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Think Want, Need, Must About Your Time

pyramids We can place our spending into three categories – wants, needs, and musts. Last time, we applied these categories to money. Today we want to apply them to spending our time.

There’s a trap that’s easy to fall into when it comes to spending our time. We spend time how we want to, instead of how we need to. Then we end up with a must do.

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If you think of a pyramid, with wants at the base, needs in the middle, and musts at the top, we tend to focus too much energy at the bottom of the pyramid at the expense of the top.

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marylynnI may have a lot of things on my “must list” but I’ll zip over to Facebook to see what my friends are up to!

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georgeWhile we need to do quite a bit of research for Bigg Success, I can just get lost in it. I’ve already learned what I need to know, but I’m still interested so I just keep going.

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Why do we work on wants? Without a doubt, there are many reasons. The task at hand is difficult. It’s easier to work on something else. We may prefer to work on something else. It may be more fun to do something else. These are just a few of the reasons.

Start by defining

With our money, our musts are easy to determine – food, clothing, shelter and transportation. They’re a constant. With our time, our musts are much more flexible. They are things that are deadline-driven or crisis-related.

Our needs involve personal growth and interpersonal relations as well as activities that get us ahead of that deadline or prevent the crisis. Our wants then are everything else – generally activities that we like to do.

The time paradox

So why does this happen …

on those days when we have a full schedule, we get a lot done, but …

on days when we don’t have so much to do, we don’t seem to accomplish much?

When we’re required to really focus, we can get it done. When the pressure is off, we’re more likely to drift. We do what we want. If we’re not careful, if we don’t do the things we need to do, the needs move up to musts in the form of a pressing deadline or a crisis that could have been prevented.

Daily starter

So start each day with a blank piece of paper. Write “Musts” at the top, “Needs” in the middle, and “Wants” toward the bottom. Then, map out your day by making your list under each item. When you get done with your “Musts”, you can work on “Needs” and once they’re complete, you get to work on your “Wants”. It’s like a reward!

Musts, Wants, Needs – keeping these three categories in mind helps you best allocate your time!

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We really appreciate you reading our post today. You’ve heard of stepping stones … join us next time when we’ll discuss overstepping stones. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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How to Feel Rich Today

rich_dessert Rich is a very rich word. It’s commonly defined as “wealth”, but “rich” has many meanings.

It means “quality” – “That’s a rich idea.”

It implies “fullness” – “I have a rich life."

Another meaning is “fruitful” – “He farms rich soil.”

Rich goes way beyond the common perception.

Conditions vs. Expectations
If your current conditions equal or exceed your expectations, you’re happy. If you’re happy, you can feel rich.

If your conditions don’t meet your expectations, then you’re unhappy. In that case, you can either change your conditions or change your expectations.

3 ways to change your conditions


#1 – Change your attitude.

It all starts with you. If you think you can’t do something, you can’t. It’s that simple.

#2 – Change your self-talk.
Keep telling yourself that “you can do it”. Yes, we know about the Adam Sandler movies!

Say it over and over until you really, truly believe it. Every time you tell yourself something negative, you’re actually two steps behind. You’ve taken a step back because of this self-doubt, and you could have taken a step forward.

#3 – Emulate successful people.

You may not FEEL like doing something. Do it anyway. Fake it. Force it. Do what successful people do long enough and you’ll be successful.

3 ways to change your expectations

#1 – Stop trying to keep up with the Jones’.

It’s your life, not theirs. What difference does their opinion make? You’re the one who has to be proud of you.

#2 – Set goals that are achievable.
If you set the bar so high that all you do is work toward that goal, you won’t have a rich life. Set goals that stretch you, but don’t break you as you try to achieve them.

#3 – Look at what you have, not what you don’t have. 

Savor your accomplishments before you move on. Look at your relationships and all the things for which you can be happy.

A man who changed his conditions

A friend of ours got in with a group at work that complained about everything – their conditions, their boss, and the company. They also never gave an ounce more than they needed to in order to keep their jobs.

One day, our friend got assigned to a project with a guy who was a bigg goal-getter. This guy only said good things about work, their boss, and the company. He did little things that made him stand out. Our friend emulated him. Before long, he got a promotion with a bigg raise.

