What do you do when things don’t go your way? You may feel discouraged. The events of life may just sap your strength of spirit. You lose your mojo!
It’s hard to live your life on your own terms when you’re feeling down, but it’s only natural for us humans to have down days.
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One cause of this is what we call If – Only Syndrome.
If only I had finished college.
If only I got a different degree.
If only I had taken that job.
If only I hadn’t quit that job.
If I had only done this instead of that, my life would be so different.
If only. If only. If only.
It’s easy to do. We start to beat ourselves up. We may even feel sorry for ourselves and mope a little.
As with many things, the right thing to do isn’t the easy thing to do.
Fighting these urges is hard.
Getting past the past is hard.
Lifting ourselves up is hard.
Fighting our natural urges is hard.
Focus matters
We get trapped on what might have been. What might have been doesn’t matter at all.
What does matter is what is and what can be.
You can be a bigg success. You can live your life on your own terms starting today.
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I struggled with this when I was younger. I dropped out of college. I went on to start three businesses. But every time things got a little rough, I would beat myself up for not getting a degree. I thought that if I just had that degree, I wouldn’t have these problems. But I was wrong!
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The prescription for If – Only Syndrome comes in two parts. The first part of the cure is a healthy dose of …
So what?
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To continue with George’s example, say you didn’t get a college degree. So what? How many people have succeeded bigg without a college degree?
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We don’t mean to diminish the importance of a good education. It does open up opportunities that may not be open otherwise. But it’s just one factor.
What about your experiences? They are irreplaceable.
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Now along with a healthy dose of “So what”, drink a little …
What can be?
Sticking with the college degree example, why don’t you get one now if it’s that important to you?
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That’s what I did; I went back to school. It’s not a path I would recommend. It was hard! I still had my three businesses, but I did go back and get a degree. It’s interesting … I then went on to get an advanced degree because I didn’t think I would ever go back to school again. Had I gone the traditional path, I doubt I would have ever gotten that advanced degree.
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What can be for you?
How can you make it happen? How will you find the time? How will you pay for it?
When you begin to focus on the actions necessary to move to where you want to be, you’ll feel energized. You’ll feel hope instead of discouragement.
What do you do when you feel discouraged?
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