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Why Hard Work is NOT the Key to Success

achieve BIGG Success without hard workAsk just about anyone and they’ll tell you – hard work is the key to success.

What do you think? Does hard work lead to success? More specifically, will you make more money by working hard?

We vote “No”. Now before you dismiss us, please permit us to explain our rationale.

BIGG success is life on your own terms. The five elements of BIGG success are money, time, growth, work and play.

Four of the five elements are directly involved with the subject at hand – money, time, work and play. Growth is required to understand and, more importantly, live out the concept.

The secret to succeeding without hard work

There’s only one way to succeed without working hard: Spend your time doing work that seems like play.

When you do this, you naturally work more. As you work more, your skills improve. As your skills improve, you make more money.

Now we’ve completed the circle of the five elements of BIGG success!

Of course, it may not all seem like play – especially at first. In the main, you’re doing the work you love. But there may be some parts you’d rather not do.

Fortunately, there’s a simple remedy.

More money and more options

The remedy is to set aside a portion of this newfound money. Use it to hire help.

It may range from a maid to an accountant. Pay others to do the thing you don’t want to do.

Buy more time to do your work which seems like play.

Success doesn’t come from hard work.

The key to success is endurance. You have to persevere in spite of all the inevitable obstacles.

If your work seems like play, you’ll be better prepared to endure. It leads to BIGG success!

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Stop Giving 110 Percent to Be a Success

stop saying this to be a BIGG SuccessWe hear people say this all the time – “I gave 110 percent.”

(It’s funny – if you watch them closely, you’ll see that, most of the time, most of the people who make this claim aren’t even close. But that’s not our point today.)

This is a phrase we’d like to see just go away. It sets false expectations.

You can’t do it. You can’t give 110 percent. It’s physically impossible.

If you believe you can, you’re wrong. So stop trying.

You’re not a slacker if you don’t give 110 percent. You won’t come up short if you don’t give 110 percent.

Can you pour 8.8 ounces of liquid in a cup with an 8 ounce capacity?

Of course not. By trying, you waste valuable energy and effort.

Your capacity is 100 percent. That’s the maximum, the most you can do.

So focus on giving 100 percent to everything you do. No more. No less.

Work

Give 100 percent to your work. By the way, 100 percent still means going the extra mile, doing those things that most people don’t do.

Because most people don’t give 100 percent. To anything or anyone. Except possibly themselves.

So you’ll be a BIGG success at work if you just give 100 percent.

Relationships

Give 100 percent to your relationships. It’s the only way they’ll work.

Some people think they can build a relationship by giving 51 percent. Or 80 percent.

It won’t work. If the relationship starts to grow, it will wither up and die if both parties only give 50 or 51 or even 80 percent.

You have to give 100 percent to any relationship if you want it to bud into something beautiful. And so does the other person.

Since you can’t control them, you can only focus on your 100 percent. If you don’t get 100 percent back, then you know they aren’t committed to building a relationship with you.

Yourself

Give 100 percent to yourself. You have to. It’s a requirement if you want to be a BIGG success.

Yet most people neglect this one. They give their all at work. They give their all to others.

But they don’t have any energy left to give to themselves. Don’t make this mistake.

Make sure you give your mind, your body, and your spirit 100 percent everyday.

All you can do is all you can do. But all you can do is what you must do if you want to be a BIGG success!

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How Too Much Communication Killed a Relationship

Communication that hurts relationships | BIGG SuccessHe had always been proud to call her his bride. But now things were different. She was different.

He knew it hadn’t happened overnight. But it seemed like it did. He began to notice it with little things.

He would ask a question. She wouldn’t respond.

He cracked a joke. She didn’t laugh.

They would go out for dinner. He talked about his day. She seemed bored.

He asked her about her day. She didn’t have much to say.

Her mind always seemed to be somewhere else. And then he started to understand the source of the problem.

She had begun seeking solace from another. An outsider had intruded into their relationship.

This outsider was a force to be reckoned with. It was evident in the changes he could see in her.

They had always said that nothing could ever come between them. Now this one was.

It all seemed so innocent…at first. She had introduced him to this outsider. He was glad that she had this source of support. He could see how happy she was playing with this one.

But now she was smitten. Almost all of her attention was reserved for this “thing”. He couldn’t think of “it” as human but she sure did.

“How much time does she need to spend communicating with it?” he wondered. “Why is she so fascinated?”

This thing was ever present. Every day. In the evening. Even on the weekends. She always had time for it.

“Maybe I’m the third party,” he thought, feeling sorry for himself. No, he was just coming to terms with reality.

She made him feel less important than that thing she had fallen in love with. He felt alone.

At times, he was angry. On other occasions, he felt hurt, dejected, rejected.

But little did he know, it was about to get worse for him. One night, he had to work late.

He got home, stopped and looked at the mail, and then wandered over to the refrigerator. She had told him she would have a plate for him to heat up.

He opened the door and looked in. No plate.

He looked around. Maybe plans had changed. Had she left a note.

No note anywhere. No nothing.

He walked toward their bedroom. He didn’t know that his world was about to fall apart.

As he gazed through the open door, she was asleep in bed. But she wasn’t alone.

She was snuggled up with the thing – her smartphone!

