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The Single Biggest Barrier To Your Success

Yesterday, we traveled to your future. To the life you dream about. We helped you visualize your future and challenged you to perform this visualization exercise every day for the next month.

Today, we’ll look at the single biggest barrier to your success. You may surprised to hear this.

The one big thing that stands between most people and success is fear.
We’re taught that fear is a good thing. And it can be. But it also can be counterproductive. One fear, in particular, keeps most people from achieving their dreams.

The most dangerous fear of all is the fear of failure.
This fear keeps more people from starting toward their dream, let alone actually accomplishing it, than anything else. As we mature, we get more self-conscious. We’re afraid we’ll be embarrassed. Afraid to be different. Afraid of being made fun of.

Plan to fail forward.
Successful people look at failure as an opportunity to learn. So the faster you fail, the faster you learn. Fail often enough and you have a leg up on all of those people who fear failure. Isn’t that most people?

Successful people are driven by the fear of not trying.
We got this idea from a great little book called I Can’t Accept Not Trying by Michael Jordan, the great basketball player. It’s a quick read that we highly recommend.

Have you ever been so fed up with something that you just had to do something about it? Of course, you have. All of us have!

W. Clement Stone, in his book The Success System That Never Fails, referred to this feeling as “inspirational dissatisfaction”. You can overcome your fear of failure by cultivating this fear of not trying. When you just can’t stand it any more. You have to find out if you can do it.

People who go for it reach a point where their fear of not trying exceeds their fear of failure. So they go for it. Some succeed beyond their wildest imaginations. Others fail forward. So they try again.

Our quote today is by Winston Churchill.

“Success is never final.
Failure is never fatal.
It’s courage that counts.”

Overcome your fears by living your dreams. What can you lose by trying?

Next time, we’ll tell the story on storytelling. How and why to tell a story well.

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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The Art Of Seeing Opportunity In Adversity

By Bigg Success Staff
November, 25 2007

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Success Stories 

John Bramblitt is an unusually gifted painter. More importantly, he is an inspiration to countless numbers of people. We think you’ll be as inspired by him as we have been.

You see John has dealt with adversity for most of his life. He first experienced a seizure over twenty years ago. He had a kidney removed as a kid. He endures hearing loss. At eleven, he required glasses.

If all that wasn’t enough for a young man who had just turned thirty, he began noticing that his friends’ faces weren’t clear. A doctor diagnosed that he was going blind. The cause of his blindness is still unknown.

In the six years since, John has experienced a lot. At first, he was sad, frustrated, and
angry. He turned to painting, in part, to symbolically give God the finger. That’s when he made an amazing discovery.

He sees better now than he did before.

He says he sees with one hand, while feeling the paint with the other. The more he painted, the less angry he was. He found that, what he thought was a curse, has turned into a blessing.

So what can we learn from John Bramblitt?

Use all your available senses. You possess more abilities than even you know. Look at each day as an opportunity to discover gifts you didn’t know you had. To practice this, check out our 8 visualization exercise.]

Become adept at adapting. John learned that he could distinguish colors by their feel. He developed his memory so he could picture the painting in his mind as he touches it with his hands. Get excited about all you can learn when challenges come your way!

Know when to quit. John knows a painting is done when doing any more would take away from it. We recently discussed John Wooden’s 6 definition of success.] We said that
you must do all you can, but that’s all you need to do. When you do that, you have peace of mind. John achieves this with every one of his paintings, then he quits.

To learn more about John, check out the following links:

See John’s paintings. You’ll be amazed at this young man’s talent.

View John’s documentary video. It’s fairly large, so be patient while it loads. It’s worth the wait!

View the Texas Country Reporter video on You Tube. It’s shorter than the previous video, but still tells the story well.

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Back To The Future: Visualizing The Life You Want (Part 2)

Yesterday, we started this series by visualizing a childhood experience.To get the most out of today’s discussion, we highly recommend that you read this prior blog before you proceed.

Today we’ll jump to the future, to help you visualize the life you want. Before we do that, though, let’s look at three constraints that we all face.

    1. Money

We’re trained to believe that money is limited. And it is —at this point. But this may surprise you. You can get more money! In fact, we bet you plan to get more. So money is limited, but there’s an even bigger constraint. What, you ask, is that?

    1. Time

Yes, we can get more money, but we can never get more time. We can only manage the time we have better. Every day, we’re given 86,400 units of this most precious resource. Every second, one unit of it is gone forever. Do you hear that sound? That’s the sound of time ticking away. However, we still haven’t considered the biggest constraint of all.

    1. Self-imposed limitations

By far, the biggest constraint we face is the limitations we put on ourselves. Think about it. How often do you tell yourself that you can’t do something? We spend so much time focusing on what we can’t do, that we fail to see what we can do. Get your child-like wonder back. Think like a kid again. Imagine the possibilities.

Now that we’ve looked at our constraints, we’re ready to jump to the future. We’re going to ask you a question. To answer it, we want you to suspend reality, for just a little bit. Pretend. Remember pretending? It will serve you well. We’re going to remove all of the constraints that keep you from contemplating what you really want out of your life. So here’s the question:

If neither time nor money were an issue,
how would you spend your time and your money?

Think about it. Dream. Dream like you did when you were a kid. Imagine the possibilities. Use all of your senses. Get a clear picture in your mind. Envision your passions. See the life you want to live.

