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7 Ways to Say No

7 Ways to Say No

7 Ways to Say No

Don’t regret saying yes! George & Mary-Lynn share 7 ways to say no in this BIGG Success Show Podcast (Duration 5:24)

Have you ever said “yes” to something, than later wished you’d said “no?” People deal with this situation differently. Some will begrudgingly follow through with their promise. Others will try to avoid it altogether, and here’s the problem with that option…

We were talking with a friend who raises money for his organization. He told us, “It makes me so angry when a person looks me in the eye and says yes, then ignores me.”

Nothing like burning a bridge because you didn’t have the courage enough to say what you mean.

People do this all of the time. It’s easier to say yes. Who wants to sit across a person who looks disappointed by your rejection? But you do more harm than good by not being honest.

We’ve said in the past, when you commit to something new, you’re also saying no to something else in your life. Yes I’ll serve on this board, no I won’t get my exercise in regularly. Yes, I’ll donate to this cause, no I won’t have money to go out to eat. You get the point.

We’ve also stressed the importance of saying no to improve balance in your life. We naturally want to please people, but at what cost?
So let’s review how to say no.

The reasons for saying no boils down to these three things:
A. No…because it’s not appealing
B. No…because of money
C. No…because of time

Look, we know it’s hard, it’s something people struggle with, but go with your gut. The worst thing that could happen is that you change your mind and later say yes.

Our 7 ways to say no

Next time you find yourself tempted to say yes when you know you shouldn’t, try one of these:

1. No
2. No, not at this time
3. No, it’s not in the budget
4. No, I can’t commit to that right now
5. No, it’s just not a good fit
6. No, my schedule won’t allow for that
7. No, we have other priorities to get through before we can consider anything else
What have we missed? How do you say no?

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5 Tips for Couples in Business to Mix Business with Pleasure

5 tips for couples in business_BIGG Success

Happy Valentine’s Day!

The two of us are spending the whole day together, just like we do everyday – because we’re one of a growing number of couples in business.

If you’re one of us, you’ll probably relate to this – the first thing most people ask is:

“How do you do that?”

And then they add:

“My spouse and I could never do that.”

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BIGG success is life on your own terms. We’ve always loved spending as much time together as possible. Being a couple in business lets us max it out.

We get so excited when we meet other couples in business. And we’ve been so fortunate to meet some dynamic duos.

Like Danno Wolkoff and Laura Orkin. Their company, Envision Radio Networks, is the syndicator for our radio show, BIGG Success in a Minute.

We’d like to congratulate them for hitting a milestone this year – their business is ten years old. And we love how they’re celebrating it – they recently made a donation to Danno’s college radio station, WJPZ-FM in Syracuse. The facility is now called the Envision Radio Networks Broadcast Center.

It just goes to show you what couples in business can accomplish. So today, we thought we’d share five tips on how couples in business can mix business with pleasure.

These are mostly a reminder for ourselves. We hope they resonate with you too.

Be whole(istic) 

We spelled it wrong for a reason. We want to emphasize to keep your WHOLE life in mind with everything you do.

Your personal and professional worlds are more interdependent than they are for most people. That’s a good thing…as long as you consciously factor it in as you make plans and decisions.

You also need to keep your whole person in mind. It’s easy to lose yourself when you’re just half of a team.

This doesn’t need to be the case. In fact, quite the opposite.

You should build each other up for your mutual benefit. Couples in business can do this better than any other partners could.

Live with purpose on purpose  

It’s easy to just jump right in with both feet. It’s easy to just focus on what’s urgent. It’s easy to get stuck in the day-to-day.

But couples in business need to live intentionally.

Know your underlying purpose. What’s your WHY?

It should drive every decision – business and personal. Because you will feel the effects more than most people, given your choice to live and work together.

So live with purpose, on purpose.

Bump heads regularly  

We hasten to say that we’re not being literal here.

And no head butting, just head bumping!

By that we mean, check in with each other frequently. We tend to do this over the course of the day by taking quick breaks together.

In just a few minutes, we can catch each other up. We can also help each other with any challenges that have arisen.

It’s also so important to take time out to discuss the BIGG picture. We haven’t always been as good at this as we should. We talk a lot about the day-to-day. We know what we’re trying to accomplish. But we have to force ourselves to slow down and review our plans and progress.

There’s one more piece to bumping heads. You both need to be able to speak freely AND disagree. Disagreement is so important. And boy, do we have our disagreements. They’re good for both our business and our relationship.

If you both agree all the time, you’re probably missing opportunities at best or taking risks you shouldn’t at worst. So you have to lovingly disagree.

Shut up and down 

Know when to say when. Then shut up. Stop talking about the business.

Schedule time to shut down. Then stop working.

We struggle with this. We both love our work.

But we need couple time. So we try to set times and/or days when business is in the background.

We often go for a drive in the country and walk along a river. We also love mysteries.

