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How Too Much Communication Killed a Relationship

Communication that hurts relationships | BIGG SuccessHe had always been proud to call her his bride. But now things were different. She was different.

He knew it hadn’t happened overnight. But it seemed like it did. He began to notice it with little things.

He would ask a question. She wouldn’t respond.

He cracked a joke. She didn’t laugh.

They would go out for dinner. He talked about his day. She seemed bored.

He asked her about her day. She didn’t have much to say.

Her mind always seemed to be somewhere else. And then he started to understand the source of the problem.

She had begun seeking solace from another. An outsider had intruded into their relationship.

This outsider was a force to be reckoned with. It was evident in the changes he could see in her.

They had always said that nothing could ever come between them. Now this one was.

It all seemed so innocent…at first. She had introduced him to this outsider. He was glad that she had this source of support. He could see how happy she was playing with this one.

But now she was smitten. Almost all of her attention was reserved for this “thing”. He couldn’t think of “it” as human but she sure did.

“How much time does she need to spend communicating with it?” he wondered. “Why is she so fascinated?”

This thing was ever present. Every day. In the evening. Even on the weekends. She always had time for it.

“Maybe I’m the third party,” he thought, feeling sorry for himself. No, he was just coming to terms with reality.

She made him feel less important than that thing she had fallen in love with. He felt alone.

At times, he was angry. On other occasions, he felt hurt, dejected, rejected.

But little did he know, it was about to get worse for him. One night, he had to work late.

He got home, stopped and looked at the mail, and then wandered over to the refrigerator. She had told him she would have a plate for him to heat up.

He opened the door and looked in. No plate.

He looked around. Maybe plans had changed. Had she left a note.

No note anywhere. No nothing.

He walked toward their bedroom. He didn’t know that his world was about to fall apart.

As he gazed through the open door, she was asleep in bed. But she wasn’t alone.

She was snuggled up with the thing – her smartphone!

Do you sleep with your smartphone?

(Inspired by Sleeping With Your Smartphone by Leslie Perlow)

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The Biggest Mistakes People Make Using LinkedIn-Part 2

The Power Formula for LinkedIn Success Book Cover | BIGG SuccessWe’re continuing our conversation on The BIGG Success Show with Wayne Breitbarth, LinkedIn expert and author of the book: The Power Formula for LinkedIn Success: Kick-start Your Business, Brand, and Job Search.

We’re discussing the five biggest mistakes people make when using LinkedIn. In Part 1 of our interview we talked about:

Biggest Mistake #1: Failure to dedicate sufficient time to their LinkedIn efforts.

Biggest Mistake #2: Underestimating the importance of crafting a dynamic, keyword-filled personal profile.

In this segment, learn about these mistakes:

Click a player to hear Wayne talk with George & Mary-Lynn on The BIGG Success Show podcast. (Duration 9:50)


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Biggest Mistake #3: Failure to recognize the importance of having lots of trusted professionals in your LinkedIn network / Not getting recommendations.

  • What Wayne says is the most powerful aspect of LinkedIn
  • How LinkedIn is like the “6 degrees to Kevin Bacon”
  • Why 35-40 connections is NOT enough to fully use LinkedIn and the number you should shoot for
  • Why Groups on LinkedIn are the second most important part of using LinkedIn
  • There are over 1.2 million Groups on LinkedIn, learn how to get more connections using them.
  • How recommendations  can help you come up more often when people use the keyword search tool to attract more leads.

Biggest Mistake #4: Using LinkedIn to advertise your products and services.

  • Why the traditional forms of advertising doesn’t work in social media
  • Your Powerful Formula for promoting yourself on LinkedIn is to: Help people, share valuable information, and build relationships.
  • How sharing your work in terms of questions and discussions will take away the “in your face” advertising.
  • Why you should spend time listening on social media spaces to learn the communication skills.
  • How to listen on LinkedIn by simply visiting your home page.
  • Why Groups provide a listening tool for you too.
  • How to find conversations in your space using keywords and a tool hardly anyone uses: “LinkedIn Signal” or “Search Status Updates.”
  • Wayne shares an example of how he was able to connect with a potential client who wasn’t even in his network by using the listening tools in LinkedIn.

Visit Wayne’s website for a free chapter of  his book The Power Formula for LinkedIn Success and to learn more about his LinkedIn training offerings.