Do you sleep with your smartphone?

(Inspired by Sleeping With Your Smartphone by Leslie Perlow)

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Life Blend and a Weekend for Winners

Having a winners weekend for BIGG SuccessIf you’re a long-time reader of ours, you probably know we’re not fans of the concept of work-life balance.

We feel that the term work-life balance is a mislabeling. It implies that work is not a part of life.

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We think the concept creates an unrealistic expectation. It may have been fine a generation or two ago, but work-life balance doesn’t work now.

We like the term life sync. Strive for harmony by syncing up the various areas of your life.

And always look for synergy, the BIGG idea behind BIGG success.

BIGG success is life on your own terms. You create your own custom life blend. It’s the perfect mix of both your personal and professional lives, along with all the various parts of each of them.

So let’s talk about 5 ways to have a winner’s weekend. BIGG goal-getters are givers. But today, we want to focus on YOU.

You need to make sure you’re taking care of you too. It’s how you stay invigorated and energized for the BIGG work you’re doing. So we’re going to use an acronym to describe the winner’s weekend:

RELAX!

R is for Read

Don’t read the stuff you always read. Winners open themselves up to new ideas and escape to different worlds.

So relive a great moment in history through the words of an author. Read a great work of fiction to expand your mind to things you’ve never experienced.

E is for Experience

Get out and enjoy the wonderful world around you, and experience nature in all her majesty. Whether it be sunny or rainy, take a moment to be awed. Go for a walk along a river, lake, or ocean.

Admire some great works of art. Study them. Get inside the artist’s head.

And don’t forget the music – take in some awesome music that stirs your soul.

L is for Love

We said this weekend was largely about you. But you won’t be whole if you don’t share some of yourself with others.

And don’t forget that love is also a verb. So show the people closest to you how much you love them.

Love grows when you give it away, at least if you love the right people. So give your love to expand your heart and the hearts of the most important people in your life.

A is for Activity

Get out from behind your computer. Turn off the TV. Go do something you love to do.

Better yet, do something you loved to do when you were a kid.

Get out your Frisbie. Play some wiffle ball.

What did you do when you were a kid? Bring back your child-like nature to expand your creativity and exercise your body.

X is for eXorcise

(Yes, we know – we cheated a little here. But c’mon – X words are tough!).

Take some time to exorcise those things that will hold you back.

Are you angry with someone about something? Forget about it. If you don’t, they win.

Holding a grudge? Forgive them.

Do you have regrets? Stop thinking about it. If you don’t, you’ll have more to regret tomorrow.

Also take this time to get rid of your inner demons. You know – those things that you tell yourself when things don’t go as expected. Fight them now while you’re strong. Remind yourself of your strengths and your successes.

You may have noticed as you read this post – the winner’s weekend is good for your mind, your soul, your heart, your body, and your humanity.

So RELAX for your BIGG success!

What invigorates you? How will you RELAX this weekend?

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The Recipe for Success with Your Partner and Key People

The recipe for BIGG SuccessCatherine Morgan over at the PointAtoPointBTransitions blog recently wrote a great post about using your “lens” in your decision making process.

When evaluating opportunities, she encourages us to use our “lens” to find the right fit and to filter out those that aren’t.

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Catherine provides a couple of examples: A client who is using his lens to evaluate his next career step and a solopreneur who is using her lens to find companies with the budget for her core services.

Our lenses

We thought we’d share our lenses with you because it will help illustrate the recipe for success in your relationships.

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Mary-Lynn FosterI look for win/win and have the courage to walk away when that doesn’t end up in the equation. I take time to consider the opportunity. I weigh out the good and the bad. I’m careful to not inject “good” where it isn’t simply because I want it to be there. I’m equally cautious to not put something in the “bad” column because it takes me out of my comfort zone. In the end, my decision is based on what is right for me, and I’ve learned this through past decisions that were both correct & incorrect.

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George Krueger I’ve learned the hard way that I’m terribly optimistic. So I look at the downside of opportunities. The faster I can get to “No”, the better. If the risk can’t be reduced to an acceptable level, I pass. If the risk is tolerable, then I weigh it against the financial and non-monetary rewards.

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The power of different lenses

Mary-Lynn FosterSo, we both see opportunity through very different lenses. You can see I bring more emotion into it, while George is highly logical.

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So you might think the two of us would have a challenge coming together when we’re making decisions as a married couple or as partners in BIGG Success.

But the opposite is actually true. The two approaches help us make better decisions.

They’re part of the recipe for success with your partner and other key people in your life. And that’s the point we want to make today.

In your quest for BIGG success, you need to align yourself with people who approach challenges and opportunities from a different mindset.

But you can’t leave these critical ingredients out…

Now, we hasten to add – you need a shared vision and values with these key people in your life and your business. Otherwise, it won’t work.

But once you have that foundation to build upon, differences create more value.

Now, it can lead to some pretty spirited discussions. Arguments even!

But healthy ones at that. As long as you add one more vital ingredient to this recipe for success – respect.

You have to respect where the other person is coming from and what they’re saying even if you don’t agree.

So mix a little respect with a shared vision and values and then spice it up with some differences. It’s the recipe for BIGG success!

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