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Top 10 Ways to De-Motivate Yourself

Nobody else can de-motivate you – you have to do it yourself. Be careful, though, because along the way, you could be inspired by others.

You have to keep focusing on staying de-motivated.  It’s not as easy as you might think!


#10 – Don’t work at something you enjoy. If you love what you do, you just might find yourself motivated to do it. Do something you hate and you’re bound to stay de-motivated.

#9 – Don’t get enough sleep.
When you sleep, your body refreshes. You may risk moments of motivation if this happens. So stay up late watching mindless television, stay out late with your friends, and get hammered. It’s a great way to stay de-motivated.

#8 – Be negative about everything.
Wake up and say things like …
“I hate my job and the people I work with.”
“People suck.”
“Nobody will buy from me today.”
“My boss is a jerk.”

Keep telling yourself how bad everything else is. Oh, and don’t forget to share your misery with as many people as you can. If you do this, you’ll be sure to stay de-motivated.

#7 – Work all the time.
Don’t ever make any time for fun. If all you ever do is work, you’ll soon come to resent your work. Never make time for anything else, especially things that might lift your spirits and give you a needed break. All work and no play is a sure-fire way to stay de-motivated.

#6 – Eat terrible food and avoid exercise so you don’t have much energy.
If you have energy, you might feel like doing something. You can’t have that! A diet full of junk food combined with no exercise is the recipe for staying de-motivated.

#5 – Tell yourself how much of a failure you are.
Use affirmations such as “I’m a loser.” Get out your permanent marker and write a huge “L” on your forehead. Always remind yourself how bad you are, of the goals you haven’t reached, of anything you’re unhappy with about yourself. Fill your mind with negative thoughts about yourself so you can have a positively de-motivating day!

#4 – Hang out with people who complain all the time.
We’ll warn you … positive people can rub off on you. So spend your time with people who aren’t going anywhere and are full of excuses why they’re staying put. They’ll help you stay de-motivated.

#3 – Stay away from success stories.
Reading or hearing these may just make you think you can do it, too. Don’t look to successful people for a model on how to succeed. Just dismiss their success as luck and be jealous. That will keep you de-motivated.

#2 – Don’t ever do anything to change your circumstances.
You don’t have any control over them anyway, so why try? Sure, you could spend your time trying to make a better life for yourself, but you might just succeed at it and then get motivated. You can’t have that – accept that there are no opportunities for you. You’re just living out your fate. That will keep you de-motivated.

#1 – Listen to the news.
It’s sure to keep your spirits low. Bad news is good news when it comes to keeping yourself de-motivated. 

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Our bigg quote today comes from the book You are Worthless:

“Tomorrow is going to be even worse than today.”

So begin today de-motivating yourself for tomorrow and you’ll stay permanently de-motivated.

Next time, we’ll discuss the question you must answer to increase your sales. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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I Lost My Job Because of Organizational Downsizing! Now What?

Bigg Challenge:
We received an e-mail from Christina who was one of a number of people let go in a corporate downsizing. She’s feeling a mix of emotions right now. She gave 100 percent to her employer and was identified in the community by her job. She’s having a hard time and wondered if we might be able to offer some tips to get through this. 

Bigg Advice:
We’re so sorry to hear about your situation, Christina. It’s natural to feel a roller-coaster of emotions immediately after a dismissal. So how do you deal with it?

Find a way to mentally escape for a bit.
One way to do this is to turn to music. On the show, Mary-Lynn shared some favorites:

  • Ramble On (Led Zeppelin)
  • Freefallin’ (Tom Petty)
  • Cool Change (The Little River Band)
  • Don’t Give Up (Peter Gabriel)
  • Roll With the Changes (REO Speedwagon)

It’s a grieving process
You’re going through a grieving process, Christina. Sounds strange, doesn’t it? But that’s what it is – you’re grieving the “death” of your job.

In her book, On Death and Dying, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross identified the five stages of grief: 

  • denial
  • anger
  • bargaining
  • depression
  • acceptance

We’re sure you can relate to some, or all, of these. It’s only natural. Allow yourself to be human and give yourself permission to ride this emotional roller-coaster.

You may go through the stages sequentially, but it’s more likely that you’ll jump around. Let yourself go through it. Grieving is a process. You won’t be over this loss overnight so don’t set unrealistic expectations for yourself.

Talk to people who care about you. And seek professional help if you think it will help.

