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I Changed My Mind – How Can I Back Out of a Commitment?

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We received an e-mail from Joe who recently agreed to serve on a committee of a local non-profit organization. He’s discovered that it’s a bigger commitment than he thought. So he wants to know what he should do to get out of it.

Bigg Advice
You obviously had good intentions, Joe. Sometimes our circumstances change – health issues, new responsibilities, extra care for loved ones, or any number of things. Since there’s no mention of that in your e-mail, we’ll assume that it’s not the case here.

5 options to reduce your responsibility to this commitment

#1 – Quit
This is the most cut-and-dry way to do it. However, keep in mind that it may damage your reputation. That’s why we don’t think it’s a very good option.

#2 – Fulfill your commitment

We think your best option is to suck it up and honor your commitment. Then don’t recommit at the end of your term. You’ll deliver on your promise. Your reputation will remain intact. Learn from this experience so you don’t repeat it.

#3 – Find someone to replace you
We think this is your next best option. If you know someone who is interested in the organization, talk to them to see if you can recruit them to take your place. You’ll leave with your reputation intact because you didn’t leave the group hanging.

#4 – Find someone who can help you
Can someone assist you? For example, perhaps they could make phone calls or send e-mails for you. Delegate some of the work so the commitment is more in line with what you thought.

#5 – Can you be reassigned?
Talk to chair person of the committee. Maybe you can “trade duties” with someone else on the committee who is looking for more responsibility. If your circumstances have changed, the chair person will probably be happy to help.

We’ve been in this situation ourselves, Joe. The bottom line is that you should try to minimize the damage to yourself and the organization.

2 tips to keep this situation from repeating itself

#1 – Don’t commit on the spot

Many people are very flattered when they are recruited to serve. They often say “yes” on the spot, without really giving it much thought.

To keep this from happening again – commit to never committing on the spot!

The U.S. government has laws to protect consumers – you get 72 hours to reconsider a purchase. That’s a good rule when someone asks you to give your time …

Give it a day or three!

Thank them for considering you but tell them you’ll need to think about it for a few days.

#2 – When you say “yes” to anything, you’re saying “no” to something.

A lot of people don’t think about this. As you’re considering giving your time for a new cause, think about what you’ll have to give up because we all only have 24 hours in a day!

What's your bigg challenge? E-mail us: bigginfo@biggsuccess.com
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Our bigg quote today is by Tony Robbins, who said,

“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.”

Once you say, “Yes, I’ll do it” … the best thing to focus on is how to get it done.

Next time, we’ll talk about how to reclaim your weekend. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

 

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I Get Anxious Before an Interview. How Do I Relax?

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Kelly e-mailed us because she gets overly nervous about job interviews. She wants to know how to get over it before her upcoming interviews. 

Bigg Advice
It’s natural to get nervous when you interview. Here are some key things you can do to overcome your anxiety. Before the interview It boils down to self-confidence, which largely comes from preparation. There are three ways you should prepare:

Before the interview
It boils down to self-confidence, which largely comes from preparation. There are three ways you should prepare:

#1 – Research
Get information about the industry and the specific company. If they’re a public company, you’ll find a lot of information available. If not, you can still check out their web site and search the internet to see what you can learn. Also, check your local library.

Try to learn more about the person or persons with whom you’ll be talking. Once again, Google them. Also, check out social media sites like Facebook and Linked In to see what you learn.

#2 – Questions and answers
Think about the questions they might ask and prepare your answers. Reflect upon your past interviews for some clues. Also talk to friends who have interviewed recently. And if you have friends in human resources or management, get some hints from them.

As you think about how you’ll answer the questions, focus on what makes you unique. Everyone says they’re a “good people person”. Think “you” – how will hiring you benefit them? Give specific examples from your past that show what you can do.

#3 – Rehearse
Practice in front of a mirror until you’re happy with what you’re saying and how you’re saying it. Also, set up a friend with flash cards so you can do some role playing.