Write down your dream. Repeat this visualization every day for the next 30 days. Edit your narrative. We’ll come back again in about a month and discuss how to use your talents to get the future you envision.

Our quote today is a paraphrase of Robert Kennedy, paraphrasing Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Some people look at things that are, and ask, ‘Why?’
I see things that never have been, and ask, ‘Why not?’

So we say to you — why not? Why not imagine the life you want?

In our next blog, we’ll discuss the single biggest barrier to your success.

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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Work Life Teeter-Totter

By Bigg Success Staff
November, 25 2007

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Work-Life Balance 

There’s a fantastic article by Stephanie N. Mehta with Fortune magazine. It’s entitled Confessions of a CEO, but it’s less CEO, more confession about one man’s dilemma to balance work and life.

The subject is Dominic Orr, who’s generally regarded as a very successful CEO. We admire Mr. Orr for sharing some of the difficulties he faced as he tried to become a complete man.

We also applaud Ms. Mehta for this piece. We’ll hit some highlights here, but you should check out the full article to gain insight from a person who has, and still is, struggling to strike the proper balance.

We refer to a teeter-totter, in the title to our article, because it seems we often are up on one side of the equation while being down on the other. This is evidenced by a common problem faced by many of us today.

When you’re home, do you ever find yourself catching up on all the work you didn’t get done that day? At work, do you find challenges from home spilling into your day? So what lessons can we learn from Mr. Orr?

Organize your day. One solution Mr. Orr discovered was to work different hours. He didn’t work less; instead, he organized his day so he could spend time with his kids when they were available.

Define success properly. Mr. Orr felt constant pressure to not screw anything up. That’s a tough standard to uphold. You should allow yourself to be human. Humans aren’t perfect. For a realistic standard, see 7 four things you must do to insure success.]

Do the right things right. First, determine what the right things to do are. In other words, 8 visualize the future you want.] Then, you can do the right things right. If it involves things, focus on efficiency. Find the shortest path to get your project completed. If it involves people, focus on effectiveness. Connect with the person you’re trying to reach. Mr. Orr’s vision was to die a complete man. This meant changing his ways.

Use balance to your advantage. Mr. Orr’s management style has changed as part of his journey. He’s more rounded now. That comes into play at work and home. Find ways to use lessons learned in one world to benefit the other. Now you’re using your balance to your advantage. Let your balance drive your success, rather than detract from it.

Get the cat out of the cradle. Note how Mr. Orr used the only model of parenthood he knew. What kind of a model are you setting for your kids? You’re creating your granchildrens’ childhoods now. Are you happy with how they’ll grow up?

Work your teeter-totter. Mr. Orr took time away from work after selling his business. He focused on his children. He tried going back to work and still found it difficult to balance his career and family. Make the teeter-totter your friend. Accept the fact that at times your work will be up, family down. Then make it reverse. Work the teeter-totter, don’t let it work you.

A balanced life is one of the most difficult challenges we face today. Following these tips will help you work toward a more balanced life. It’s a process. Take baby steps, but be sure you take at least one today.

(Image of teeter-totter by mayr, CC 2.0)

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Back To The Future: Visualizing The Life You Want (Part 1)

Yesterday, we discussed the four things you must do to insure success for your peace of mind. Today we want to introduce a visualization exercise to help you find your dream.

Start by visualizing your past.

Before we go to your future, let’s go back to your past. Why? Because it’s easier to remember, than it is to project. By practicing this exercise in your past, it will be easier for you to envision your future.

Imagination is more important than intelligence.

In his book, The Millionaire Mind Thomas Stanley cites surveys that show that millionaires believe that their “creative intelligence” is much more important in explaining their success than traditional intelligence.

Now, let’s do some time traveling … a visualization exercise.

We believe you will get more benefit by listening to this, rather than reading it. However, it’s your choice. Either way, we recommend that you find a quiet place where you can be alone before you proceed.

So use your imagination. When we get into this visualization exercise, create a clear picture of the environment you’re in. Use all of your senses and your emotions. Experience it as if you were actually living that moment now.

The Visualization Exercise

Think back to when you were a kid. Remember playing. Just having fun. No worries. No fears.

Picture yourself doing that favorite activity. Picture your surroundings. Can you seem them?

What do you hear? Can you smell that? That old familiar smell tucked away in your brain.

Are you touching something? Can you taste anything?

What are you feeling? Not with your hands. With our heart and your soul.

Enjoy this wonderful place. Take in its beauty.

How do you feel right now? Isn’t it wonderful?

You’re free. You have no limits. You’re uninhibited.

How do your feel? You’re relaxed. You’re excited.

Isn’t this a special place? Keep enjoying it. Isn’t this an extraordinary feeling?

You had big plans, didn’t you? The world was your oyster.

There wasn’t anything you couldn’t do. Nothing you couldn’t conquer.

Nothing could stop you. Keep focusing on this place.

This place with no worries. No fears. No loss. No stress. No pressure.

It’s exceptional, isn’t it? No time constraints. You can stay here all day. Enjoy it just a little bit more.

Concluding Thoughts

We hope you enjoyed your trip down memory lane. Next time, we’ll use this visualization tool to help you find your dream.

Our quote today is by the noted author and philosopher, Henry David Thoreau.

“If you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams,
and endeavor to live the life which you have imagined,
you will meet with success unexpected.”

So just imagine it, then live it. We know you can!

Next time, we’ll continue this series, by visualizing your future. The future of your dreams.

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!