For example, we have The Thin Man series DVRed right now. Now you know what we’re doing for Valentine’s Day!

Like a lot of entrepreneurs, we’re not good at following rules. So if one of us gets an epiphany while we’re in down mode, we may mention it. We may write it down.

But it’s important to not let it overtake your time together, no matter how BIGG the idea may be.

Bring outsiders in 

We can’t emphasize this one enough – get a coach. We find our coaches invaluable.

If you can’t afford to do that at this point, find other couples in business to network with.

A great way to do that is something we’re going to announce in just days. The best way to find out about it is to sign up for our newsletter.

So what’s the secret to a lasting relationship? A growing number of couples in business are finding it pays personally and professionally to mix business with pleasure. It leads to BIGG success!

Are you part of the growing number of couples in business?

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Does Playing Dumb Lead to Success as an Entrepreneur?

You can be too smart for BIGG Success

Are you too smart for your own good? It’s kind of funny how far playing dumb can go.

We have an entrepreneurial friend who hired an employee. When this employee first started, he wanted to show everyone how smart he was.

The problem was that he kept alienating people – customers, co-workers, suppliers and even our friend.

Our friend went to work. He started mentoring the employee. Our friend helped the employee understand that, in an attempt to look smart, he was coming across as arrogant.

The employee started working on it. Boy, has he come a long way in the years since. And now he’s buying our friend’s business.

After all, he was bright. It’s just that he accomplished a lot more by playing dumb! Sometimes it leads to BIGG success!

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Entrepreneurial Leadership and Power

how a true leader finds power for BIGG SuccessThere’s a misunderstanding about power by many new entrepreneurial leaders. They come by this view honestly.

Leaders are often depicted barking out orders. Willing subordinates eagerly jump at every bark. They run out and bring the ball back to the leader.

It doesn’t work that way anymore. Did it ever?

Maybe at one time – when people were relegated to a monotonous job, stamping out item after item.

All brawn, no brain. Just do, don’t think.

Success today comes from thinking and doing. You may need your people’s muscles too. But you definitely need their minds.

You need them to believe in you and your vision. You need them fully engaged. Then you’re powerful.

So one sign of power for an entrepreneurial leader is:

You don’t have to demand. You can ask.

You’re even more powerful if you don’t have to ask. They volunteer.

Real power isn’t about about squeezing every ounce of humanity out of your people. It’s not hand-to-hand combat. It’s not about conquering. It’s not warfare.

True power comes when you win hearts and minds. There’s an old saying that we just love, although we’re not sure of its origin. We keep it posted in our office so we see it every day.

Touch my mind – you have my thoughts.
Touch my heart – you have my love.
Touch my soul – you have my passion.
Touch all three and you have me.

Great entrepreneurial leaders appeal to all three. That’s how they get their voluntarily pushing to achieve the shared vision.

It’s because it’s more than a vision. It’s a cause. And it leads to BIGG success!

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Stop Giving 110 Percent to Be a Success

stop saying this to be a BIGG SuccessWe hear people say this all the time – “I gave 110 percent.”

(It’s funny – if you watch them closely, you’ll see that, most of the time, most of the people who make this claim aren’t even close. But that’s not our point today.)

This is a phrase we’d like to see just go away. It sets false expectations.

You can’t do it. You can’t give 110 percent. It’s physically impossible.

If you believe you can, you’re wrong. So stop trying.

You’re not a slacker if you don’t give 110 percent. You won’t come up short if you don’t give 110 percent.

Can you pour 8.8 ounces of liquid in a cup with an 8 ounce capacity?

Of course not. By trying, you waste valuable energy and effort.

Your capacity is 100 percent. That’s the maximum, the most you can do.

So focus on giving 100 percent to everything you do. No more. No less.

Work

Give 100 percent to your work. By the way, 100 percent still means going the extra mile, doing those things that most people don’t do.

Because most people don’t give 100 percent. To anything or anyone. Except possibly themselves.

So you’ll be a BIGG success at work if you just give 100 percent.

Relationships

Give 100 percent to your relationships. It’s the only way they’ll work.

Some people think they can build a relationship by giving 51 percent. Or 80 percent.

It won’t work. If the relationship starts to grow, it will wither up and die if both parties only give 50 or 51 or even 80 percent.

You have to give 100 percent to any relationship if you want it to bud into something beautiful. And so does the other person.

Since you can’t control them, you can only focus on your 100 percent. If you don’t get 100 percent back, then you know they aren’t committed to building a relationship with you.

Yourself

Give 100 percent to yourself. You have to. It’s a requirement if you want to be a BIGG success.

Yet most people neglect this one. They give their all at work. They give their all to others.

But they don’t have any energy left to give to themselves. Don’t make this mistake.

Make sure you give your mind, your body, and your spirit 100 percent everyday.

All you can do is all you can do. But all you can do is what you must do if you want to be a BIGG success!

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