Stay Confident When Your Confidence is Shaken

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We share 4 ways to stay confident in 4 situations that you will likely face, that can shake your confidence. Click the player to listen the The BIGG Success Show podcast episode #1054. Here’s a summary of the discussion…

Entrepreneurs, and those who have the entrepreneurial spirit in their career, need confidence. Without it, you won’t be able to step outside of your comfort zone, seek new opportunities, and grow to your full potential.

What is confidence? We like the definition from Financial Coach, Debbie Sasson.

“Confidence is a muscle you build by taking bold steps and doing the scary thing.“

She adds that it’s not easy to keep taking bold steps forward, which is why so many entrepreneurs waste time and procrastinate.

Now we know that’s not YOU because you are a BIGG goal-getter. You put yourself out there, make mistakes and face failure. As a result, your confidence may take a hit from time to time.

Here are 4 ways to stay confident in 4 situations that can shake your confidence

How can you stay confident if you just got told “No”?

No to a promotion.
No to a sale.
No to a loan for your business.

“Yes” the best answer, but “no” is the second-best answer because it allows you to move on to something different.

avatar-georgeI learned this from my former student who was a venture capitalist. His comment was that we always want to get to no as soon as possible, because that leaves the time for better opportunities. So, always remember that “no” means you’re closer to a yes.

How can you stay confident if you just made a mistake?

Your boss is upset.
A customer is mad.

Admit it, and then move on. Admit it is always first and then apologize if necessary. Then, this is so important and so hard, forget it and finally, move on. Taking this action is essential so you can get your mind focused on what truly is much more important and where you’re going to make a much bigger impact.

How do you stay confident if you launched something new and no one is engaging?

Your new idea at work isn’t working.
Your new product or service isn’t selling.

We’ve all heard the saying, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” The Professor thinks that doesn’t go far enough and suggests this instead: Try. Try again. Try something else. We need to first assume we’re in the right place at the right time with the right people, and so we press on and persevere.

But there comes a point at which you may need to try something else. The only way you find that out to test, track and tweak. This helps you find ways to get the engagement or results you’re after.

An important note, “try something else” could simply mean try the same thing but in a different way. George shares how a small shift can make a BIGG difference. Click the player to hear the story starting at 9:18.

How can you stay confident if you feel overwhelmed by a project?

You feel like you bit off more than you can chew.
You are in very unfamiliar territory.

avatar-georgeThis makes me think about the first day that I ever taught. I was nervous! At the end of the semester, students can evaluate their professor’s performance. One student made the comment that I needed to display more confidence on the first day of class. The student added, “I would have thought it was the first time you had ever taught.” That’s how bad it was! From then on, I used a Nero-Linguistic Programming technique, if you want to be confident, act confident.

Let’s review. Here are the key takeaways on The Professor’s whiteboard to stay confident when faced with a situation where your confidence is shaken.

Stay confident whiteboard

We’ve probably all heard that success breeds success. It’s wrong. In reality, success breeds confidence. And that confidence breeds BIGG success!

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George “The Professor” & Mary-Lynn
Co-Founders, BIGG Success


Confidence also comes from knowing your purpose. Do you know yours? Our free Life Purpose Quiz can help.

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