Today we continue our series of ten shows on lifelong learning for Back-to-School time. We’ve just wrapped up three shows where we talked about the 3 R’s we’re all familiar with from our school days – reading and writing and arithmetic.
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Now we want to move beyond school. We’ll talk about the 3 R’s of bigg success – responsibility, resiliency and relationships.
It starts with you
Have you ever noticed that the 3 R’s from school are two-thirds communication and one-third mathematical? We’re so happy about that!
While math is obviously very important, communication is critical.
Similarly, the 3 R’s of bigg success are two-thirds internal and one-third external.
Relationships are incredibly important, but if a person doesn’t have the right mindset, the relationships won’t be as beneficial to either party.
Loving others starts with loving yourself. Building up others starts with building up yourself.
Now let’s focus on the first of the 3 R’s of bigg success – responsibility.
You’re not Charles, but you’re still in charge
You are the entrepreneur of your life. You are in charge.
You and you alone are responsible for driving yourself to your chosen destination.
Notice that we said you are in charge. We didn’t say you’re in control. Bigg success is life on your own terms. And we chose our terms carefully.
You are in control of most things that happen in your life. In fact, you have to make them happen or they won’t happen. You create your destiny.
A duplicitous life
You vividly imagine the life you want. You put yourself there every day. You live a duplicitous life. You live in two worlds at the same time.
You physically live in your present world every day and you make the most of it. But you also mentally live in the future world that you are creating for yourself.
By simultaneously living in these two worlds, you discover ways to move your present world to your future world. You determine what it will take to make your mental image your physical reality.
As you determine how to bridge that gap, you take action today to move toward that future world of your dreams.
A choice to make
On the path to your destiny, things won’t always go your way. When they don’t, you have a choice to make.
- You can push responsibility away.
You can make excuses. “I’m not smart enough.” “I’m not educated enough.” “I don’t know the right people.”
You can blame circumstances. It’s the economy. It’s the competition. It’s the market.
You can blame others. Things would be different if it weren’t for your co-workers. Or your boss. Or your parents. It’s someone’s, anyone’s, fault, but it’s not your responsibility.
If you choose this route, there’s one thing that almost certainly won’t happen in your life – you won’t reach the bigg success of your dreams.
- Instead of pushing responsibility away, you can embrace it.
You can hold yourself accountable. Sure, things may not have gone your way. But you’re going to make them go your way moving forward.
As Stephen Covey said, responsible means being response-able. You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond.
You can choose to make lemonade from the lemons. Lemonade anyone?
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Thank you so much for reading our post today. Please join us next time when we talk about the second R of bigg success – resiliency. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!
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