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		<title>Why Women and Men Should Not Compete</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Picture a group of adults given a task to perform. Research has shown that, if one adult performs worse than his or her peers on that task, it will result in a loss of self-esteem. Furthermore, that person is likely to perform more poorly on that same task in the future. ___ ___ Now put...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img src="http://biggsuccess.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/gender_symbol.jpg" border="1" alt="gender_symbol" hspace="10" vspace="1" width="155" align="right" />Picture a group of adults given a task to perform. Research has shown that, if one adult performs worse than his or her peers on that task, it will result in a loss of self-esteem. Furthermore, that person is likely to perform more poorly on that same task in the future.
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<p>Now put a group of four- to five-years old kids in the same situation. There is no affect on the child who didn&rsquo;t perform as well as his or her peers.</p>
<p><strong>So what do kids know that we adults have forgotten?</strong><br /> They think they can learn new tricks, they can adapt. We adults think that an old dog can&rsquo;t be taught new tricks!</p>
<p> Kids also think they can try harder next time and make up the difference. Isn&rsquo;t that a healthy attitude? So why don&rsquo;t we think that as adults?</p>
<p> Have we been beat down too many times? Are we too hard on ourselves? Do we want to think that things should come easily for us?</p>
<p> Life will throw you curve bills. On the path to bigg success, there will be times when you try and you don&rsquo;t succeed. It&rsquo;s important to learn from your mistakes, but we often learn the wrong lesson.</p>
<p> Learn. Adapt. Then double your efforts.</p>
<p> <strong>Don&rsquo;t compete with the opposite sex</strong><br /> A more recent study at the University of Michigan showed that <a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/127619.php" target="_blank" title="MedicalNewsToday.com: Social Comparison In Early Childhood Explored In New Study">kids can be affected by competition</a>. Little girls respond negatively if a little boy does better on a task. Little boys respond likewise &ndash; there&rsquo;s a damaging impact if a little girl does better.</p>
<p> So what can we conclude? Should we learn that women shouldn&rsquo;t try to compete with men? Or that men shouldn&rsquo;t try to compete with women?</p>
<p> <strong>See them as a role model, not competition</strong><br /> There will almost certainly always be somebody better. If not, maybe a good dose of humility is in order! But rather than comparing yourself to that person and getting discouraged, look at that person as a role model.</p>
<p> You are where you are. They are where you want to be. See what you can learn from them so you get to where they are.</p>
<p> Chances are they got started earlier. Chances are they&rsquo;ve put more time in. Chances are they&rsquo;ve gotten a few lucky breaks &ndash; the kind of luck that comes to people who put themselves out there and take calculated risks.</p>
<p> So don&rsquo;t see them as competition; look at them as a role model.<br /> <strong><br /> Don&rsquo;t compete with others at all</strong><br /> But there&rsquo;s a higher order &ndash; a higher level of consciousness regarding comparisons. Here it is:</p>
<p> Don&rsquo;t compete with anyone else &ndash; man, woman or beast!</p>
<p> Compete with yourself.</p>
<p> Find that thing you at which you excel. Then strive to improve a little bit every day &ndash; day after day, the &ldquo;new you&rdquo; competing against the &ldquo;old you&rdquo;.</p>
<p> Focus on making yourself the best competitor you could ever encounter! Have you ever noticed that a great competitor brings out the best in his or her opponents?</p>
<p> Become your own best competitor and you&rsquo;ll be a bigg success!</p>
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