Return To Sender

Today’s title is inspired by all of the thousands of people who are returning Christmas presents. Who you choose to associate with is one of the most important choices you make. Each person has his or her own personality.

And with those personalities goes certain traits – things they may say or do. Some things they say or do will be helpful. Others are harmful so you should mentally say to yourself – “No thanks, return to sender.”

  • When someone discourages you from pursuing your dreams, ask yourself, “Are they qualified?” If the answer is no, then just say to yourself, “No thanks!”
  • Dream busters, often family and close friends, tell you why your dream won’t work. Their intentions are usually honorable, but you still want to beware. They may discourage because they would be afraid to do it themselves. Or maybe they’re worried that you’ll be more successful than them.

    You should accept critical advice from people who know – experts in your chosen area. People who’ve achieved what you’re trying to do.

  • When someone tries to make you unhappy because they’re unhappy, just say to yourself, “No thanks!”
  • Negative Neds or Nellies are complainers, not doers. They focus on problems, not solutions. It seems that they’re only happy when they’re unhappy. They are major downers – negative forces that hold you back.

    If you’re the “glass-is-half-full” type, there’s nothing wrong with getting opinions from a “half-empty” person. But make sure everyone you associate with is a problem-solver, not just a problem-finder. Problems are easy to find; what’s difficult is determining the right solutions.

  • When someone tries to waste your time with endless conversation that has no substances, just say to yourself “No thanks!”
  • Energy zappers don’t respect your time. They go on and on and on and on … oops, sorry, just making the point! They take and take and take and take … okay, you’ve got the idea now! They will suck you dry and then move on. Let them!

    You want to associate with people who lift you up. Who inspire you. People like you. They’re going somewhere. They’ve done something with their lives.

Our quote today is by the Spanish author, Miguel de Cervantes.

“Tell me what company you keep and I’ll tell you what you are.”

Or as the old saying goes … you won’t fly with eagles if you hang out with turkeys!

Next time, we’ll talk about how to be a goal-getter, not just a goal-setter. Great advice for making, and keeping, your New Year’s resolutions from Ben Franklin.

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

Related Bigg Success Article: Happy People Make Happy Employees

The Greatest Miracle In The World

Today’s blog is inspired by one of our favorite authors, Og Mandino. He was an amazing storyteller. We reviewed his book, The Greatest Miracle In The World,  in our last newsletter.

So what is the greatest miracle in the world? You might be surprised to hear this …

It’s YOU!

Yes, you are the greatest miracle in the world! Maybe you don’t think of yourself as a miracle. Maybe you take yourself for granted.

So let’s look at the evidence. Here’s why you are the greatest miracle in the world:

You have a distinctive genetic code. Your physical make-up is unique to you. Look at your DNA. We learn from crime investigations that it’s uniquely yours. The odds are overwhelmingly against any other human sharing the same DNA.

Your experiences are entirely your own. From your childhood up to the present time, no one else has the exact same set of experiences that you have. Others may have similar experiences, but no one has experienced them in the same way that you have.

Your perceptions are unlike anyone else’s. Based partly on your genetic make-up and on your own experiences, you have a unique perspective on the world. You have a distinct point-of-view. You see things in a slightly different way than anyone else because of how you got to where you are.

Your genes, your experiences, your perceptions. All these ingredients combine to form the single rarest thing on the face of the earth – YOU! In the history of the world, there has never been anyone who is just like you. From now until the end of time, there will never be a single person just like you.

Do you see yourself as the miracle that you are? Let’s see …

Do you value yourself in pennies?
Don’t you know that all of the riches in the world don’t come close to your value?

Do you believe others when they put you down?
Don’t you know that their comments are a reflection of themselves and not you?

Do you tell yourself that you’re not smart enough?
Don’t you know that you have your own unique blend of intelligence?

Do you diminish your talents?
Don’t you realize that you’ve been given unique gifts to share with the world?

Do you think you’re not good enough?
Don’t you know that you’re exactly what the world needs?

Don’t you know that’s why you’re here now? The odds were against, even before you were conceived. But you endured. Because there was a reason … a purpose … a gift only you could give the world.

You are capable of great accomplishments. You have unlimited potential. Only you can do what you’re here to do because you are the greatest miracle in the world.

