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How to Be Less Happy and More Anxious

disconnect from smartphones for BIGG Success
Is your smartphone making you less happy and more anxious? George & Mary-Lynn discuss a study that says it does on The BIGG Success Show.

Thanks to smartphones, we are constantly connected to our friends, our family, and our work. As a result, we are less happy and more anxious.

A new Kent State University study of college students shows those who spend hours each day online, texting or talking on cellphones are more anxious, less happy and get lower grades. The students who were “less addicted” to checking their phones were better off.

Speaking of addiction, another study shows that many people suffer from anxiety if they lose or forget their phone, even if only for a few minutes. That rush of anxiety and fear some feel once they realize their disconnected is called nomophobia -as in no-mo(bile) phone-phobia.

How do we break our addiction to technology? It won’t be easy. According to a Pew Research Center survey, for the first time, a majority of American adults (56%) own smartphones. And people are checking them everywhere: while watching TV, at the movies, at the dinner table, in church, in bed, and while driving.

How to Feel Happier and Less Anxious

Do we really have to talk, text, tweet or post so much? No we don’t.

Andrew Lepp, one of the researchers in the Kent State study says, “You need time to be alone with your thoughts, and recover from the daily stressors in a way that doesn’t involve electronic media.”

Ways to Disconnect:

  • Meditate
  • Go for a walk without your headphones
  • Read an old-fashioned hardback book
  • Do some household chores
  • Journal with pen and paper

Quiet time lets your mind rest. Stress diminishes, attention and memory improve, endorphins are released. Your creative process is allowed to work. You can explore meaningful thoughts which can provide important direction in your life.

Use this time to refresh, and realize it will take practice to achieve. To get started, try to dedicate at least fifteen minutes a day for quiet time. Keep track of the days you do this. Pay attention to your stress levels on the days you unplug, versus the days you don’t.

It’s your choice! You can be constantly connected and feel less happy and more anxious. Or, you can disconnect for a short time every day to feel happier and more at ease, which leads to BIGG Success!

Will you commit to disconnecting daily? What will you do with your quiet time?

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When a Wife Succeeds More Than Her Husband

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Does it really matter who succeeds more in a relationship? George and Mary-Lynn share the results of a new study. Click play to listen to The BIGG Success Show Podcast.

A new study shows that when a wife succeeds more than her husband, his ego takes a hit. But if her success is less, he feels better about himself.

Old stereotypes and gender roles obviously come into play. But in this day and age, and with this economy, people in relationships should focus on their partnership. Envy undermines a relationship. It holds back success. It’s just plain silly.

Who Cares Who Succeeds More

As we’ve pointed out before, entrepreneurs don’t think win-lose. You can’t have a fulfilling relationship with this mentality. A good partner doesn’t place their self-interest above another.

Entrepreneurs that succeed think win-win. They build a relationship that shares an equal consideration of interests.

Coopetition is necessary in this competitive world. Sure, you can determine that you alone must be the one to succeed more to get the bigger piece of the pie. But isn’t it easier and more rewarding to work with someone to make the pie bigger?

To live life on your own terms, you have to be happy with yourself and proud of where you are. You can’t compare yourself to anyone else. Achieve your own goals. Don’t envy someone for achieving theirs.

We are fortunate to be partners in life and business:

  • A win for one of us is a win for the team.
  • We are both competitive but not towards each other.
  • We both strive for excellence which motivates us to achieve our best.
  • We both have weaknesses that are balanced by our individual strengths.

We bump in to other modern day power couples all the time:

  • She’s a professor at a University; he’s going back to school.
  • She’s a bank president; he’s taking care of the home and family.
  • She’s the team leader for a real estate company; he’s a realtor.
  • He’s a best-selling author; she’s taking care of his marketing and promotions.
  • He’s pursuing a career in public speaking; she’s overseeing their existing business.
  • He’s the company CEO; she’s taking care of the home and family.

It’s not about gender roles. It’s about teamwork. It’s not about competition. It’s about cooperation.

Relationships aren’t about who succeeds more, they’re about combined efforts to achieve BIGG Success.

