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Entrepreneurs and Cave Dwellers

entrepreneurs can be cave dwellers | BIGG SuccessWe have a friend who finally got fed up. Like most entrepreneurs, he’s endured some super tough times the last three years. But he survived. And he’s done a lot for his community. By that, we mean he’s created jobs. He’s expanded the tax base – both sales taxes and property taxes.

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He told us about an incident recently which pushed him over the edge. He was serving as a volunteer on a community committee. He shared some forward-thinking ideas. He got an intense amount of pushback.

All he wanted was to be heard. And he would like to feel appreciated. Not all the time. Just once in a while. But he often doesn’t. Do you ever feel unappreciated? If you do, you’re not alone!

Your two choices

You have two choices when you start feeling this way. They are the same two options that mankind has faced since we first inhabited this planet. You can fight or you can flee. As entrepreneurs, we fight every day. We fight to meet payroll. We fight to get another customer. We fight and fight and fight. Do you ever get tired of fighting? We all do. So we flee.

That’s what our friend did. He’s an incredibly social, outgoing person. But after the incident we related earlier, he became a cave dweller. And he seems perfectly content to stay there. He’s still running his business day-to-day. But other than that, he’s really withdrawn. He has pulled back from his involvement in his community. He has stopped doing a lot of things which put him in the public eye. And that may be just the prescription to cure his ails.

3 things to know about cave dwelling

So let’s be clear – we’re not talking about quitting. We’re not talking about running away from your obligations. But as entrepreneurs, we all occasionally face situations which make us want to flee. We should note that it’s probably not just one situation. It’s an accumulation of things. But one particular thing on one particular day finally pushes you too far and you just have to get away.

So here are three things we’d like to share about entrepreneurs and cave dwelling.

  • 1st) It’s healthy to retreat to your cave now and then.

It’s not only necessary, it’s desirable.

Solitude is sweet, especially as you spend more and more time in the public’s eye, as you gain fans and followers.

You may spend time in your cave with family and friends. But make sure you also allow time for just you.

Proactively set aside time to explore the caverns of your mind, heart, and soul.

  • 2nd) Too much cave dwelling is bad.

Our Paleolithic ancestors got out of the cave. They hunted. They gathered.

You’ll starve if you never get out of your cave. Not literally, of course.

But you’ll starve your mind, your heart, and your soul.

We need more than just our businesses. We need human interaction.

So it’s okay to react to a situation and retreat to your cave to let the wounds heal.

But set a time limit. Don’t let cave dwelling become a way of life.

  • 3rd) Hang out in the caves of other entrepreneurs.

    The only people who can truly understand what entrepreneurs endure are other entrepreneurs. We need to support each other. Entrepreneuring is an emotional experience. It can bring down the strongest man or woman. It can make you feel like fleeing. We need to hang out together. We need to support each other. That’s one of the reasons we started BIGG success. It’s why we don’t just share practical tips in our posts.

Entrepreneurs ride an emotional roller coaster. Sometimes you have to flee back to your cave. But make sure you don’t hole up for too long. Reach out to your fellow entrepreneurs. Reach out to us. It will help you reach BIGG success. What gets you out of your cave?

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Even Solopreneurs Need These Two People Working in Their Business

The 2 people you need for BIGG SuccessThere are two kinds of people that EVERY business needs, even a micro-business.

You may be a coach or a consultant. You need both of these people working for you.

Self-employed sales people – like real estate brokers, insurance brokers, and others – need these two kinds of people if their business is going to be a BIGG success.

Designers, web developers, and other professional service providers have to have one of each in their business.

Even if you’re a solopreneur, you still need these two people.

Couples in business – like us – need them both. And fortunately, we came by it naturally.

Every business needs a Mess Maker and a Mess Mopper. Working together, they form a Mess Master.

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Why do you need a Mess Master alliance?

Because business is messy…at least it is if you’re doing it right.

If you never have a mess, you’re not pushing yourself hard enough. You’re playing it too safe. Of course, you can make too much of a mess.

But we’re getting ahead of ourselves now. Let’s come back to this after we talk about the two types in more detail.

The Mess Maker

George KruegerI’m sure this will come as no surprise to our regular readers – I’m the Mess Maker at BIGG Success.


Mess Makers dwell in two places at the same time. They simultaneously live above and ahead of the mess.

Mess Makers are BIGG picture thinkers. That’s the above the mess part. They aren’t so focused on details; they’re all about direction.

And they are always ahead of the mess. They don’t worry so much about the present. They focus on the future.

The Mess Mopper

As you might guess, Mess Moppers clean up the mess created by the Mess Makers. While the Mess Makers are living in the future at 30,000 feet, the Mess Moppers are up to their necks in the here and now.

They work out all the details of the Mess Makers. They take the debris and make all the pieces fit together neatly.

Mary-Lynn FosterI resemble those remarks! I’m the Mess Mopper of George’s Mess Making. As we said, we came about this naturally. My thing is details. George is more directional.


Although, we should probably note two things:

1) Most people have some balance between these two types. You’re not just one or the other.

2) But you probably lean one way or the other. Not too many people are outstanding at both.

That’s why it’s so important to find the harmony between the two types. In fact, let’s even go further – look for synergy, the BIGG idea behind BIGG success.

If you’re a Mess Mopper, you need to allow yourself to be pulled above and pushed forward by the Mess Maker.

If you’re the Mess Maker, you need to accept that the Mess Mopper is your constant reality check.

By working together, you can go further faster than you would otherwise.

What can a solopreneur do?

Okay, so we can hear some of you now. You’re a solopreneur. You’re it. You do it all.

