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10 Sure Ways to Sabotage Your Success

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When it comes to BIGG success, the good news is you only have to get it right once.

But there are some obvious ways to sabotage your success – both before and after – you’ve achieved it.

We’ll share ten of them today:

1) Sabotage your success by expending energy needlessly
Your energy is precious. You need all you can muster for your BIGG important things.

We call those BITs. BITs are tasks and projects which lead to your ultimate goal. Everything else is a needless expenditure of energy.

2) Take unnecessary risk and you’re sure to sabotage your success
The most successful entrepreneurs are not risk lovers. They are incredible risk managers.

Don’t take any risk you don’t absolutely have to. Find a way to mitigate it or eliminate it altogether. Then you can move forward with no fear of loss.

3) You sabotage your success when you allow yourself to get distracted
Time management is great. But even more important today is attention management. Find your focus and stay focused on it.

4) Don’t stay disciplined and you’ll sabotage your success
How well you do at work has a lot to do with what you do or don’t do after work. Temptations will always be there. They’re fun.

But you have to keep your end goal in mind. The price of BIGG success may be to say “no” to things you would love to say “yes” to.

5) You’ll sabotage your success if you worry about yesterday or tomorrow, but not today
Don’t waste a single second on what you wished you had done yesterday. And ditto for tomorrow.

Focus exclusively on today – it’s a fleeting opportunity to make a BIGG impact.

6) Live on past success and you’ll sabotage your success
Winners become losers because they focus on the last win rather than the next one.

When you win, celebrate for a time. Then focus exclusively on what you need to do to move forward again.

7) You’ll sabotage your success if your confidence turns to cockiness
The difference between the two is a fine line. Success breeds confidence.

It should walk hand-in-hand with humility and gratefulness. Then you’ll have the proper mindset to get to the next level of success.

8) Forget what you don’t know and you’ll sabotage your success
This is closely related to the last point but deserves explicit recognition. It’s easy to get caught up in your success. It’s easy to think you know more than you do.

Keep the proper perspective or you’ll take unnecessary risks. See Point 2.

9) You’ll sabotage your success if you stop being hungry
The best state of mind is happy, but not content. Stay hungry.

No matter how much success you achieve, put yourself to the edge so you continue learning.

10) Manage money improperly to sabotage your success
This works two ways – hoard it and you’ll miss out on a whole lot of happiness OR spend it frivolously and risk losing what you worked so hard to build up.

As your wealth grows, invest in professional advisors who can help you make the most of it.

How have you seen people sabotage their success?

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3 Differences Between Passion and Purpose

the BIGG difference between passion and purposeAre purpose and passion the same? Is it just a semantic distinction?

We think not.

Your purpose may flow from your passion or your passion may flow from your purpose. In some cases, the person finds their cause. In other cases, the cause finds the person.

So they are similar, but there are important differences between the two terms.

Passion can be selfish. Purpose can’t.

You can pursue a passion for your own pleasure. It can be purely self indulgent.

[George] I love to sing. But nobody loves to hear it!

Purpose is not selfish. It involves serving others, but it’s not servitude.

It’s feeling joyful about creating joy. It’s about adding value in the lives of others while creating value in your life. It’s win – win.

Passion can be unbridled. Purpose is focused.

Passion is boundless. You can have many passions. You can spend countless hours on them.

Purpose is singular. To fulfill a purpose requires focus. It requires you to choose. But the decision is an easy one when your purpose is compelling.

Passion is what. Purpose is why.

Passion focuses on nouns. What do you love? It’s about the objects of your desires.

Purpose is your motivation, your why. It brings in action so it focuses on verbs. Purpose completes you.

Together, passion and purpose lead to BIGG success!

Do you see any differences between passion and purpose?

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Take Control of Your Life with a Garden Hose

train your mind for BIGG SuccessIf you’re still in bed, you’re not alone!

We know – it sounds funny. But it’s true.

Now before you start looking under the covers, you should know this…

You’re also not alone if you refuse to fly today. Or buy a house.

No, you’re not alone. In fact, you’re one of the 17 to 21 million people – in the United States alone – who are overcome with
fear of Friday the 13th!

This phobia will cost the U.S. economy up to $900 million – just for today. Ouch!

We found these figures in an article on Friday the 13th
on the National Geographic site.

Now, BIGG Success is a community of BIGG goal-getters. So we know you’re not still in bed.

The first step to taking control

But we thought this article was worth bringing to your attention because of a single quote. Dr. Donald Dossey, founder of the Stress Management Center and Phobia Institute, said in describing people facing this phobia:

“They haven’t lost their mind. They’ve lost control of their mind.”

BIGG success is life on your own terms. It’s about taking control of your life. You’ll never take control of your life if you can’t control your thoughts.

So the first step in taking control of your life is: Decide. Choose to control your thoughts. Because one thing is for certain, either you will control your thoughts or your thoughts will control you.

Train your focus

Dr. Dossey continues discussing people with this phobia:

“They are focused in the wrong direction. In their mind they have a big, large, looming picture of something horrible that could happen.”

As a BIGG goal-getter, you may not see doom-and-gloom on the horizon. But do you still see BIGG success?

You must – it’s a prerequisite for reaching it. You’ll never touch something you can’t see. The dream is intangible until you make it tangible. And while the dream is still intangible, you still have to find a way to keep your faith and stay the course.

To do that, you must take control of your mind. To take control of your mind, you have to train your focus.

