Cupid’s 4 Steps To Follow Your Heart

Happy Valentine’s Day everybody! Cupid sent an arrow through the window of The Bigg Success Show studio today. Here’s what he said in the note he attached to it.

Dear George and Mary-Lynn,

I love The Bigg Success Show! I wanted to write and ask you to share a message with your audience.

It’s great that people today are getting more and more education. But I’m distressed because so much emphasis is placed on thinking logically. I’m afraid that we’re losing our ability to listen to our hearts.

So I’m hoping you’ll share my 4 steps to heading in the heart direction.

Love and kisses,


Cupid’s 4 steps to heading in the heart direction

#1 – Figure out what your heart desires.
You know deep in your heart what you really want. If you were living your heart’s desire, what would you do every day?

Would you be in a different career? Spend less time at work? Own your own business? Spend more time with your family and friends? Volunteer for your favorite cause?

Only you know your heart’s desire … what is it?

#2 – Use your head to plan how to get your heart’s desires. 
You know where you’re at and you know your heart’s desires. How do you connect the dots?

Do some research. Test some ideas. Try to find ways to get where you want to be. Not all your ideas will work. No worry. Keep coming up with solutions to get what your heart desires.

#3 – Believe with all your heart that you can do it.
Believe until it becomes a burning desire. You just can’t be happy until you achieve what you set out to do. Your heart will never be full.

You have to believe SO much that you just KNOW you can do it. Even more that that – you WILL do it because you remember the old quote, “If you believe it, you can achieve it!”

#4 – Put your whole heart into pursuing your heart’s desires.
The first three points have prepared you for this one. Now you’re ready to play the game. Go for it! Give it everything you have!

Along the way you will face adversity. Never give up. Your head will tell you to quit – listen to your heart and keep going!

Cupid’s advice for the heart-broken

You may have tried following your heart and fallen flat on your face. No worry – that will happen.

It’s better “to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” It’s better to pursue your passion than just let life pass you buy. The biggest regrets most people have are for things they did NOT do. Don’t look back on your life and wonder what might have been.

Thanks for sharing these heart-felt tips with us, Cupid!

Our bigg quote today is by Jacque Benigne Bossuel.

“The heart has reasons that reason does not understand.”

Sometimes thinking outside the box is a matter of getting inside your heart.
Next time, we’ll ask you to solve a riddle – Where are you are if you ain’t where you are?

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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Get In Tune With Your Job

Today, we want to compare two great classic country songs – Take This Job and Shove It, made popular by the unforgettable Johnny Paycheck and On the Road Again by the great Willie Nelson.

Shovin’ It
A fun, yet angry song that most of us have sung a time or two in our careers.

#1 – It’s just a job.
He says, “Take this JOB …” It’s not a career or even a stepping-stone to another job. He’s not passionate about what he does; it’s just a paycheck (pun intended) accompanied by a miserable existence.

#2 – He’s suffering for someone else.
He says, “… my woman done left and took all the reasons I was working for.” He’s working at a job he hates to please someone else. It doesn’t work!

#3 – Beware of imaginary traps.
This isn’t a short-term gig. He’s been “working in this factory for nigh on fifteen years.” You can’t blame anyone else for your misery, especially for fifteen years! Yet how many people can cite a number of reasons to stay in a job they hate? Life is too short to be unhappy!

#4 – He can’t stand his bosses.
One’s a “dog”; the other’s a “fool”. It’s true that there are bad bosses in the world. However, have you ever met someone who NEVER has a good boss? Wouldn’t you think that somewhere along the way a good boss would come along?

Lovin’ It
A fun song that makes you feel free just by listening to it.

#1 – He looks forward to work.
He “just can’t wait to get on the road again.” When you love what you do, doin’ it just can’t come soon enough!

#2 – He “makes music with [his] friends.”
Have you ever been part of a team that clicked? You were so productive. Doesn’t it feel good? There’s something special about being part of an exceptional team. We all make music in our own way.

#3 – He’s “going places that [he’s] never been.”

Have you ever been around a group of people who inspired you to reach higher and higher? You want to spend as much time as you can with people like that. They’ll help you get to places that you’ve never been!

#4 – He’s “seein’ things that [he] may never see again.”
As you grow, you outgrow. You can look back with fond memories of where you used to be and how far you’ve come.

So here are two overriding lessons to learn from these two great classics: 

  • YOU and you ALONE are in control of your life.
  • If you don’t believe that, you have a HUGE problem. It’s the single most destructive thought you can have. Shovin’ It is the result. When you realize that you’re in control, you’re Lovin’ It. Life is an adventure of your own creation.