Moving on
The good news is … you can replace your job! It may not be easy. It may not come quickly. But you can do it!

So when you’re ready, start planning to move on. Picture yourself in your new job. Maybe you envision a career change. Or a business of your own. Develop a plan to get what you want.

Perhaps you’ll need some more education. You may need to get some experience first. Your plan can factor in all of these things.

You may still be grieving, but you’ll likely reach the acceptance stage faster if you focus on your future, instead of the past. Then do something about it. Try to do something every day that moves you toward your new life.

Sometimes what seemed like a bad thing turns out to be a blessing. Many people have found their passion when they were forced to do so. Maybe you’ll be the next one!

Our thoughts are with you, Christina. E-mail us anytime to let us know how you’re doing.

If you have a suggestion for Christina, leave a Comment!

Our bigg quote today comes from Kenji Miyazawa:

“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.”

And as Journey would say … Don’t Stop Believin’

Next time, we’ll talk give out 100 tips to succeed bigg. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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As He Retires, Brett Favre Teaches Us A Lesson On Peak Performance

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Brett Favre will be remembered as one of the greatest quarterbacks of all time. He holds NFL records for passing yards, completions, touchdown passes, consecutive starts, and career wins. This three-time MVP took his team to two Super Bowls, and won the bigg prize once.

He knows about peak performance.

But as much as we have enjoyed watching him on the field (except when he beat the Bears), we found his press conference fascinating because it revealed an important lesson on peak performance.

Do you have the passion to prepare?
He best summarized his decision to retire, when he said,

“I don’t have the passion to practice and prepare.”

That’s the lesson we can learn from Brett.

We talk about passion quite a bit here at Bigg Success. We don’t always make this important distinction – it’s not about the passion to play the game; it’s the passion to prepare for it that really matters.

Brett mentioned this very thing in the press conference. He said if all you had to do was show up on Sunday, more people would play. He’s absolutely right – and it goes beyond football.

You need the passion to prepare. To keep fit – physically, mentally, and emotionally – and to practice, practice, practice.

It’s not passion for what you do. It’s passion for the things you have to do to get to do what you want to do. Isn’t that a bigg to-do list?

To discover your passion, envision HOW you would spend your time and money if neither time nor money was an issue. You have to enjoy the process because playing the game is a small part of it.

Are you having fun as you prepare?
Brett said that on Saturday nights, he was watching tape. On Sunday evenings, just hours after the game, he was already preparing for the next one. He had never done that before.

He wasn’t relaxing and enjoying it. His work was becoming work. He said he worried that it would affect his teammates and his family. 

How’s your balance?

If you can’t perform at peak level, and still maintain some balance, it’s probably time to move on. Preparation for peak performance takes time away from other things in your life.

Brett mentioned that he can vividly remember every game, down to individual plays, as far back as high school. But that’s his professional life. He went to say that there are things that have happened outside of football that he doesn’t remember at all. He’s not willing to miss out on them anymore.

We congratulate him on a great career. We thank him for going out with the same style that he played the game and teaching us a lesson in the process! We wish him bigg success as he moves on!

Our bigg quote today comes from Brett Favre quoting his wife, Deanna Favre, quoting Byrd Baggett:

“Look at life through the windshield, not the rear-view mirror.”

Peak performers know how to drive toward their goal – a skill that can be transferred to any field. So find your next destination and next thing you know, you’ll pass everyone on the road!

Next time, we’ll answer a question from one of our listeners who has an idea for a business, but doesn’t know what to do next. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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7 Things You Must Learn In College That College Won’t Teach You

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Some things are teachable; others have to be learned. Today, we’ll discuss things you have to learn on your own. Hopefully, you’ll do it while you’re still in college! If you’re already out, check this list to see how you’re doing!

#1 – Learn how YOU learn.
Do you learn best by reading? Listening? Watching? Or some combination? You’ll save a lot of time, money, and frustration later if you learn this now.

#2 – Learn HOW to think.
Most students focus on WHAT to think. Get a well-rounded education so you can cut to the essence of any issue. You fully understand a topic when you can debate both sides of an argument equally well.

#3 – Learn self-discipline.
Know how to set goals and schedule yourself to achieve them. Stick to the schedule you’ve set so you can focus on your priorities and balance work with fun.

#4 – Learn how to build YOUR brand.
You are the CEO of most important organization – YOU, Inc. For what will you be famous? What makes you unique? How will you let the world know?