If that friend is in human resources or management, so much the better. If you don’t know anyone like that, find a friend who’s a successful interviewee with whom to practice.

During the interview
You’re prepared and the bigg day is upon you. Now put yourself in the right frame of mind. Keep in mind that a little bit of anxiety is good – it will make you sharper.

On the show, Mary-Lynn said that a good friend of hers gave her some great advice the day before a bigg interview

Take deep breaths and believe in yourself.

Give yourself a positive affirmation as you’re walking in. You can do it – you’re fully prepared!

As the interview starts, focus only on the conversation at that moment. Don’t worry about anything from the past. Don’t try to anticipate upcoming questions. Deal with one question at a time.

And remember, it’s just a conversation. Pretend it’s a good friend and you’re telling him or her all about the work you’ve done, the work you want to do, and why you should be hired.

Finally, remember they have to sell you, too. You’re investigating a job opportunity. This may not be the right one. You’re there to learn about them and let them know how great you are! That’s all!

Thanks, Kelly. We know you’ll do great!

If you have a bigg challenge, send it our way bigginfo@biggsuccess.com,

Our bigg quote today comes from Beyonce Knowles:

“I get nervous when I don’t get nervous. If I’m
nervous, I know I’m going to have a good show.”

Turn your nervousness about nervousness upside down so when it’s show time, you’ll be a star!

Next time, we’ll look at how two great coaches built their winning teams. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

 

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Keep Your Job Or Buy A Franchise?

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Ellen e-mailed us because she and her husband are considering buying a franchise. Currently, she’s the #2 executive at a small business she’s worked at for years. She has two questions:

  • What franchise should she buy?
  • Will it pay off within ten years, because she plans to retire then?

Bigg Advice
Obviously, this is a very personal decision, so only you can decide what franchise to buy. We can, however, give you some guidelines.

What’s your expertise? What are your interests? Where’s the opportunity? Match these up when looking for your franchise.

How to find your franchise

Check out 66] to learn more about the International Franchise Association. This industry group also provides some fantastic resources for people like you. In the article, you’ll see our review of their exhaustive, step-by-step guide to buying a franchise. The only thing we don’t like about it is that we didn’t write it!

They also have a listing of franchises, but in our opinion, it’s not as user-friendly as the next great resource.

You’ve probably heard of the Fortune 500. Entrepreneur publishes a similar list called the Franchise 500 every year. You can look up franchises by category – restaurants, business services, and just about any other category you can imagine.

They also have lists of the top new franchises, the lowest cost franchises, top home-based franchises, fastest growing franchises, and more. We definitely recommend that you check it out.

Making it pay
Buying a franchise, as with any business, comes with uncertainty. You have to take chances to succeed. However, you can and should reduce your risk to a level you can tolerate. You’ve heard us say this before – successful entrepreneurs are very adept at that.

Use the resources we mentioned above. Do your homework. Build your projections, but remember they are just SWAG.

SWAG, in this sense, has nothing to do with the Oscar presenters! It is an acronym for scientific, wild-assed guesses! So make sure you build some “fudge” into your guesstimates.

Is there another option?
You’ve painted an either / or picture – you either keep your job or you buy a franchise. We wonder if there are other alternatives.

You mentioned your husband, but we don’t really know what his situation is. Could he run the business?

You could also hire someone to run the franchise for you. Find a way to align their interest with yours. This could range from sharing profits to an actual ownership stake.

Obviously, if you choose this last option, you’ll have to accept a lower upside. However, your downside is a lot less, too.

If either of these works, you can keep your job AND buy a franchise!

Thanks, Ellen for sharing your bigg challenge! We wish you bigg success, whatever you decide!

What’s your bigg challenge? E-mail it to us at bigginfo@biggsuccess.com!

Our bigg quote today is over 2,000 years old. Seneca, the Roman philosopher, said:

“It's not because things are difficult that we dare not venture.
It's because we dare not venture that they are difficult.”

