The 3 Rs of Bigg Success – Part 3

Back-to-SchoolIt’s Back-to-School time and we’re in the middle of a ten-part series on lifelong learning. We started by talking about the 3 R’s from our school days – reading, writing and arithmetic. Now we’re talking about the 3 R’s of bigg success.

So far we’ve discussed two of them – responsibility and resiliency. Today we’ll chat about the 3rd R of bigg success – relationships.




We are living in the age of interdependence. It’s amazing how much can be accomplished by working together.

It all starts with a relationship. We’re moving forward by jumping back. Relationships have always been important. Now it’s possible for any of us to build a worldwide network of relationships for work and play!

The value of your network

The single greatest asset you can possess today is your network. It will never show up on a Balance Sheet. It’s really difficult to put a hard number to it. But its value shows up when you need to accomplish something.

Are you able to reach out to the people in your network to get it done?
How many people are between you and the person you need to talk to?
How quickly were you able to get it done?
How long it would take a person without your network?

These are the signs of value in your network. Of course, the value of a single relationship can be thought of as the amount of goodwill you have with a person.

So the value of your network is simply the sum of those individual amounts.

6 ways to build up your Goodwill account

You are the entrepreneur of your life. As the entrepreneur, you want to build value. So here are 6 tips to build goodwill in your network, one relationship at a time.

  • Listen attentively.

The more interested you are in another person, the more interesting you’ll be to them. The more impressed you are by them, the more impressed they’ll be with you.

Isn’t that ironic? By making them feel important, you’ll be important to them.

So listen. Really listen.

If you’re communicating face-to-face, put any and all mobile devices away. Act as if there is no bigger fish with whom you might want to converse. Look them in the eye. Really pay attention with all of your attention.

You don’t have to do it for hours. You can excuse yourself. But while you’re talking with them, make it all about them.

Once you get this one down, the rest are easy.

  • Be genuine.

You probably immediately see how this dovetails with our first tip. People can spot a fake quickly.

Sincerely value them. The only way we know to show them that you sincerely value them is to actually sincerely value them!

As a human being.

Not a connection. Not a contact. Not a sale. Not a prospect. Not a means to an end.

As a real person with feelings and dreams and fears. As a person with whom you relate on a personal basis.

  • Understand what bigg success means to them.

This won’t be your first question. But if you are going to build a relationship, it’s important to determine what they are trying to accomplish.

What does life on your own terms mean to them?

It’s unlikely that you will ever utter those words directly. You will uncover this by listening attentively. There’s Tip 1 again!

When you discover what they are trying to do, you can look for ways to help them.

  • Help is a two-way street.

As you uncover the layers that exist, you will be able to share your knowledge, resources and network with them. By doing so, you become a valuable part of their network.

But it has to be a two-way street. If they never reciprocate, then you don’t have a relationship.

You have a feudal system. You’re not their servant. They should be looking for ways to help you too.

  • Show your appreciation.

One of the most powerful sentences you can utter is “Thank you”.

When they share their knowledge with you, thank them. When they provide a resource, thank them. When they connect you with someone in their network, thank them. Also follow up to let them know how it turned out.

  • Be patient. 


georgeI’ve had friends for years who were just that – friends. Sure, we may have done some business with each other, but nothing of any significance. Then suddenly an opportunity presents itself and they become a vital partner. You just never know.



marylynnSo maintain your existing relationships. Build new relationships. It’s likely that the time will come when you will be able to work together in a mutually beneficial way.


Until then, have some fun and enjoy the friendship! Life comes down to relationships and experiences. Build relationships and you’ll be a bigg success!


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The 3 Rs of Bigg Success – Part 2

Back-to-SchoolIt’s Back-to-School time and we’re in the middle of a ten-part series on lifelong learning. We’ve talked about the 3 R’s we learned in school and how they apply to our lives now.

Last time, we started the 3 R’s of bigg success by talking about the 1st R – responsibility. Now we want to talk about the 2nd R – resiliency.




We always knew how important it was to be resilient. However, the events of the past year or so have highlighted why it’s vital that we are able to bounce back.

One of the things we know for sure is that there will be surprises on the path to bigg success. That’s when you have to dig deep to find your ability to press on.

The difference between a promise and a commitment


georgeI’m admittedly going back a few years here. I remember a banquet from high school. Our football team had a very successful year. The quote behind the dais said, “Losers make promises, Winners make commitments.” There’s a fine line between those two terms.



marylynnPromises are a declaration of what you will do. We’re told to keep our promises. Of course, we should. But that quote, George, highlights how you keep promises. You make a commitment to make them so.


