Do you have to give up your beliefs to be a BIGG success?

Yes and no. Let’s tackle the “no” first.

Core beliefs

On a recent post, we asked: Must you sell your soul to be a BIGG success?

Some beliefs are sacrosanct. These core beliefs are part of a dynamic duo.

You need a vision. It is the star toward which you press.

Your core beliefs are your compass. They help you see the boundaries over which you must not cross.

If you do, any success you achieve will have little meaning. You will have lost yourself in your quest for success.

Discovering yourself is BIGG success.

Mistaken beliefs

But beliefs can work against you. These are beliefs you must give up to be a BIGG success.

We’ve all heard it said over and over: Perception is reality.

No it’s not.

The world is not flat. Yet many people said it was. It kept mankind from exploring new worlds for century upon century.

Perception may be reality. Or it may not.

Stated directly, your perception may be wrong. If you want to be a BIGG success, you must always guard against misperception.

You must discover the objective reality.

You will only make the right choices when you aren’t mislead.

You can only make the best decisions when you aren’t misguided.

Yes, your beliefs can work against you. Give up mistaken beliefs to be a BIGG success.

Limiting beliefs

These are really a special form of mistaken beliefs. But they are so pervasive that we felt they deserved a special mention.

Robert Anthony said, “You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.”

Well said.

Do you believe that you can’t get a promotion? You’re right.

Do you believe that you can’t succeed in business? You’re right.

Do you believe you are a loser? You’re right.

Do you believe you’re a winner? You’re right.

Tell your mind what you want it to think. Internalize those thoughts into beliefs. And your mind will begin to find ways to prove you right.

Even if you’re wrong!

Even if you told yourself you couldn’t do it when you could have!

You can achieve everything in your wildest dreams. But you won’t if you believe you can’t. Your mind will work to keep you stuck right where you are.

It’s your choice.

Choose disappointment, defeat and despair.

Choose to lose.

Choose a life of hardship and pain.

Or…

Choose enthusiasm, energy and elation.

Choose to win.

Choose BIGG success!

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Yes, you’re reading it right. Sometimes it pays to do nothing.

Let’s look at two situations where this may be the case.

Hold

As Kenny Rogers sang in The Gambler, “you gotta know when to hold ‘em.”

We’ve witnessed extreme volatility in the stock market. But in spite of that, we’ve held tight.

Research still shows that most people who pull their money out and then put it back in tend to buy high and sell low. It’s the exact opposite of what you want to do.

The same may be true for your business. Right now is probably not the best time to sell. The value of small businesses tend to follow the stock market.

So you might want to hold for now until market prices recover and credit is more generally available. In the meantime, keep making money and improving the business.

Of course, you should always consult with your professional advisors about the specifics of your situation.

Wait

In a go-go-go, gotta-have-it-now world, this may seem like strange advice. But sometimes it pays to wait.

For example, it may pay to wait to start a business. You may have a good idea but the market isn’t there right now.

Or you may want to wait until you gain some relevant experience. Or because you’re almost vested in your company’s retirement plan.

Most things in life aren’t now or never. Wait is a viable option.

Sometimes doing nothing helps you reach BIGG success faster!

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It’s time for another installment of Tutors on TV. We caught a rerun of 3^rd Rock from the Sun the other night. Dick Solomon (played by John Lithgow) was being bullied by a cashier.

She was charging him for crackers. Just him – no one else had to pay for them. Dick was tormented.

Mary Albright (Jane Curtain), his colleague and girlfriend, told him he needed to take a stand. She said:

“You’re giving her power. You have to take control.”

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That’s exactly what he did. And it worked!

To whom are you giving power? Take control!

BIGG success is life on your own terms. It’s about entrepreneuring your life – taking control to design and build the life that fits you perfectly.

You own your life! You’re the entrepreneur in charge of this most valuable enterprise – your life. Entrepreneurs focus on what they can control.

Own your response

You can’t control other people. However, you are in full control of your response to them.

Like Dick, you may run into a bully now and then. Notice how Dick took control back – he accepted his lack of control over the cashier and focused on what he could control – his response.

He owned his response! You always own your response. Sometimes we delegate its management to others. You’ll never feel happiness letting others manage your response. Take control back!

Own your emotions

Dick let the cashier rule. He answered to her. She pulled his strings like a puppeteer.

Mary helped him realize he needed to take control of his emotions. He cut the strings so she had no power over him.

Own your decisions

A lot of decisions are never made. Doesn’t make sense, does it?

Yet it’s true. Dick didn’t actively decide to give the cashier control over him. But it didn’t just happen; he let it happen.

Own your decisions. Be present in the present moment so you can own your emotions and own your response. It leads to BIGG success!

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Because it takes two to tango. We couldn’t do this if it weren’t for you. We thank you so much for all your support.

