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Only You Can Prevent Burnout

By Bigg Success Staff
01-26-08

Work-Life Balance

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Physical discomforts get our attention. We quickly buy a new chair for our desk or get an ergonomically-designed keyboard. We may even go to our doctors for help.

So why don’t we approach mental “discomforts” the same way?

When we experience these symptoms, we tell ourselves that “we must be strong”, “we have to push on”, or something similar.

But these symptoms may be early signs of burnout. Burnout happens gradually as a result of prolonged, unresolved stress.

Smokey Bear says, “Only you can prevent forest fires.”

It’s also true that only you can prevent burnout.

No one will do it for you. It’s up to you to recognize it and do something about it. Here are three things you can do:

# 1 – Don’t get caught in the “superman” or “superwoman” trap.
You have a set of expectations. Others have expectations of you. Are they realistic?

You need to have goals, but 144 these goals have to be achievable]. Otherwise, you’ll just get more and more frustrated with yourself.

113 Learn to say “no”] to others when you know that you’ll have to do something superhuman to give them what they want. And by superhuman, we don’t mean “leaping tall buildings”.

We mean setting aside time that you don’t have. Taking on another project when your to-do list is already insane. NOT doing something that’s important to you in order to do something that’s important to them.

Accept the fact that you’re only human – it’s a good thing.

#2 – Get past the “buzz killers”.
Some people are all “take” and no “give”. They expect a lot from you, but when you need a friend, they’re no where to be found. Get past them – find some new friends! That’s easy to say, but no so easy to do. However, you’ll be richly rewarded for hanging out with the right crowd.

Places can be buzz killers, too. The most obvious one is where you work. If you’re being asked to do more and more with less and less, you may need to move on. 57 Change the job] or 135 change jobs].

#3 – Find more “buzz builders”
One of the secrets to preventing burnout is to make sure you have plenty of enjoyable activities. Work should be one of those, as we just discussed. But you need more than that or you will burnout at some point.

There are many ways to build buzz in your life. Some examples are:

  • Spend time with family and friends
  • Volunteer for a cause in which you believe
  • Take a class
  • 98 Get a hobby]
  • Start a personal journal
  • Read great books

How about you … what builds you up?

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Are You Burned Out?

By Bigg Success Staff
01-25-08

Test Yourself
 

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Burnout doesn’t happen overnight. It’s usually caused by unrelieved, prolonged stress.

It’s important to recognize the signs of burnout early because it’s difficult to fight once you’re in the middle of it. It’s much better to address it early so you can avoid it altogether.

The good people over at iVillage offer a quick test to see if you’re burned out. Just answer thirty very short questions, which will take you less than ten minutes, and you’ll know if you’re burned out. Check it out!

Just in case you need it, here are some bigg resources to help you avoid burnout:   

113 Learn to say “no”  ] 113    ]        

144 Set realistic goals  ]    

34 Take time for yourself  ]      

135 Consider a career change   ] 

Shake things up   
           

98 Take up a hobby ]            

30 Be grateful    ]               

31 Give for a cause    ]     

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Dealing With The Loss Of A Job

By Bigg Success Staff
01-24-08

Life Changes

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One of the most stressful events anyone can endure is the loss of a job. It can create a crisis of confidence, since we often link our self-worth to our performance at work.

It’s natural to feel a roller-coaster of emotions immediately after a dismissal. So how do you deal with it?

Understand what you’re going through
You’re grieving. Sounds strange, doesn’t it? But that’s what it is. You are grieving the “death” of your job.

In her book, On Death and Dying, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross identified the five stages of grief: 

  • denial
  • anger
  • bargaining
  • depression
  • acceptance

Can you relate to any of these states? Of course you can. It’s only natural.

Allow yourself to be human
Give yourself permission to ride this emotional roller-coaster. You may go through the stages sequentially, but it’s more likely that you’ll jump around.

Let yourself go through it. Grieving is a process. You won’t be over this loss overnight. Don’t set unrealistic expectations for yourself.

Talk to people who care about you. Seek professional help if it will help. Allow yourself to be human, if only this once.

Plan to move on
Here’s some good news – you can replace your job! It may not be easy. It may not come quickly. But you can do it!

Plan to move on. Picture yourself in your new job. Maybe you envision a career change. Or a business of your own. Develop a plan to get what you want.

Perhaps you’ll need some more education. You may need to get some experience first. Your plan can factor in all of these things.

You may still be grieving, but you’ll likely reach the acceptance stage faster if you focus on your future, instead of the past. Then do something about it. Try to do something every day that moves you toward your new life.