When you do that, you have an emotional stake in the promise. You’re not just saying it. You will do it one way or another.

That’s the bigg goal-getters mindset. That’s the mindset of people who will reach bigg success in times like the ones we’re living through.

5 ways to become more resilient

Change is occurring at a rate we’ve never seen before. One of the things that we can count on in the future is that things will keep changing.

Resiliency is a critical trait for bigg success. Here are five ways to become more resilient:

  • Develop a will do attitude.

    We used to say “can do” but the term “can” isn’t strong enough. Try this: Say “I can succeed bigg.” Now try it this way: “I will succeed bigg!” Do you see the difference? A will-do mindset empowers you. Believe in yourself completely.

  • Become flexible.

    Rigidity isn’t one of the 3 R’s of bigg success! It works against bigg success these days. Things change quickly, which makes the future difficult to predict. Learn and adapt. It’s critical to bigg success.

  • Develop a problem-solving process.

    Check out our post called SOLVE IT where we map out such a system. And take a note from the Chinese: Put all your problems in a box and pull them out one at a time when you’re ready to deal with them.

  • Summon strength.

    Different people do this in different ways. Your strength may come from inside yourself. It may come from meditation or prayer. It may come from people who care about you. It may come from a combination of all of these. It doesn’t matter where you get it, but find mental, emotional and spiritual strength.

  • Focus.

    Focus on what you can control, not what you can’t. Focus on who you can influence, not who you can’t. Focus on the most important thing you for you to accomplish next for your bigg success.


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Thank you so much for the gift of your time today. Please join us next time as we discuss the 3rd R of bigg success – relationships. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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The 3 Rs of Bigg Success – Part 1

Back-to-SchoolToday we continue our series of ten shows on lifelong learning for Back-to-School time. We’ve just wrapped up three shows where we talked about the 3 R’s we’re all familiar with from our school days – reading and writing and arithmetic.




Now we want to move beyond school. We’ll talk about the 3 R’s of bigg success – responsibility, resiliency and relationships.

It starts with you

Have you ever noticed that the 3 R’s from school are two-thirds communication and one-third mathematical? We’re so happy about that!

While math is obviously very important, communication is critical.

Similarly, the 3 R’s of bigg success are two-thirds internal and one-third external.

Relationships are incredibly important, but if a person doesn’t have the right mindset, the relationships won’t be as beneficial to either party.

Loving others starts with loving yourself. Building up others starts with building up yourself.

Now let’s focus on the first of the 3 R’s of bigg success – responsibility.

You’re not Charles, but you’re still in charge

You are the entrepreneur of your life. You are in charge.

You and you alone are responsible for driving yourself to your chosen destination.

Notice that we said you are in charge. We didn’t say you’re in control. Bigg success is life on your own terms. And we chose our terms carefully.

You are in control of most things that happen in your life. In fact, you have to make them happen or they won’t happen. You create your destiny.

A duplicitous life

You vividly imagine the life you want. You put yourself there every day. You live a duplicitous life. You live in two worlds at the same time.

You physically live in your present world every day and you make the most of it. But you also mentally live in the future world that you are creating for yourself.

By simultaneously living in these two worlds, you discover ways to move your present world to your future world. You determine what it will take to make your mental image your physical reality.

As you determine how to bridge that gap, you take action today to move toward that future world of your dreams.

A choice to make

On the path to your destiny, things won’t always go your way. When they don’t, you have a choice to make.

  • You can push responsibility away.

You can make excuses. “I’m not smart enough.” “I’m not educated enough.” “I don’t know the right people.”

You can blame circumstances. It’s the economy. It’s the competition. It’s the market.

You can blame others. Things would be different if it weren’t for your co-workers. Or your boss. Or your parents. It’s someone’s, anyone’s, fault, but it’s not your responsibility.

If you choose this route, there’s one thing that almost certainly won’t happen in your life – you won’t reach the bigg success of your dreams.

  • Instead of pushing responsibility away, you can embrace it.

You can hold yourself accountable. Sure, things may not have gone your way. But you’re going to make them go your way moving forward.

As Stephen Covey said, responsible means being response-able. You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond.

You can choose to make lemonade from the lemons. Lemonade anyone?


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Thank you so much for reading our post today. Please join us next time when we talk about the second R of bigg success – resiliency. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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