You need to see yourself for who you are. You need to change how you think about yourself. If you do, you’ll change your world. Then, and only then, can you do what you’re here to do. To change the whole world. For all of us. We’re counting on you!

When you need a reminder of just how special you are, come back to this page. Don’t ever put yourself down again. Don’t ever see yourself as anything less than the miracle that you are.

Who are the greatest miracles in your life? Pass this on to them. And make their day – tell them how special they are to you.

Our quote today is by an unknown author.

“Instead of thinking about what you’re missing,
try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.”

You are the greatest miracle in the world! Change the world by showing your unique self.

Next time, we’ll talk about when to say, “No, thanks … return to sender!”

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

Is Your Star Shining Bright?

Today, we want to share the timeless secret to overcoming all the odds. We’re mixing it up a little … we usually end with our bigg quote. We’ll start with it today because it’s central to our discussion.

It’s our favorite quote here at Bigg Success, by the author, B.C. Forbes.

“It is when things go hardest, when life becomes most trying, that there is the greatest need for having a fixed goal, for having an air castle that the outside world cannot wreck. When few comforts come from without, it is all the more necessary to have a fount to draw from within. And the man or woman who has a star toward which to press cannot be thrown off the course, no matter how the world may try, no matter how far things seem to be wrong.”

So what’s the timeless secret to overcoming all the odds? Here it is …

You can overcome all adversity by knowing your bigg purpose.

Why, you ask, is it so important to have a star toward which to press? A bright star that’s constantly in sight.

  • It helps keep things in perspective.
  • By keeping your bigg purpose – your star – shining bright, little things don’t matter as much. You’re able to let them roll off you. They don’t bother you so much. You have bigger things to which to tend. You can make the right decisions much easier.

  • It provides a fixed point of reference for all the movement around it.
  • The biggest star of all, the sun, doesn’t move. The planets do, revolving around the sun. There are asteroids and all kinds of other things in space in constant motion.

    Back on Planet Earth, there is also constant movement – it’s called change. It’s everywhere – happening faster and faster. You can’t control everything, but your response is much clearer when you have a star toward which to press. You adapt … your bigg purpose stays in place.

  • It serves as an internal reserve to counteract external forces.
  • Friends, family, and colleagues usually have the very best intentions. In spite of that, sometimes they say things that may create doubt. You may become so afraid that you don’t take any risk; you don’t stick your neck out, which ultimately means you don’t accomplish what you want.

    There’s comfort in your star. You know what you’re trying to accomplish. That inner sense keeps you pushing on to the life you want.

The Iron Man Dad
We were e-mailed an inspiring story about living with purpose a while back. Dick Hoyt’s son, Rick, was born with cerebral palsy. Due to some complications at birth, the doctors told Dick that Rick would never talk or walk. That day, Dick found his star – to make life for Rick as normal as possible.

Time passed and Rick graduated from high school. He went on college and earned a degree in special education. While there, he helped his school, Boston College, develop a computer system that enables people like him to communicate.

Here’s where the story gets even more interesting …
Rick heard about a fundraiser – a five-mile run to benefit a young man who was paralyzed. Rick told his dad that they had to help. So Dick pushed Rick in a two-wheel running chair.

That wasn’t enough for this dynamic duo. They moved on to marathons – that’s over 26 miles! Then triathlons. Finally, they signed on for the Iron Man competition.

Dick attaches a tow line around his waist and pulls Rick for the 2.4-mile swim. Then, using a specially built bike, Rick sits in a seat in front of Dick for the 112-mile ride. Finally, Dick pushes a three-wheel chair for the marathon portion of each event.

Now, nearly 1,000 races later, would you say Rick has a normal life? It’s extraordinary. Dick Hoyt set out to create a normal life for his son. He accomplished that, and inspired an entire world!

Do you have a star toward which to press? Look for your star today so you can endure – even in the most difficult of times.

Next time, we’ll talk about the greatest miracle of all. You might just be surprised when you hear what it is. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

Santa’s Helpers

Yesterday, Santa stopped by our studio and told us how he stays so jolly.  Today, we want to share a story about two of Santa’s helpers – you may or may not be familiar with it.

It all began 27 years ago. Larry Stewart was broke. He was also very hungry. He saw a little diner. He went in. He admits that he planned to order breakfast, and then when it was time to pay …. he planned to pretend that he’d lost his wallet. 