  • Shovin’ It dreams of living while Lovin’ It is living his dreams.
  • One dreams of telling his boss to shove it. But he still hasn’t done it. Did you realize that? We didn’t until we prepared for this blog. The other just can’t wait to get back on the road again to do what he loves to do some more. He’s living his dreams every day!

We’ve talked about 2 songs here, but there are others that inspire us in our lives.

What song gets you in tune? Let us know by sharing a Comment below!

Our bigg quote today is by C.S. Lewis:

“We all want progress, but if you're on the wrong road, progress means doing an about-turn and walking back to the right road; in that case, the man who turns back soonest is the most progressive.”

You’re never at a dead-end because you can always do a u-turn and get back on the road again that leads to your bigg dreams.

Next time, we’ll discuss a costly mistake that you should NOT make. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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Take This Job and Shove It

On the Road Again 

Escape From Your Dead-End Job

Bigg Challenge: We received a question from Gary, one of our listeners. He graduated from college a few years ago with a liberal arts degree. He had planned to go to law school, but didn’t want even more debt. He tried to get a job in his field, but didn’t find one. So he’s still delivering pizza, a job he started in college.

He feels trapped. He’s applied for a number of jobs, but has been told that he’s not qualified because of his inexperience. He wants our advice on how to get out of his dead-end job.

Bigg Advice: Sometimes you know you have more potential than your job offers. It sounds like you’re in that position, Gary. But keep your chin up – you’ll find a rewarding career if you keep trying.

You don’t find your current job challenging. But here’s the good news – when you go home, your job doesn’t go with you. Think about these two questions:

  • What are you passionate about?
  • Are there opportunities to do something part-time in that field?

Get your foot in the door.
On the show, Mary-Lynn said that, when she was young, she wanted to work full-time in radio as a disc jockey. She didn’t have the experience or the skills required.

So she got a full-time job as a waitress and worked part-time at a local radio station. Whenever an opportunity presented itself, she volunteered her time so she could learn the skills she needed. She wasn’t getting paid for that time, but she was investing in her future.

It paid off! Within a year, she got a full-time job as a disc jockey! Get your foot in the door.

  • From janitor to mogul
  • As a kid, Sean Combs knew that he wanted to be in the music business. He went to New York and volunteered to be the janitor at a record company.

    They were growing fast because hip hop was hot. They needed people. They were comfortable with him. They knew that he had a good ear for talent. He had proven himself. In a year, he became the Vice President of Marketing. We know the rest!

Part-time business
Would you like to start your own business? Could you do it part-time? A lot of businesses – like Dell, Microsoft, and Apple – started part-time.

On the show, George said that he was a salesperson when he was young. After his work was done for the day, he devoted his time to his part-time business. Within two years, he opened a store, which provided him a full-time salary.

Back to school
You mentioned law school, Gary – why not go back now? You may have to take on some debt, but most lawyers get paid well. Odds are you’ll be able to pay it off quickly. It doesn’t have to be law school. Maybe there’s something else you’re passionate about that offers great opportunities now and in the future.

Thanks, Gary, for sending us your bigg challenge. We wish you bigg success!

Do you have a suggestion for Gary? Leave a comment below.

Our Bigg Quote comes from Cullen Hightower.

“Worry compounds the futility of being trapped
on a dead-end street. Thinking opens new avenues.”

But that’s just the start! After you’ve thought about your escape route, put it in gear and burn some rubber getting out of there!

Next time, with the Super Bowl upon us, we’re going to discuss how to fumble forward, toward the end zone. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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Abandon Ship!

Yesterday, we said that persistence is the single most important ingredient for your success. If you persist long enough, you’re sure to succeed! However, you have to be smart about it. With that in mind, here are four signs that it’s time to abandon ship!

Internal signs
#1 – It’s affecting your health.
Your health is more important than any career. You may be having anxiety attacks, experiencing constant stress, feeling burned out or fatigued. These are indications that it may be time for a change.

To succeed bigg, you’ll feel stressed from time-to-time. You need to push on, unless it’s affecting your health long-term. NOTHING is worth that. If your long-term health is being affected by what you’re doing, it’s time to abandon ship!

#2 – You’re bored beyond belief.
You’ve been there, done that. Every day feels like a week. It’s harder and harder to get out of bed in the morning. You don’t look forward to work. You feel like you’re stagnating.

The first sign covers your physical health. Here we’re talking about your mental health. When you’re bored to tears, it’s time to abandon ship!

External signs
#3 – There’s no room for growth.
This is related to the second sign. However, in this case, it’s beyond your control. It may be that you’ve been promoted as far as you can go. Perhaps you can’t expect any significant increase in your income. Maybe your company is reaching maturity.

