In her wonderful book, The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want, Sonja Lyubomirsky tells you how to be happy today.
She shares twelve simple activities to attract happiness. We’ve listed them here for you along with our thoughts on each one.
1) Expressing gratitude
2) Cultivating optimism
We all have a tendency one way or the other. Listen carefully to yourself. If you tend to put a pessimistic spin on things, break the habit. Optimism brings many benefits.
3) Avoiding overthinking and social comparison
Comparing yourself to others will cost you now and in the future. If you stack up favorably, you may get overconfident. You may not push as hard. If others are doing better than you, you may feel disheartened.
Stop looking at others. Look only at your personal and professional progress and take action accordingly.
4) Practicing acts of kindness
When you help people, you help yourself. It’s like a drug. In fact, the term “helper’s high” has been coined to describe the endorphin rush experienced by acts of kindness.
5) Nurturing social relationships
Life comes down to two things: relationships and experiences. Sure, you can experience things alone. Some of the time, you should!
But wouldn’t you rather share your invigorating experiences with people you love? Building relationships is one of the most important activities if you want to reach BIGG success.
6) Developing strategies for coping
The single, biggest difference between people who reach BIGG success and those who don’t is perseverance. Everybody runs full-speed ahead into a wall from time to time. Everyone has bad days.
All of us feel discouraged at times. The most successful find ways to deal with it.
7) Learning to forgive
It’s not easy to forgive someone who has seriously wronged you. It is necessary, however. As long as you don’t forgive them, you hold on to them. You’re stuck in the past.
Move on. Get rid of this mental clutter.
8) Increasing flow experiences
Flow is when you get so caught up in an activity that the world goes into suspension. Time passes without a care. You are completely immersed in the task at hand.
If you can’t find this flow in your work, get a hobby. In fact, get a hobby anyway. It’s what the most successful people do.
9) Savoring life’s joys
While this one is closely related to the first one, there is a reason to include it separately. It emphasizes the importance of moving out of the complex world to see things more simply. It will help you rediscover your creativity!
10) Committing to your goals
Losers make promises; winners make commitments. We discussed this a little bit under the sixth point. But the key here is to understand the link between your goals and your vision.
11) Practicing Religion and Spirituality
You are a three-in-one: body, mind, and spirit. You need to feed all three if you want to achieve the most happiness. Believe in a power greater than yourself. And realize that peace on earth begins with you.
12) Taking Care of Your Body
We get busy. We often fail to take care of our bodies the way we should. The two of us struggle with this one as we press for our own BIGG success.
But then we remind ourselves, that it only takes five minutes. It may not be ideal, but it’s better than nothing!
We like the fact that these twelve activities were all framed in the active tense. The song tells us, “Don’t worry, be happy.”
The better way of thinking is: Take action. Be happy today. Now that’s BIGG success!
What makes you happy?