How can solopreneurs make this work for them?

We have two suggestions. You may use one or both:

  • Develop a split personality

    We know – it sounds a little odd. But bear with us – you’re not going to have to rush off to a psychologist afterwards.

    What we mean is that you designate specific times for each of the two roles. If you’re naturally a Mess Mopper, set aside time for Mess Making and vice versa.

  • Buddy up

    For example, if you’re a Mess Making coach, find a Mess Mopping coach. Explore ways to work together. You’ll push each other to BIGG success?

Are you a Mess Maker or a Mess Mopper?

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How Too Much Communication Killed a Relationship

Communication that hurts relationships | BIGG SuccessHe had always been proud to call her his bride. But now things were different. She was different.

He knew it hadn’t happened overnight. But it seemed like it did. He began to notice it with little things.

He would ask a question. She wouldn’t respond.

He cracked a joke. She didn’t laugh.

They would go out for dinner. He talked about his day. She seemed bored.

He asked her about her day. She didn’t have much to say.

Her mind always seemed to be somewhere else. And then he started to understand the source of the problem.

She had begun seeking solace from another. An outsider had intruded into their relationship.

This outsider was a force to be reckoned with. It was evident in the changes he could see in her.

They had always said that nothing could ever come between them. Now this one was.

It all seemed so innocent…at first. She had introduced him to this outsider. He was glad that she had this source of support. He could see how happy she was playing with this one.

But now she was smitten. Almost all of her attention was reserved for this “thing”. He couldn’t think of “it” as human but she sure did.

“How much time does she need to spend communicating with it?” he wondered. “Why is she so fascinated?”

This thing was ever present. Every day. In the evening. Even on the weekends. She always had time for it.

“Maybe I’m the third party,” he thought, feeling sorry for himself. No, he was just coming to terms with reality.

She made him feel less important than that thing she had fallen in love with. He felt alone.

At times, he was angry. On other occasions, he felt hurt, dejected, rejected.

But little did he know, it was about to get worse for him. One night, he had to work late.

He got home, stopped and looked at the mail, and then wandered over to the refrigerator. She had told him she would have a plate for him to heat up.

He opened the door and looked in. No plate.

He looked around. Maybe plans had changed. Had she left a note.

No note anywhere. No nothing.

He walked toward their bedroom. He didn’t know that his world was about to fall apart.

As he gazed through the open door, she was asleep in bed. But she wasn’t alone.

She was snuggled up with the thing – her smartphone!

Do you sleep with your smartphone?

(Inspired by Sleeping With Your Smartphone by Leslie Perlow)

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The Biggest Mistakes People Make Using LinkedIn-Part 2

The Power Formula for LinkedIn Success Book Cover | BIGG SuccessWe’re continuing our conversation on The BIGG Success Show with Wayne Breitbarth, LinkedIn expert and author of the book: The Power Formula for LinkedIn Success: Kick-start Your Business, Brand, and Job Search.

We’re discussing the five biggest mistakes people make when using LinkedIn. In Part 1 of our interview we talked about:

Biggest Mistake #1: Failure to dedicate sufficient time to their LinkedIn efforts.

Biggest Mistake #2: Underestimating the importance of crafting a dynamic, keyword-filled personal profile.

In this segment, learn about these mistakes:

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Biggest Mistake #3: Failure to recognize the importance of having lots of trusted professionals in your LinkedIn network / Not getting recommendations.

  • What Wayne says is the most powerful aspect of LinkedIn
  • How LinkedIn is like the “6 degrees to Kevin Bacon”
  • Why 35-40 connections is NOT enough to fully use LinkedIn and the number you should shoot for
  • Why Groups on LinkedIn are the second most important part of using LinkedIn
  • There are over 1.2 million Groups on LinkedIn, learn how to get more connections using them.
  • How recommendations  can help you come up more often when people use the keyword search tool to attract more leads.

Biggest Mistake #4: Using LinkedIn to advertise your products and services.

  • Why the traditional forms of advertising doesn’t work in social media
  • Your Powerful Formula for promoting yourself on LinkedIn is to: Help people, share valuable information, and build relationships.
  • How sharing your work in terms of questions and discussions will take away the “in your face” advertising.
  • Why you should spend time listening on social media spaces to learn the communication skills.
  • How to listen on LinkedIn by simply visiting your home page.
  • Why Groups provide a listening tool for you too.
  • How to find conversations in your space using keywords and a tool hardly anyone uses: “LinkedIn Signal” or “Search Status Updates.”
  • Wayne shares an example of how he was able to connect with a potential client who wasn’t even in his network by using the listening tools in LinkedIn.

Visit Wayne’s website for a free chapter of  his book The Power Formula for LinkedIn Success and to learn more about his LinkedIn training offerings.

Next time, learn about a silly little thing that many companies overlook on LinkedIn and why it hurts your brand.

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First Steps in Your New Leadership Role – Part 2

essential first steps for new leaders | BIGG SuccessToday on The BIGG Success Show, we continue our discussion with Kevin Eikenberry. Kevin is a best-selling author and a leading authority on leadership.

Last time, we talked about the underlying skill of all effective leaders. Listen to this show to discover:

  • a critical thing you must learn from your new boss
  • how to understand your boss’ communication style
  • what to do if your boss isn’t communicative
  • how to address the changing relationship with your team members
  • how to interact with your new peers now that you are at a new level
  • how to avoid having a daunting to-do list

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Please join us next time when Kevin discusses how to deal with the person who got passed over for the promotion and now answers to you.

Success in Your New Leadership Role Part 1

Success in Your New Leadership Role Part 3

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