Your focus is like a garden hose

Train your focus? Yes. Train it.

Have you ever tried to roll up a new garden hose? The first time you take it out, it seems to have a mind of its own when you try to roll it up.

If you carefully roll it up in a neat loop, you have trained it once. The next time out, it will be a little easier. The time after that, it will be even easier.

Time after time, you train the garden hose to roll up the way you want it to. Before long, it’s easy to make it do what you want. It naturally goes in the direction you want.

Of course, the opposite is also true. Every time you let it have its way, it becomes more difficult. A garden hose can be stubborn.

So can your mind. You have to train it to go in the right direction. This training is not a one-off event. It’s something you have to do every single day.

The cycle of BIGG success

We know…we know – it’s easy to say “train your mind.” But it is anything but easy to do. We know because we’ve been there.

You will feel so beaten down at times. Keep the faith, train your focus, and stay the course!

You may feel like it will never happen. Keep the faith, train your focus, and stay the course!

You must pay a price to reach BIGG success. It’s usually not paid with money. You pay with your energy and your emotions.

Training your focus is the critical bridge between keeping the faith and staying the course. Without it, you won’t reach the BIGG success you’ve always wanted. You won’t live up to your full potential. You won’t live your dream.

We think that’s a much higher price. We’ll close with one more quote from Dr. Dossey. He describes the cycle of success:

“What you think about, you begin to feel. What you feel generates what you do. And what you do creates how you will become.”

Keep the faith, train your focus, and stay the course. It leads to BIGG success!

How do you train your focus?

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Focus 3 Ways and Be a Success Today

focus | BIGG SuccessHere’s a powerful saying we often say out loud to enforce the need for change:

If I continue to do what I have always done, then the best I can expect is what I already have.

One of the biggest challenges in reaching BIGG success is changing how you think.

Because your results follow your focus.

The direction of your focus

You can focus on what you don’t have. And your mind will go to work to keep you right where you are.

You can focus on past failures. Your mind will help you get more of the same.

You can focus on what you want to have. Your mind will go to work to help you get it.

You can focus up or focus down. Your results will follow.

The object of your focus

BIGG success is life on your own terms. Once you have your vision of the life that fits you perfectly, you focus must shift to a new object – your next milestone.

But that may be too much for your mind to wrap itself around. So focus on the activities you must do today move you toward your next milestone.

The milestone after that doesn’t matter at this point. Your end goal only matters to the extent it keeps you motivated.

Put all of your focus and energy solely on reaching your next milestone. The results you want will follow.

The timing of your focus

We just alluded to this, but it deserves special attention. Your focus shouldn’t be too far into the future.

The world is much too uncertain. You know where you want to go. You just can’t tell how you will get there.

So focus on the short run. Focus on today.

What actions must you undertake today to reach your next milestone? Focus on getting them done. The results you want will follow.

When you get your focus right, you can be a BIGG success every day!

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The 3 Rs of Bigg Success – Part 2

Back-to-SchoolIt’s Back-to-School time and we’re in the middle of a ten-part series on lifelong learning. We’ve talked about the 3 R’s we learned in school and how they apply to our lives now.

Last time, we started the 3 R’s of bigg success by talking about the 1st R – responsibility. Now we want to talk about the 2nd R – resiliency.

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We always knew how important it was to be resilient. However, the events of the past year or so have highlighted why it’s vital that we are able to bounce back.

One of the things we know for sure is that there will be surprises on the path to bigg success. That’s when you have to dig deep to find your ability to press on.

The difference between a promise and a commitment

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georgeI’m admittedly going back a few years here. I remember a banquet from high school. Our football team had a very successful year. The quote behind the dais said, “Losers make promises, Winners make commitments.” There’s a fine line between those two terms.

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marylynnPromises are a declaration of what you will do. We’re told to keep our promises. Of course, we should. But that quote, George, highlights how you keep promises. You make a commitment to make them so.

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When you do that, you have an emotional stake in the promise. You’re not just saying it. You will do it one way or another.

That’s the bigg goal-getters mindset. That’s the mindset of people who will reach bigg success in times like the ones we’re living through.

5 ways to become more resilient

Change is occurring at a rate we’ve never seen before. One of the things that we can count on in the future is that things will keep changing.

Resiliency is a critical trait for bigg success. Here are five ways to become more resilient:

  • Develop a will do attitude.

    We used to say “can do” but the term “can” isn’t strong enough. Try this: Say “I can succeed bigg.” Now try it this way: “I will succeed bigg!” Do you see the difference? A will-do mindset empowers you. Believe in yourself completely.

  • Become flexible.

    Rigidity isn’t one of the 3 R’s of bigg success! It works against bigg success these days. Things change quickly, which makes the future difficult to predict. Learn and adapt. It’s critical to bigg success.

  • Develop a problem-solving process.

    Check out our post called SOLVE IT where we map out such a system. And take a note from the Chinese: Put all your problems in a box and pull them out one at a time when you’re ready to deal with them.

  • Summon strength.

    Different people do this in different ways. Your strength may come from inside yourself. It may come from meditation or prayer. It may come from people who care about you. It may come from a combination of all of these. It doesn’t matter where you get it, but find mental, emotional and spiritual strength.

  • Focus.

    Focus on what you can control, not what you can’t. Focus on who you can influence, not who you can’t. Focus on the most important thing you for you to accomplish next for your bigg success.

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Thank you so much for the gift of your time today. Please join us next time as we discuss the 3rd R of bigg success – relationships. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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