You have to look at the downside, but if you spend too much time focusing on that, you’ll never enjoy the upside.

Next time, we’ll discuss a recent study that shows that happiness is overrated. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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There’s Trouble On The Homefront

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Robin e-mailed us because she recently started a home-based business and she’s having trouble with all the distractions.

Her young children need attention, family and friends call her, the neighbor pops in periodically, and she often ends up working on a personal project instead of her business.

She wants to know how to be more productive amidst all the distractions!

Bigg Advice
Congratulations on your start-up, Robin. And don’t feel alone in your situation – a lot of people have trouble adapting to working at home. Here are 3 thoughts to make working at home work:

1st – Designate a workspace just for your business
Create a space that looks and feels like an office. Having a dedicated space puts you in the right frame of mind. Design it with productivity and comfort in mind because you will be spending a lot of time there. It should be more than the kitchen table or a card table in the guest room.

2nd – Establish a schedule
Determine your work times. Sounds like a job, doesn’t it? You’re not limiting your freedom; you’re ensuring your success!

Consider taking the kids to daycare. Isn’t that what you would do if you worked in an office?

You may be trying to keep all of your costs down, during this start-up phase. But you’ll never get out of the start-up phase if you don’t make time for work.

Maybe you decided to work at home so you could spend more time with your kids. Then dedicate a couple of hours during the day to work. Perhaps while the kids take their naps. Then really hunker down after they go to bed for the evening.

Your schedule doesn’t have to be 9 to 5. You can custom design it!  Just stick to it once you’ve established it.

3rd – Communicate the boundaries.
With the adults in your life, this SHOULD be easier. Let them know that you value your time with them, but you need time to build your business. Consider setting regular times for coffee or lunch. Wouldn’t it be nice to get away now and then?

Let them know when you won’t be available – just like if you had a job working in an office! If they call during your work hours, let it go to voice mail. Check to make sure it’s not an emergency; then get back to work. And just because there’s a knock on the door doesn’t mean you have to answer it – unless it’s Publishers Clearing House!

With your kids, it may be trickier. If they’re really young, they won’t understand. Try this – plan some play time with them early in the day. Explain that you have things to do, but if they’re really good, you’ll do something fun with them later.

Thanks for sharing your bigg challenge with us, Robin. We wish you bigg success!

Do you have some tips for working at home? Leave us a Comment!

Our Bigg Quote today is by Paul J. Meyer:

“Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a
commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.”

Working at home works best when you plan your work and work your plan.

Next time, we’ll discuss how to get attention for your message amidst all the clutter. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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What Kind Of Tater Are You?

In our last blog, we discussed 24 the role of role playing ]– practicing to be perfect, professionally and personally.

Since tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day here in the U.S., we want to ask you a question:

What kind of ‘tater are you?

You don’t want to be a:

Spectator – These people sit on the sideline, never getting in the game. They just sit and watch you do all the work.

Hesitator – These are people who talk about their ideas and dreams, but never do anything to reach them.

Commentator – People who find fault with the people playing the game. Never get in the game. Never take risk. Never 13 fail forward]. Never succeed.

Imitator – These people are so unhappy with themselves, they have to pretend to be something they’re not.

Dictator – Bossy people. They’re not confident that they can sell others on their ideas, so they have to try to bully them.

Agitator – Perhaps the worst of all. These people like to stir things up. They’re only happy when they’re unhappy. They try to unite people as a negative force.

You want to be a:

Facilitator – These people are always looking for a solution. They bring out the best in others by making work easier.

Sweet ‘tater – These humble, likeable, nice people will do just about anything for anyone. They genuinely like people. The get respect because they treat people with respect.

We challenge you to be a facilitator and a sweet ‘tater. Our quote today is by John Cassis, the former baseball player who became a motivational speaker.

“It’s nice to be important, but it’s more important to be nice.”

Nice is a nice way to be. Tomorrow, we’ll put the “thanks” in Thanksgiving. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!