Losing a job is tough to accept. You have to go through the grieving process. Don’t rush it, but push yourself every day to get on with your life.
Many people have found their passion when they were forced to do so. Maybe you’ll be the next one!

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Facing Off Against Faceless Competitors

By Bigg Success Staff
01-24-08

Career Builders

faceless_mannequin_jpgAs time has progressed, we humans have moved from small, close-knit communities to large metropolitan areas. Now, we’re becoming a global village, thanks in large part to the internet.

Tyler Cowen recently wrote an excellent article for the Wilson Center called The New Invisible Competitors.

He explains the turmoil that many of us are facing as we move to competition that is faceless. We now compete with someone behind a computer in another part of the world instead of the person down the street. Since we can’t see our competition, it is harder to view them as real. But they are!

Here are the personality traits that will fare well with these faceless competitors:

Methodical planners
These people view their work as a game. They plan their strategies like a world champion chess player. They are self-motivated because they focus on their end game. They are not necessarily that competitive; they’re in it for the psychic rewards.

Early adopters
We all know them … perhaps you’re one of them. People who have to be first. First in line. First to try a new product. First to test a new idea. They are thought leaders. Influencers. Innovators. They create an advantage for themselves by being first. They are highly creative people who worry more about their own activities than their competitors.

Introverts
This faceless competition plays well for those who aren’t “people-persons”. They will thrive in this new environment where you’re only visible through your computer.

Dreamers
Creativity will be more valued than ever. Dreamers develop new products and services or they find creative new ways to market these ideas. Entrepreneurs will continue to thrive in this new era. Young entrepreneurs may have a particular advantage, since they often see the need for new products and services first.

Self-managers
People who can reinvent themselves by interpreting market signals and opportunities will also do well in the coming years. They’ll spot trends and get in before the crowd.

We live in an increasingly competitive world. Match your strengths to this list and then decide on your strategy to face off against the new faceless competition. The opportunities are greater than they ever have been. Imagine that!

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Be Dashing While Dining

Bigg Challenge: We recently received an e-mail from one of our newsletter subscribers. Brett is raising money for his business. He’s planned a dinner meeting with some potential investors. He wants our tips to make sure his dinner is a bigg success.

Bigg Advice: Let’s start with two pieces of general advice on how to be dashing while dining.

  • Do the little things well. Above all else, be yourself. That’s assuming you are respectful and sincere!
  • Be the leader. You’re the host; they’re the guests. Lead them through the evening.

Now, let’s look at some specifics.

  • Before dinner
    You should choose the restaurant. Try to determine their preferences – favorite restaurant or type of food. But if you can, balance that with your own. If you have a place you know you’ll get great service, go for it!

    Get there early. You set the appointment, so don’t be late. If you’re late, you’re saying to your investors that your time is more valuable than theirs.

    Arrange to pay the bill away from the table. Yes, you’re paying the bill. After all, you’re the one trying to make the sale!

    On the show, George talked about a businessman who wanted to buy a company. The businessman met the seller and they began negotiating. As day turned to night, they reached an impasse. They were $100,000 apart.

    They decided to go out for dinner so they could come back fresh.

    During dinner, the businessman decided that he would pay the extra $100,000 IF the seller paid for dinner.

    You see the businessman had bought breakfast and lunch. He thought it only fair for the seller to buy dinner! The server presented the bill. It sat on the table … and sat … and sat. Finally, the businessman pulled out his credit card.

    That dinner cost the seller $100,000, even though he didn’t pay for it!

  • During dinner
    You set the agenda. Start off with some small talk, while you’re all looking at the menu. Once you’ve placed your orders, get down to business. You want time at the end for their questions or to just build your relationships.

    After dessert, excuse yourself and take care of the bill.

  • After dinner
    Walk them out. You’ll often find that your best conversations occur once you’re away from the table. There’s pressure to discuss follow-up because the night is drawing to an end. Don’t miss this great opportunity! Make sure that you follow-up. Thank them again for meeting with you. Be positive – reinforce that you look forward to working with them.

Thanks for sending us your bigg challenge, Brett. We hope our advice helps you be dashing at your upcoming dinner!

Do you have a bigg challenge? We’d love to help. E-mail it to bigginfo@biggsuccess.com.

For our Bigg Quote today, we felt obligated to defer to Emily Post.

“Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have
that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use.”

Mind your manners and the world can be your oyster!

Next time, we’ll offer some tips to cope with information overload. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!