The choices you make are critical. It’s good to be a member of an organization; it’s better to be a leader in it. Choose internships and summer jobs wisely because they reflect on your brand, too.

#5 – Learn how to communicate effectively.

It’s true – you learn a LITTLE bit about this in college. But how you communicate reflects on your brand. For example, if your written work is full of typographical errors and grammatical mistakes, the reader may assume that you’re sloppy or apathetic. Also understand that HOW you say something is just as important as WHAT you say.

#6 – Learn how to build your network.
Take every opportunity to reach out to people with common interests. It’s amazing how few students get to know their professors. They are great mentors even after you’re done with college!

It’s important to cultivate relationships. Take an interest in them. For your network to work when you desperately need it, you’ll need established relationships.

There are no six steps to Kevin Bacon when it comes to networking. You need to get one step removed from the person you need to contact. If you know me, and I know somebody, you have a good chance with that somebody.

#7 – Learn how to find your initial vision.
Your vision consists of your passion, your values, your competencies, and the environment you face. Here are some great resources to help you:

Your vision will probably change over time. However, developing the skills to discover it and work toward it are essential to your bigg success.

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Just click on the Share This button below!

Our bigg quote today comes from the great Ralph Waldo Emerson, who said,

“The things taught in schools and colleges are
not an education, but the means to an education.”

Education is a life-long adventure to discover yourself and uncover your full potential.

As he moves on from the game he loves, superstar quarterback Brett Favre taught us a lesson on peak performance. We’ll discuss it in our next blog.

Brett’s moving on to the perfect job. One with two vacations a year … six months each!

Until next time, here’s to your bigg success! 

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7 Things You Must Learn In College That College Won't Teach You

diploma 

Some things are teachable; others have to be learned. Today, we’ll discuss things you have to learn on your own. Hopefully, you’ll do it while you’re still in college! If you’re already out, check this list to see how you’re doing!

#1 – Learn how YOU learn.
Do you learn best by reading? Listening? Watching? Or some combination? You’ll save a lot of time, money, and frustration later if you learn this now.

#2 – Learn HOW to think.
Most students focus on WHAT to think. Get a well-rounded education so you can cut to the essence of any issue. You fully understand a topic when you can debate both sides of an argument equally well.

#3 – Learn self-discipline.
Know how to set goals and schedule yourself to achieve them. Stick to the schedule you’ve set so you can focus on your priorities and balance work with fun.

#4 – Learn how to build YOUR brand.
You are the CEO of most important organization – YOU, Inc. For what will you be famous? What makes you unique? How will you let the world know?

The choices you make are critical. It’s good to be a member of an organization; it’s better to be a leader in it. Choose internships and summer jobs wisely because they reflect on your brand, too.

#5 – Learn how to communicate effectively.

It’s true – you learn a LITTLE bit about this in college. But how you communicate reflects on your brand. For example, if your written work is full of typographical errors and grammatical mistakes, the reader may assume that you’re sloppy or apathetic. Also understand that HOW you say something is just as important as WHAT you say.

#6 – Learn how to build your network.
Take every opportunity to reach out to people with common interests. It’s amazing how few students get to know their professors. They are great mentors even after you’re done with college!

It’s important to cultivate relationships. Take an interest in them. For your network to work when you desperately need it, you’ll need established relationships.

There are no six steps to Kevin Bacon when it comes to networking. You need to get one step removed from the person you need to contact. If you know me, and I know somebody, you have a good chance with that somebody.

#7 – Learn how to find your initial vision.
Your vision consists of your passion, your values, your competencies, and the environment you face. Here are some great resources to help you:

Your vision will probably change over time. However, developing the skills to discover it and work toward it are essential to your bigg success.

Did you dig this article? Then Digg it!

Just click on the Share This button below!

Our bigg quote today comes from the great Ralph Waldo Emerson, who said,

“The things taught in schools and colleges are
not an education, but the means to an education.”

Education is a life-long adventure to discover yourself and uncover your full potential.

As he moves on from the game he loves, superstar quarterback Brett Favre taught us a lesson on peak performance. We’ll discuss it in our next blog.

Brett’s moving on to the perfect job. One with two vacations a year … six months each!

Until next time, here’s to your bigg success! 

Subscribe to the Bigg Success feed.

Subscribe to The Bigg Success Show in iTunes. 

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