You’ve taken it as far as the circumstances will allow. If there’s little or no opportunity on the horizon, it’s time to abandon ship!

#4 – The trends are bad.
Change happens. It affects your industry – for good or bad. If it’s creating damage, ask yourself 

Is it a trend or is it a fad?

Fads are short term – they will come and go. Trends are long-term things that you can’t change. Warren Buffet, the Oracle of Omaha, said, “When management with a reputation for brilliance tackles a business with a reputation for bad economics, it is the reputation of the business that remains intact.”

We don’t doubt that you’re good. But even you can’t buck the trends. If it’s a fad, push on! If it’s a trend that’s devastating your industry, abandon ship!

Have you felt the need to abandon ship? Or maybe you’re considering it now?
Share your experience with us … leave a comment below!

But don’t just jump ship … prepare your life boat first.

Store up provisions.
Find ways to save some money – skip that latte or pack a lunch until you get settled. Set it aside to provide for you and your family.

Don’t forget your life jacket.
This is your support network. Talk to people who will encourage you, weigh in with ideas, and perhaps refer you to good opportunities.

Remember your compass.
Obviously, you need to know that you’re headed in the right direction. Check out these great resources for guidance:

Your Personal SWOT Analysis (Part I)    

Your Personal SWOT Analysis (Part II)   

Coping With Life Change    

Your Potential Power    

Are You Going Through A Mid-Life (Career) Crisis  

Is It Time For You To Rock And Roll (Change Careers)    

10 Signs That You’re Ready To Quit Your Job And Start A Business    

Stretch Yourself Anew    

What Makes You Tick    

Finding The “Good” In Good-Bye    

How Do You Define Success      

Visualizing The Life You Want (Part II)    

Climbing The Stairway To Success    

Take your oars.
You don’t want to just float, so grab your oars. These are things you can do to steer you in the right direction – like take a class or get a part-time job in a field you think might be interesting.

Bring your flare gun.
Prepare to market yourself – spruce up your resume and cover letter. Think creatively so you get the attention of the right people.

Our Bigg Quote today comes from George William Curtis.

“It is not the ship so much as the skillful sailing that assures the prosperous voyage.”

You are the captain of your own ship. Usually you will persist and stay with the course. But occasionally, the best thing you can do is to find a new ship and start your journey anew. Bon voyage!

Next time, we’ll answer a question for one of our newsletter subscribers. He wants some tips on wooing potential investors over dinner. We’ll talk about how to be dashing while dining!

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

Regrets…Had A Few?

Last time, we talked about starting over to turn misfortune into fortune. Today, we want to discuss a study about regrets. The study was done by Dr. Neal Roese, professor of psychology, and Amy Summerville, graduate student researcher, at the University of Illinois.

In What We Regret … and Why, they assert that the biggest regrets that people have revolve around their education (cited by 32 percent of participants) and their career (selected by 22 percent of participants).

What about you? If you could do it again, would you get a different degree? Choose a different career? Study harder?

The good news is we have more choices today than ever before. The bad news is more choices mean more things to bemoan. The authors discuss two types of regret:

    • Action regrets.

These are regrets from things we did. If we lament something that’s relatively insignificant, we’re usually able to get past it with relative ease. If something was done that goes against our character, it’s tougher to get over it.

It’s not productive to beat yourself up. Apologize if need be. Learn from your mistakes. Resolve to do better next time. Then move on.

    • Inaction regrets.

According to the authors, these regrets are harder to overcome. They involve our imagination. We keep thinking about what might have been if only …

But that’s also a waste of our energy. Don’t think about what might have been. Focus on what might be. You can always make a U-turn on the Bigg Success Highway! Take action! Do something about it!

Mission accomplished! The longest college career in history ends happily.
Nola Ochs started college in 1930, but she didn’t finish. Life got in the way. She always wished she had been able to complete college.

Last May, she graduated from Fort Hays State University at the ripe young age of 95. According to The Guinness Book of World Records, Nola is the oldest person to complete their college degree.

She’s a living testament that you’re never too old to achieve your dreams.

Regrets … we’ve all had a few. But the best way to get over them is to take action! That gets you focused on how to achieve, rather than thinking how you failed.

Our quote today was made by Alexander Graham Bell.

“When one door closes, another opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”

Walk through your open doors and you may just find … room for improvement. Nola Ochs did it … so can you!

Tomorrow, we’ll look at why twenty somethings are getting a bad rap. Do they deserve it? Or is it just a generation gap? Until then, here’s to your big success!


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