The owner of the diner must have had a sixth sense. As Stewart had finished eating, the owner came out from behind the counter and bent down to pick something up from the floor. “Here,” he said to Stewart, “you must have dropped this.” It was a $20 bill!

Stewart made a vow that day. He would help others whenever he could. He did just that. He started immediately. When he had some spare money, he would find someone in need and share his good fortune.

As time passed, Stewart started and succeeded in his own business. But every year, at Christmas, you could see him looking for people who needed a lift. He would give them cash … asking only that they help someone else in return. He became known as “the secret Santa.”

That’s because he did all of this anonymously. We only learned his identity last Christmas, as he realized it would be his last – you see, he was losing his fight with cancer. We lost Larry Stewart in January. During his life, he managed to give away about $1.3 million as the secret Santa.

But his legacy isn’t over. As Stewart lay dying in his hospital bed, a fellow businessman and friend promised Stewart that the mission would be carried on – the businessman vowed to be the next secret Santa. This year, he has crossed the United States going to thrift stores, laundromats, bus stations, and the like handing out $100 bills – maybe one, maybe more – to people in need.

By Christmas, he will have given out $75,000 of his own money. He says he gets a great return – the joy that it creates for him and the people who receive his gift. They know that they’ve received an unconditional gift – based on nothing more than one human being caring for another.

Here’s the secret Santa in action. A couple lost one of their four children to a rare form of cancer in November. They faced incredible medical bills. They warned their remaining kids that Christmas might not come this year.

One day, they heard a knock on their door. Standing there was the secret Santa. He handed them $1,000!

We thought it appropriate today to quote the new secret Santa. 

“Secret Santa lives in each and every one
of us, it’s just a matter of letting him out.”

The good news is that this idea is catching on. More and more people are contacting the new secret Santa. Even interning with him to see how he does it. You can see too in this special report from CBS.

Next time, we’ll discuss the timeless secret for overcoming all the odds … for making your star shine bright.

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

Santa's Helpers

Yesterday, Santa stopped by our studio and told us how he stays so jolly.  Today, we want to share a story about two of Santa’s helpers – you may or may not be familiar with it.

It all began 27 years ago. Larry Stewart was broke. He was also very hungry. He saw a little diner. He went in. He admits that he planned to order breakfast, and then when it was time to pay …. he planned to pretend that he’d lost his wallet. 

The owner of the diner must have had a sixth sense. As Stewart had finished eating, the owner came out from behind the counter and bent down to pick something up from the floor. “Here,” he said to Stewart, “you must have dropped this.” It was a $20 bill!

Stewart made a vow that day. He would help others whenever he could. He did just that. He started immediately. When he had some spare money, he would find someone in need and share his good fortune.

As time passed, Stewart started and succeeded in his own business. But every year, at Christmas, you could see him looking for people who needed a lift. He would give them cash … asking only that they help someone else in return. He became known as “the secret Santa.”

That’s because he did all of this anonymously. We only learned his identity last Christmas, as he realized it would be his last – you see, he was losing his fight with cancer. We lost Larry Stewart in January. During his life, he managed to give away about $1.3 million as the secret Santa.

But his legacy isn’t over. As Stewart lay dying in his hospital bed, a fellow businessman and friend promised Stewart that the mission would be carried on – the businessman vowed to be the next secret Santa. This year, he has crossed the United States going to thrift stores, laundromats, bus stations, and the like handing out $100 bills – maybe one, maybe more – to people in need.

By Christmas, he will have given out $75,000 of his own money. He says he gets a great return – the joy that it creates for him and the people who receive his gift. They know that they’ve received an unconditional gift – based on nothing more than one human being caring for another.

Here’s the secret Santa in action. A couple lost one of their four children to a rare form of cancer in November. They faced incredible medical bills. They warned their remaining kids that Christmas might not come this year.

One day, they heard a knock on their door. Standing there was the secret Santa. He handed them $1,000!

We thought it appropriate today to quote the new secret Santa. 

“Secret Santa lives in each and every one
of us, it’s just a matter of letting him out.”

The good news is that this idea is catching on. More and more people are contacting the new secret Santa. Even interning with him to see how he does it. You can see too in this special report from CBS.

Next time, we’ll discuss the timeless secret for overcoming all the odds … for making your star shine bright.

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!