A woman who changed her expectations

Sarah Susanka is an architect who has written ten books, including The Not-So-Big Life. She was a busy professional, but she was unhappy. She was so busy, though, that she couldn’t spare the time to figure out what to do about it.

After some time, she learned that she had breast cancer. While going through treatment, she didn’t have much energy, but she had time to think. She realized that quality, not quantity, is what matters. She says to focus on your comfort, not what impresses other people.

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Our bigg quote today is by Oscar Wilde, who said,

“Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul
are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you.”

All the things money can buy comes with a price tag. All the things money can’t buy. Priceless.

There’s our nod to VISA … but you won’t have to use your VISA!

With spring here tomorrow, we’ll discuss three steps to make your success grow. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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Is It Better to be Lucky or Smart?

 

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Happy St. Patrick’s Day!

We have a friend who buy and sells businesses. He’s been very successful over the last thirteen years. He started out by buying a bunch of businesses for a small amount of money. A few years later, he sold those businesses for a large amount of money.

Then he did it all over again. He’s timed his activities so he buys when the market is low, and sells when it’s high.

So is he lucky or smart?

He says, “It’s better to be lucky than smart.”

3 lessons about luck and intelligence

#1 – You have to be smart in order to do well.
When you first look into a subject, it often appears rather simple. Then as you dig deeper, you start to see all the complexity. As you wade through it, you begin reducing it to its essence and you start to see it as simple again.

You go from simple with no complexity to simple with a full understanding of the complexity. That’s how you know you’ve mastered something. Our friend has mastered the craft of buying and selling businesses.

#2 – You have to remain humble.

You have to recognize that you’re not in control of everything. Luck enters the picture to some degree. The opposite of that is arrogance. Some people don’t realize, or won’t admit, that luck is involved.

They get cocky. They think the rules don’t apply to them. Things come easy for them so they think they will always come easy. They don’t have to “waste” time doing menial activities – the things that made them successful in the first place. The next thing you know, they face an unlucky turn of events!

#3 – Don’t push your luck.
Our friend says that “he leaves a lot of money on the table.” He often says, “I sold it too early.”  But that’s why he’s been so “lucky” – he’s not greedy.

We have another friend who says,

“It’s okay to be stupid, if you’re not greedy.
And it’s okay to be greedy if you’re not stupid.
But if you’re stupid and greedy, look out!”

So is it better to be lucky or smart? We think you’re lucky to be smart – smart enough to know that luck plays into it, too!

Jake’s Take – Top 5 signs that you’re unlucky!
by Jake Novak

#5 – You've been asked to lead the marching band in your local St. Patrick's Day parade, but you play the cello!

#4 – Some people reach into their pant’s pockets and find loose change. You try to reach into your pockets and realize you're not wearing pants!

#3 – Like everyone else this year, you get a lot of those automated campaign calls during dinner, but these recorded calls urge you NOT to vote for their candidate!

#2 – You've always been the first on the block to buy the coolest new electronic equipment, like 8-track tapes, the BetaMax, and HD-DVD!

#1 – When you go to the doctor, they ask you for your insurance card – your LIFE insurance card!

Instead of our usual bigg quote, we’ll do an Irish toast instead:

May you have all the happiness
and luck that life can hold—
And at the end of all your rainbows
may you find a pot of gold.

And hopefully, it’s not fool’s good!

Check out our Bigg Fun page for more St. Patrick’s Day humor!

In our next blog, we’ll discuss nine presentation tips to make you a star! Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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The Single Most Destructive Thought You Can Have

Here we are – the holidays are over and we’re back to work. We’re ripe with enthusiasm as we consider the possibilities for the New Year. With that in mind, we want to talk about the single most destructive thought you can have.

Think of people you know who have one or more of the following traits:

  • Need constant recognition.
  • Often angry, or depressed.
  • Complain about how unfair life is.
  • Scared to take any risk, or sometimes even make a decision.
  • Unsuccessful time after time, attempt after attempt, job after job.
  • Unable to trust. They have few friends.
  • They’re emotionally unhealthy, and that is even leading to physical ailments.
  • Addicted to one or more of the following: alcohol, drugs, gambling, etc.

