Today, we want to focus on the science of attraction. It’s not often discussed outside the world of romance.
However, we must find our leaders attractive or we won’t follow them. So if you want to be an effective leader, it pays to think about the image you portray.
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Have you ever spent time with someone who was incredibly compelling even though they weren’t particularly good-looking?
However, the way they dressed, styled their hair, and everything else about them made for a very attractive package.
Or let’s turn it around.
Have you ever bought a new outfit that just made you feel like a million bucks?
Well, it’s likely that you exuded confidence whenever you wore those clothes. People were attracted to you because you felt good about yourself.
That’s a good investment!
Talk the talk
According to David Feinberg, a psychologist at McMaster University, the perception that people have of us is affected by both the speed at which we speak as well as the pitch we use.
People think fast talkers are more educated.
They also find people who change their tone as they speak more interesting.
There’s a great way to learn how to do this. When you’re getting ready in the morning, talk to yourself in the mirror.
Tell yourself a story.
Make a presentation.
Engage in casual conversation.
Practice any (and every) situation you may face that day.
You’ll do a much better job of talking with others when you first practice talking to yourself!
Walk the walk
Did your mom ever tell you to stand up straight? It turns out she was right.
We’re more attracted to people with good posture.
And there’s a great way to test your posture. You may have done it as a kid. We must admit that we hadn’t done it since. Until now.
So how do you test your posture? Stand up next to a wall.
Good posture implies a certain sense of self-confidence that we find attractive. We want to follow people who believe in themselves.
Sort of makes sense, doesn’t it? By the way, good posture is also good for your health.
The Eyes of the Beholder
You know the old saying, “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.” But did you know that we’re attracted to people when we like how we look through their eyes?
Flattery, make that sincere flattery, still goes far. If someone sees us as the person we want to be, we like them. A lot.
So compliment people. Not in a “hey, baby, you’re so hot” sort of way. Sincerely. Encourage them.
Most of all listen. Really listen. Not just with your ears, but with your mind and spirit. That’s the best form of flattery of all!
And Deepak Chopra tells us the most important part of the science of attraction. He said:
“The secret of attraction is to love yourself.”
Self-love is the foundation of all love. It leads to BIGG success!
What leadership qualities do you find attractive?
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