Is Jealousy the Secret of Success?
How do you feel when someone you know suddenly achieves BIGG success?
As humans, it’s not unnatural to compare your progress to others.
It’s a trap…and a tool
Of course, judging yourself by the success of others can be a trap. BIGG success is life on your own terms, after all.
It’s most important to compare yourself to yourself:
How far have you come in the last year?
How different does your future look now compared to then?
If you’ve made meaningful progress, give yourself a pat on the back.
Of course, comparing yourself to others can also be a useful tool. But you must first dispel one term in the question we asked at the beginning – “suddenly”.
Almost no one “suddenly” achieves BIGG success. It takes years of work – hard work, smart work, focused work, etc. – to reach the heights you want.
Okay, you know that. But at times, you may still feel a little twinge of jealousy.
The bad side of jealousy
Most people think jealousy is a bad thing. And it can be…
It is a very bad thing if it causes you to resent the person who succeeded. They may be the very person to help you reach BIGG success. After all, they know how they did it!
It can also serve as a de-motivator. You may find yourself in a downward spiral when you compare yourself to others. You know the drill:
You tell yourself you’re not good enough, you don’t deserve it. You wonder why it was so easy for them. You tell yourself that other people get all the breaks.
You are good enough. You do deserve it. It’s highly likely it was NOT easy for them. They probably MADE their break.
They may have had resources you don’t have. That’s okay. It may take a little longer but your story will be even better. Your BIGG success will be that much sweeter.
The good side of jealousy
The other side of jealousy is inspiration. Some people get inspired without experiencing any jealousy. They feel happy for people who succeed wildly. Good for them.
It’s okay if you feel a little jealous. But it’s not okay to JUST feel a little jealous. It has to light a fire within you! It has to motivate you.
So get off your you-know-what and do something about it! Get inspired! They’ve shown you what YOU can do. So go! Do it!
If you know you haven’t given it everything, then give your all.
If what you’re doing now isn’t getting where you want to go, then do something else.
Keep pushing and before you know it, other people will be jealous of you! Oops, we meant to say inspired.
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Until next time, here’s to your BIGG success!
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