This is the third installment of our five-part Dog Days series. Today we want to talk about relationships. There’s that old saying, “It’s a dog eat dog world.”
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It reminds us of this exchange on Cheers:
Woody: "How's it going Mr. Peterson?"
Norm: "It's a dog eat dog world, Woody, and I'm wearing Milk Bone underwear.”
Dog eat dog is a zero-sum mindset. In order for you to win, the other party has to lose. There may have been times when this mindset worked. If you were in a large city or you sold nationally or worldwide, you may have been able to get away with it.
But the world is getting smaller and smaller.
Man’s best friend
Thanks to the internet, more people are connected with more people. Reputations can be built or destroyed pretty quickly. So it really pays to think win – win.
Be man’s best friend. Build loyalty by being trustworthy. Win friends by being loveable.
Those attitudes win alliances today. Your network is the single biggest asset you can have. The value of your network is the sum total of the value of each and every relationship in it.
Call the dogs off
You build value in relationships by giving. So call the dogs off.
You’re seeing this so much now as more and more people start using new tools like Twitter. They follow you; you follow them back. Then you’re immediately greeted with an auto-generated sales pitch.
As we’ve said before, the problem is they’re not seeing people. They only see dollar signs, but the dollars don’t materialize because people are turned off by the initial communication.
Of course, you can be too laid back in your networking efforts. You have to think highly enough of yourself, and what you do, to promote yourself. If you don’t, why should anyone else promote you?
Find the balance between too passive and too aggressive.
“His bark is worse than his bite”
We’ve all probably heard these famous words uttered by a dog owner. Perhaps you’ve said them yourself.
Is it a problem if we as humans exhibit this behavior as well?
Of course it is! Because we lose credibility if that’s the case.
When you choose to elevate a discussion, you have to be ready to back up your words with actions.
Barking and biting can be tools if they are used carefully. If they aren’t, they’ll come back to bite you (pun intended)!
If you never bark or bite, people may think they can steamroll right over you. On the other hand, you can use these tools too much. Then people avoid you or just brush off the dialog without really listening. They also lose respect for you.
So it’s okay to bark, if you bark occasionally. When you do it occasionally, it makes the communication stand out.
And it’s okay to bite … if you rarely do it. Sometimes you have to confront an aggressor head on. It puts teeth into your words.
Relationships. It’s hard to fully quantify them. They don’t show up on your Balance Sheet. But nonetheless, they are the single biggest asset you have. So build relationships for your bigg success!
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I know from first-hand experience because I used to have a temper. Over time, I learned to control it because I realized it was counter-productive. People don’t respond well to it.
That’s the point. It seems that, in most cases, people either withdraw or they get defensive. Neither one is conducive to productive communication.
