The Three Grand Essentials of Happiness

happy_puzzleWe did another installment of Tutors on TV on the show today. Here’s a summary of the conversation:

Today we’re going to talk about the new TV show, Men of a Certain Age.




georgeI think I can speak with authority about Men of a Certain Age because I’m a man of that certain age to which they’re referring!



marylynnWe are bigg fans of this show. In case you haven’t seen it yet, it’s centered around three friends in their late forties. It stars Ray Romano of Everybody Loves Raymond fame, Scott Bakula best known for Quantum Leap and Andre Braugher from the movie Glory and the TV series Homicide: Life on the Streets.


They recently wrapped up their first season. The three friends gather together and Scott Bakula’s character is going through a crisis.

He feels like his life is meaningless.

His career is in shambles.

He has no family.

He feels like he’s wasted thirty years.

Ray Ramano’s character brings up a quote from Joseph Addison:

“The three grand essentials of happiness are something to do, something to love and something to hope for.”


Carol Lynn Pearson said, “Happiness doesn’t come from doing what we like to do, but from liking what we have to do.”

You hear a lot of talk about pursuing your passion these days. We bring it up here at Bigg Success fairly frequently. Passion has its place.

But even when you’re doing what you love, there are parts of it that are tedious. Do it – to the best of your ability – and you’ll be happy.

Our friend Jim Bouchard, who has a great new book that’s about to be released called Think Like a Black Belt, says: “It’s simple but not easy.”

Have you ever noticed that you get the most satisfaction from an achievement that wasn’t easy?

If it’s easy, we take it for granted.

When we have to put our blood, sweat and tears into it, we relish in the accomplishment.

So treasure the price you have to pay for bigg success and bigg success will be that much sweeter!


G.W. Von Leibnitz said: “To love is to place our happiness in the happiness of another.”

There are two ways to take that quote:

  • You have to love someone in order to be happy.
    We disagree with that. That’s the myth that Hollywood puts out there.

Jesus said, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” In order to truly love someone else, you have to love yourself first.

  • Love means making someone else happy so you will be happy.
    Love is a verb. It implies action.

And it’s also very entrepreneurial. Successful entrepreneurs focus on making their customers happy by helping them solve a problem. Then the entrepreneur will be rewarded; the entrepreneur will be happy.

Bigg success is about entrepreneuring your life. That’s the tie-in.


Dale Carnegie said, “It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.”

Isn’t that powerful?

Do you think you will be a failure? You’re right.

Do you think you will be a bigg success? You will be!

Thinking alone won’t get your there. But hope is part of the foundation of your future success. You can be happy today because you think you will be successful tomorrow.

So happiness is not an external event.
It is an internal condition resulting from choices.

Choose action rather than inaction.

Choose affection rather than apathy.

Choose to dream rather than despair.

The great Ben Franklin said:  “The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.” (*UPDATE: See comment & correction below).

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5 replies
    • George & Mary-Lynn
      George & Mary-Lynn says:

      Nick, Wow, you really break it down. Just finished reading your post and attempt to define it. We really like the “Happiness Question” and “Happiness Scale.” You’ve taken an interesting approach for sure. We are also happy to have learned about your blog! Thanks for taking time to visit ours and comment :)

  1. Cory
    Cory says:

    RE: Ben Franklin
    “The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.”

    Ben Franklin never said that.

    First, he would never have said the Constitution “gives people the right”.

    The Constitution confers no rights, it was written to protect the pre-existing rights of
    the People from infringement by the federal union that the Constitution regulates.

    Second, the Constitution says nothing about pursuing happiness, that’s in the
    Declaration of Independence of which Franklin was a signer.

    Joy and abundance,


    • George Krueger & Mary-Lynn Foster
      George Krueger & Mary-Lynn Foster says:

      Thanks so much for pointing out our error. We always cross-check quotes through several sources to attribute them correctly. (In fact, we did it again as a result of your e-mail.) We found this quote often misapplied. We also found sources supporting your assertion. And to add to the egg on our face, we didn’t slow down long enough to think of the point you make about the Constitution vs Declaration of Independence!


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  1. […] Happiness also depends on what we talk with our friends about. Are we always talking of our own life or do we also listen to them. Listening is the best way to make friends happy. Listen and do it carefully. No pretensions. Your friends will be happy that someone heard them out without interruption. You will also be making your friendship stronger. Listening is very good. […]

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