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Artificial Dissemination – 3 Dangers

Written on July 22, 2009 by George Krueger & Mary-Lynn Foster in Personal Growth

lie We value honesty and integrity. We’re taught to tell the truth. Yet when we’re tested in the real world, sometimes we use artificial dissemination.

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A friend of one of our friends lied on his resume. He said he had graduated from college. The company found out that, while he was close, he hadn’t actually done all of the work to earn his degree. They fired him.

That’s one of the dangers of artificial dissemination. It can come back and bite you.

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george My dad used to say, “Son, always tell the truth. Then you won’t have to try to remember what you said.”

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marylynn
I understand his point. One lie often leads to another.

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Have you ever met someone who you came to know better over time? At some point, you realize they’re just full of bull caca. But what comes next is even more amazing …

You realize that they’ve told that old story so many times that they actually think it’s true themselves!

That’s the second danger of artificial dissemination: you start to believe it yourself.

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The next form of artificial dissemination is more subtle. In most cases it’s not an outright lie. It usually doesn’t start out as artificial dissemination.

Instead, it’s a failure to deliver on promises.

This can take two forms:

First, it may result from over-promising. Hyperbole, even (think Snagglepuss)!

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marylynn It’s important to be excited about what you do, but sometimes in our excitement … we overstate how well we do it!

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george Or we over-commit. And I know whereof I speak. I came by this one honestly because my Dad was the same way. Do you ever think you’ve suddenly been turned into some sort of super human who can do way more than you, the human, can actually get done? You stuff your schedule full and then … oh,oh … there’s no way you’re going to get it all done.

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It’s an honest mistake, but it has the same result. Artificial dissemination.

Second, we may not follow up. There are a number of reasons this may happen. It may be what we just said … we over-committed upfront.

It could be that we’re not organized. We need to record the promises we make. Then we need to schedule whatever actions are necessary to follow-up within the time we promised. We need a system!

Because without a system, we forget. Or we never get around to doing the things needed to deliver on our promise. And the result is the same …

It’s the third danger of artificial dissemination: people stop trusting you.

We’ll stop here for now … please join us next time when we’ll look at the other side of artificial dissemination. And this may surprise you. We’ll tell you how to use it as a tool for your bigg success!

Thank you so much for checking in with us today. We really appreciate it and that’s no lie! Until next time, here’s to your bigg success!

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Network Like a Cat

Written on July 17, 2009 by George Krueger & Mary-Lynn Foster in Networking

cat Bigg success is life on your own terms. Our focus today is work, one of the five elements of bigg success.

You may have heard about this. As cat-lovers, we found it fascinating. Researchers have identified a special purr – they call it the “solicitation purr” – which cats use to get attention.

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The researchers say the solicitation purr is a combination of a regular purr and a sound that resembles a crying baby. While cats purr with each other, it appears they really ramp up their solicitation purring when they communicate with us humans to get our attention.

Almost all the people who listened to cats purring identified the solicitation purr as more urgent. So we have trouble resisting it.

It made us think about networking. We’ll talk about the three networking cats:

The cat that meows

As soon as you meet them, whether in the real world or online, they pounce. They’re in your face making as much noise as they can. They want your attention and they want it now!

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george I remember getting a friend request in Facebook. I accepted. The next thing I knew, my new friend sent me a message that said, “George, do you have any health problems?” It turns out he was involved with a business that sold a product to improve your health. But isn’t that a strange way to greet a new friend?

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marylynn Yet we see it all the time. I think it happens more with social networking. For some reason, it’s as if people don’t think they’re communicating with another person. They think they’re communicating with an object – a picture or a computer. But there’s a real person there.

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Being too aggressive too quickly may occasionally produce results. But most of the time, we avoid these cats. If we do encounter them, we get away as quickly as we can.

The cat that purrs

These cats sit around purring, mostly keeping to themselves. They’re content to let people come to them. They don’t make an effort to meet new people or to extend their social circles.

Because they’re so content just living in their own world, these cats miss out on a lot of opportunities because they don’t expand their network or it expands very slowly.

The cat with the solicitation purr

These cats want attention but they’ve learned there is a better way to get it than meowing. They’ve also learned that their regular purr doesn’t get results either. So they’ve evolved by creating a new purr. It has a sense of urgency along with a sense of calm.

Think about attraction, not the law of attraction but what attracts one person to another. People aren’t attracted to people who seem desperate. This is true in romantic encounters, but it’s also the case for professional encounters.

However, people also aren’t attracted to people who seem aloof. Cats who just sit around purring may be perceived as snobbish.

So evolve. Be the cat with the solicitation purr. Exhibit calm and urgency at the same time and you’ll network your way to bigg success.

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