power of different lenses

Mary-Lynn FosterSo, we both see opportunity through very different lenses. You can see I bring more emotion into it, while George is highly logical.

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So you might think the two of us would have a challenge coming together when we’re making decisions as a married couple or as partners in BIGG Success.

But the opposite is actually true. The two approaches help us make better decisions.

They’re part of the recipe for success with your partner and other key people in your life. And that’s the point we want to make today.

In your quest for BIGG success, you need to align yourself with people who approach challenges and opportunities from a different mindset.

But you can’t leave these critical ingredients out…

Now, we hasten to add – you need a shared vision and values with these key people in your life and your business. Otherwise, it won’t work.

But once you have that foundation to build upon, differences create more value.

Now, it can lead to some pretty spirited discussions. Arguments even!

But healthy ones at that. As long as you add one more vital ingredient to this recipe for success – respect.

You have to respect where the other person is coming from and what they’re saying even if you don’t agree.

So mix a little respect with a shared vision and values and then spice it up with some differences. It’s the recipe for BIGG success!

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Love is a Full Contact Sport

Love Like A Black Belt Book Cover | BIGG SuccessIf you’re a long-time reader, you know that we’re partners in life and in business. And we still love each other!

This arrangement doesn’t work for everyone, but it does work for us. And that’s what matters!

One of our weaknesses is that, because we are so passionate about what we do, we often put the business first.

You may not relate to that. But how about this one: Some couples struggle for “together time” because they put their kids first.

If we don’t take time to nurture our relationships, the strong foundation will crack and everything will crumble.

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Dr. Jackie Black, author of Meeting Your Match and Couples & Money has teamed up with Jim Bouchard, author of Think Like a Black Belt and Black Belt Power for Everyday People for their soon to be released book
Love Like a Black Belt: Cracking the Code to be a Happy Couple.

The book is all about giving you the mindset, philosophy and techniques you need to cultivate a healthy and happy relationship. We were given the opportunity to read a review copy of the book, and visit with Jim & Jackie to offer up some advice just in time for Valentines Day.

Listen to the show to discover:

  • the difference between needs & neediness
  • where intimacy resides
  • what needs are appropriate to ask your partner to meet
  • why the line between needs and wants in not a fine one
  • a Valentine’s Day example of the difference between needs and wants
  • the least self thing you can do in your relationship
  • how knowing your needs and wants is an important component to this unselfish act
  • how this allows you to be more open in your relationship
  • why this makes you a better resource for those around you

We highly recommend this book. Keep an eye out for its release and get more great advice at Love Like A Black Belt.

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