Next time, learn about a silly little thing that many companies overlook on LinkedIn and why it hurts your brand.

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First Steps in Your New Leadership Role – Part 2

essential first steps for new leaders | BIGG SuccessToday on The BIGG Success Show, we continue our discussion with Kevin Eikenberry. Kevin is a best-selling author and a leading authority on leadership.

Last time, we talked about the underlying skill of all effective leaders. Listen to this show to discover:

  • a critical thing you must learn from your new boss
  • how to understand your boss’ communication style
  • what to do if your boss isn’t communicative
  • how to address the changing relationship with your team members
  • how to interact with your new peers now that you are at a new level
  • how to avoid having a daunting to-do list

Click a player to hear Kevin talk with George & Mary-Lynn on The BIGG Success Show Podcast! (Runtime 6:50)


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Please join us next time when Kevin discusses how to deal with the person who got passed over for the promotion and now answers to you.

Success in Your New Leadership Role Part 1

Success in Your New Leadership Role Part 3

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Your Relationship with Money on Facebook

your relationship with money for BIGG SuccessBIGG success is life on your own terms. Money is one of the five elements of BIGG success.

We gladly display our relationship status on Facebook. What if Money reported its relationship with you in the same way?

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Your Money might say that it is Single. It meets up with you from time to time.

But it doesn’t feel any sense of commitment. You play around, but Money soon departs to meet up with someone else.

So Money comes and Money goes.

Eventually, you meet up with Money that seems like it wants to hang out with you. This Money reports that you are In a Relationship.

It’s still new…you’re still getting used to having Money around. You’re still getting to know each other.

But at least this Money doesn’t run off with another person every chance it gets.

At some point, you and Money get Engaged. You make an initial commitment to each other.

You begin making preparations to make it all legal. You start to trust Money.

But then, Money calls it all off.

That’s when It’s Complicated. You’re not sure what happened.

Money seemed devoted to you and your future. But it got cold feet and ran off.

You know it’s not you; it’s Money. But you still wonder…what did you do wrong? If you examine the situation, you’ll realize that Money wasn’t giving you what you really needed.

Sure it was fun. You would go out. You would have a great time. But you weren’t building the foundation for a lasting relationship.

So you learn more about relationships with Money. As you discover how to maintain a healthy relationship, you and Money decide to get Married.

The wedding is an informal ceremony. Few people attended. Of course, there was a loved one or two. No minister was necessary.

Just your professional advisors. They were there to help you get what you want out of your relationship with Money.

You’ll want to check in with them from time to time, just to make sure you and your Money are fulfilling all your desires.

Everything is wonderful. You love Money. So much so, that you get possessive.

You don’t let Money out of the house. You try to save Money just for yourself.

But you feel empty. And Money isn’t at its best either. Money doesn’t do well holed up at home.

So you and Money come to an agreement. You will be In an Open Relationship.

You’re still committed to each other. Money wants to help you fulfill your heart’s desire. It likes to get out with you and explore the world.

But it also wants you to willingly share it with other people.

Money is a tool. And not the bad kind unless you turn it into that. Money can be a force for good. But it needs your help.

Money follows your lead. And a healthy relationship with it leads to BIGG success!

What is your relationship status with money?

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Success in Love

love success quotes | BIGG SuccessWith Valentine’s Day upon us, we thought we’d weave some quotes about success in love into a story. Here we go…

“People who are sensible about love are incapable of it.” ~ Douglas Yates

“There is no remedy for love but to love more.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

“To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best.” ~ William M. Thackeray

“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” ~ Alexander Graham Bell

“John Lennon said, ‘All you need is love.’ John obviously never met my bank manager.” ~ Danny McCrossan

“Love at first sight is possible, but it pays to take a second look.” ~ Author Unknown

“Love is not blind – it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less.” ~ Julins Gordon

“To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.” ~ Robert Brault

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” ~ Tom Robbins

“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of withering, of tarnishing.” ~ Anais Nin

“Men are from Earth. Women are from Earth. Deal with it.” ~ George Carlin

“Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.” ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

“It is not how much we do, but how much love we put in the doing. It is not how much we give, but how much love we put in the giving.” ~ Mother Teresa

“Forget love, I’d rather fall in chocolate.” ~ Sandra J. Dykes

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