We received an e-mail from Christina who was one of a number of people let go in a corporate downsizing. She’s feeling a mix of emotions right now. She gave 100 percent to her employer and was identified in the community by her job. She’s having a hard time and wondered if we might be able to offer some tips to get through this.
We’re so sorry to hear about your situation, Christina. It’s natural to feel a roller-coaster of emotions immediately after a dismissal. So how do you deal with it?
Find a way to mentally escape for a bit.
One way to do this is to turn to music. On the show, Mary-Lynn shared some favorites:
- Ramble On (Led Zeppelin)
- Freefallin’ (Tom Petty)
- Cool Change (The Little River Band)
- Don’t Give Up (Peter Gabriel)
- Roll With the Changes (REO Speedwagon)
It’s a grieving process
You’re going through a grieving process, Christina. Sounds strange, doesn’t it? But that’s what it is – you’re grieving the “death” of your job.
In her book, On Death and Dying, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross identified the five stages of grief:
We’re sure you can relate to some, or all, of these. It’s only natural. Allow yourself to be human and give yourself permission to ride this emotional roller-coaster.
You may go through the stages sequentially, but it’s more likely that you’ll jump around. Let yourself go through it. Grieving is a process. You won’t be over this loss overnight so don’t set unrealistic expectations for yourself.
Talk to people who care about you. And seek professional help if you think it will help.
The good news is … you can replace your job! It may not be easy. It may not come quickly. But you can do it!
So when you’re ready, start planning to move on. Picture yourself in your new job. Maybe you envision a career change. Or a business of your own. Develop a plan to get what you want.
Perhaps you’ll need some more education. You may need to get some experience first. Your plan can factor in all of these things.
You may still be grieving, but you’ll likely reach the acceptance stage faster if you focus on your future, instead of the past. Then do something about it. Try to do something every day that moves you toward your new life.
Sometimes what seemed like a bad thing turns out to be a blessing. Many people have found their passion when they were forced to do so. Maybe you’ll be the next one!
Our thoughts are with you, Christina. E-mail us anytime to let us know how you’re doing.
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Our bigg quote today comes from Kenji Miyazawa:
And as Journey would say … Don’t Stop Believin’
Next time, we’ll talk give out 100 tips to succeed bigg. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!