Bigg success is life on your own terms. It’s two for the price of one here. We feel so fortunate to be able to work together. That’s life on our own terms!

Now on to the topic of today’s post.

There’s a two-step in selecting your partner or partners. We got lucky on this one, even though we had two left feet! It naturally happened for us.

But don’t follow our lead. You probably want to be more intentional. There’s a dichotomy at play – your partnership must be two-faced.

The first face: You and any partner should be like two peas in a pod.
Partners must share the same vision and values or they will constantly be at odds with each other. For example, business partners must agree on whether you’re in business to create current income or to build long-term wealth. Your strategies will be quite different with these two different visions of success.

You also have to share core values. You will face some tough decisions on the path to bigg success. Partners with different core values may respond differently.

The second face: Two heads are better than one.
It’s important to have a shared vision. It’s important to have the same core values. However, if you share too many characteristics, your partnership will likely fail.

You want a partner with complementary skills. If you both have the same talents and strengths, you would probably be better off with a different partner. There won’t be much synergy in your relationship.

You also want a partner with a different point-of-view. You want someone who takes a different approach. Otherwise, neither of you gets a critical review of your ideas. You needlessly waste time and money because your bad ideas don’t get filtered out before you take action on them.

We think these principles apply to any partnership.
You can extend it as far as you want. It may apply to your partner in life, a partner in business, key employees or a joint venture partner on a specific project.
 
The key to building partnerships that aren’t two-dimensional is to understand this dichotomy when you select a partner. It’s critical for creating synergy which multiplies your results more than two-fold.

Get this right and you’ll get two tickets to paradise … partnership paradise, that is. And that’s bigg success!

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Quirks. Call them peculiarities, idiosyncracies, habits, oddities, eccentricities …

Okay, we’ll end our tour of the Thesaurus!

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We all have quirks which, to some extent, make us who we are. But some of them get in the way of our bigg success. There’s way too many to cover in a short post, so we’ll discuss a few quirks that perfectionists sometimes exhibit.

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Ah … perfectionism. I have to admit to falling into this one, but I get it honestly – my Dad was a perfectionist. To this day, I have to fight the urge to get it perfect. It’s too high of a standard for most of the things we do. We’re only human; we need to accept it.

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The Compulsive Cleaning Quirk

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Something that goes along with perfectionism is being obsessive about something. For example – the Compulsive Cleaning Quirk. No one could accuse me of this. Maybe the Compulsive Picking Up for the Cleaning Person quirk!

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We’re told from the time we’re kids that cleanliness is next to godliness. So Compulsive Cleaners clean … and clean … and clean. And they pick up … and pick up … and pick up. Obviously, clean and tidy are good things but there are limits. This quirk sweeps away your valuable time.

The Infomaniac Quirk

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This is a quirk I constantly fight. It’s the need to have all the information before you get started. News flash – it’s impossible! There’s just too much information available. There are too many options these days. This quirk deletes your productive time.

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The Minutiae Quirk

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People who fall into this trap get caught up in all the little details and lose sight of the bigg picture. It’s important not to get mired down in the bits and pieces and lose track of the cohesive whole. This quirk turns your activities into trivial pursuits.

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Perfectionism can hurt our productivity. So when you feel your quirkiness coming out, here are some little things that make a bigg difference:

Strive for excellence, not perfection.

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Perfectionists aren’t going to settle for anything less than stellar. You will still put out a high quality product or service, but remind yourself that you don’t have to get it perfect.

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Even though my Dad was a perfectionist, he had this saying, “It’s good enough for who it’s for.” Of course, he usually said this when he was working on a project for himself! Remind yourself that sometimes good enough is good enough.

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Know when to say “when”

Give yourself a deadline – be it thirty minutes or thirty days – to accomplish something. This will help you focus on moving ahead without getting caught up in trying to make something perfect.

Make a decision

Take comfort in the amount of information you have. Remind yourself that you can adapt as new information hits your radar.

Remind yourself that “the devil is in the details” but the destination is the direction. Don’t just begin with the end in mind as Stephen Covey taught us; keep the end in mind. Everything should move you closer to your destination.

A law and a question

The law of diminishing returns underlies this whole discussion. You reach a point where it’s just not worth your time to do anymore.

So how do you know when you’ve reached that point? Ask yourself about materiality.

If you press on, what material difference will you make to the finished product?

If it’s material, press on. If not, move on. It’s a key to bigg success.

Have you battled perfectionism? What have you done to get past it? Share that with us by leaving a comment below, calling us at 888.455.BIGG (2444) or e-mailing us at bigginfo@biggsuccess.com.

We think it’s just perfect that you read our post today. Thank you so much!

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Frank Sinatra did it “his way.” Please join us next time when we’ll talk about why Frank wouldn’t make it today. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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