Why do people exhibit such behaviors? It’s often because of how they think. If you find yourself exhibiting one of these traits, you, too, may have fallen prey to the single most destructive thought you can have …

You think you’re not solely in control of your life.

Not accepting that you are in full control of your life is the easy way out. When life treats you badly, blame it on circumstances. Your parents. Your spouse. Your kids. Your boss. Anything or anyone, other than you! It’s much easier to blame outside forces than to accept responsibility yourself.

But some people look at this responsibility as a burden. It’s not a burden – it’s a blessing. It means you are free to create your dream life. It’s empowering!

Responsible means “response-able.”
You may be saying, “That all sounds great, but you’re kidding yourself if you think you can control everything.”

We’re NOT saying “you control everything.” We ARE saying you control your life. There is a difference.

Obviously, you can’t control everything that happens to you. But you can control how you respond. Steven Covey calls this “response-able” in his great book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Thinking freed him from captivity
Victor Frankl, in his great book, Man’s Search for Meaning, tells his inspiring story as a prisoner in the concentration camps of World War II. He seemingly lost everything – his family, his friends, his clothes, his dignity. However, there was one thing nobody could take away from him … his thoughts.

Sometimes, he chose to escape his circumstances and envision himself far, far away. He chose to learn from his experiences – from the guards and fellow prisoners. He was free from the day-to-day brutality of the concentration camp because of his thoughts. Because of how he responded to his circumstances.

Our quote today is by author and speaker Roger Dawson.

“The most self-destructive thought that any person can have
 is thinking that he or she is not in total control of his or her life.
That’s when, ‘Why me?’ becomes a theme song.”

So you, and you alone, write the song that makes the whole world sing. Make your life a melody and enjoy inner harmony.

Next time, we’ll discuss why shy people make the best networkers. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

Don’t Just Make New Year’s Resolutions, Get Them

maple_leaf_foods_logo The New Year is approaching. Many of us are making resolutions. Make them … break them … don’t let this happen to you.

Resolve this year to be more than a goal-setter. Be a goal-getter. That’s why Bigg Success has the second “g” – it’s the place for goal-getters.

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There’s a great example of a goal-getter from history – Ben Franklin. He is one of our favorite historical figures here at Bigg Success. What a life he lived! He accomplished so much – inventor, author, politician, diplomat, and much, much more!

He also can teach us something about getting goals. As a young man, he wanted to be perfect. So he developed a list of thirteen virtues that he wished to acquire.

An interesting side note is that he found order to be the toughest virtue to obtain. It’s nice to know that even Ben struggled with organization!

At first he tried to acquire all thirteen virtues at once. He failed miserably. Here’s Ben, in his own words:

“While my care was employed in guarding against one fault, I was often surprised by another; habit took the advantage of inattention; inclination was sometimes too strong for reason.”

Apparently, habits were as hard to break 200 years ago as they are now!

To combat this, he developed a system. Each week, he focused on one goal. He tracked them all, but he primarily concerned himself with just one.

He developed a single sheet of paper for each week. The days of the week were across the top. The thirteen virtues went down the left side. Then he recorded every instance where he failed to live up to his virtue. Each week, each day, he started with a clean slate. If you want to see it, we have a copy of Ben Franklin’s Virtuous System [PDF].

So what can you learn from Ben Franklin?

  • You can’t expect what you don’t inspect.
  • After you’ve set your goals for the year, be sure to use a system that reports your results. You won’t always live up to your plans, but you can see the progress you’re making if you have a system like Ben’s.

  • Intention + Attention = Manifestation.
  • It starts with setting your goals. Then you have to keep your goals constantly in front of you. That’s one of the secrets to making sure you reach them.

  • Focus on one goal at a time.
  • If you try to reach all of your goals at once, you’re sure to fail. So focus on one, and then move on to the next one.

  • Don’t beat yourself up.
  • Ben Franklin started each day with a clean slate. If he didn’t live up to his expectations that day, he knew that tomorrow he would start with no blemishes. Day by day – that’s how you get your goals!

Our Bigg Quote is by none other than Ben Franklin himself:

“Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors,
and let every new year find you a better man.”

Resolve to make this year your best year ever.

Next time, with New Year’s Eve coming, we’ll give you a suggestion on how to put your cocktail napkin to good use. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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