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When to ask for a raise for BIGG Success

The Best Time to Make a Pay Raise Request or Ask for a Promotion

When to ask for a raise for BIGG SuccessWhen’s the best time to ask for a pay raise?

We were completely surprised by the answer. That’s the topic of this BIGG Success Show podcast episode. Click the player to listen, or read our summary below.

New research shows that, if the head of your company is a man, you’re likely to get a raise when his first daughter is born.

And female workers benefit more than the males! Women’s pay rose over one percent, almost twice the rate as men’s.

But if the baby’s a boy, you can actually expect to make less, no matter what sex you are.

So here’s the BIGG spin on this research: If your boss has a girl, jump with Joy (or whatever the new girl’s name is). If it’s a boy, run and hide!

Now is the time

The good news is that you don’t have to wait for a birth. But you better hurry!

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Success as an Entrepreneur is NOT a Marathon

Run races for BIGG SuccessYou often hear people say that the race for BIGG success as an entrepreneur is a marathon. We think they’re wrong.

In fact, we don’t think it’s a race at all. You don’t run one race – you run races. Plural.

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A series of sprints

And they’re not marathons, they’re sprints. You reach BIGG success as an entrepreneur by running a series of sprints.

You sprint every day. You strive to get to the finish line in the fastest time possible. Only then – unlike a sprinter who has just completed a race in the athletic world – you line up for another one!

Sure, you may take a short break between races, but you’re driven. You have more work you love to do. So you keep pushing day after day, from one sprint to another.

A money management principle applied to time management

Now there’s a reason why we think making this distinction – between a marathon and a series of sprints – is important. It has to do with conditioning.

Don’t train for a slow, steady, long race. Prepare yourself for fast, hard-charging bursts!

So rather than run – run – run – rest, think run – rest – run – rest.

This is a concept we can apply from money management to time management. It’s called duration matching.

When dealing with money, you want to match the duration of your debt to the expected life of the asset that debt is financing. Do something similar with your time.

If you’re not running a marathon, if you’re in a series of sprints, take frequent, short breaks rather than longer ones. Get away from your work every hour or two.

An important part of rest

But just as important as when you rest is how you rest. The BIGG idea behind BIGG success is synergy.

The right rest at the right time ramps up your running ability.

So while you get the rest you need, you don’t give up anything for it. In fact, quite the opposite – you get even more done.

If you’re a long-time reader, you know we believe in life blend. And this run – rest concept is part of that. You need variety. It’s up to you what it is, but it’s a custom blend.

If it works for you, it works! For example:

  • We often take quick breaks where stand up, stretch our legs and clue each other in to what we’re working on. One of us may have an idea the other hadn’t thought about.
  • We often find that when we step away from my desk for just a minute or two – to grab a cup of coffee, walk around or get outside – it often helps us get unstuck.
  • Another thing we’re fitting into the blend is to make sure we exercise. It doesn’t mean the brain shuts off. It just means we work the body too.
  • But sometimes shutting the brain off is just the thing. Research
    published in
    Psychological Science suggests that mindless tasks which allow your thoughts to roam can be springboards for creative thinking.

Participants in the study were presented with a creative challenge. Immediately after, the first group performed an intellectually demanding task while a second group did an undemanding one.

The researchers concluded that doing a mindless task allows your brain to wander more.

So next time you get stuck – mop the floor, file away some papers or clean off your desk.

Take frequent, short rest breaks so you can keep sprinting to BIGG success!

What do you think? Is the race for success a marathon or a series of sprints? How often do you rest?

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Ask These Two Questions or Expect to Fail

ask these 2 questions for BIGG SuccessAn inquisitive nature is one of the secrets to BIGG success. But there are two questions which you can’t afford not to ask.

If you don’t ask these two questions, you can expect to fail. One of them will help you think bigger. The other one will help you move forward.

The question to think bigger

There’s a question children ask incessantly. They ask it so much that it can drive us adults absolutely crazy.

It’s a simple question but it packs of powerful punch. The question is:

Why?

Kids have a certain natural curiosity and a sense of wonderment about the world around them. It’s one of the secrets behind their creativity.

Yet we seem to lose it quickly. In fact, research shows that we lose most of our creativity by the time we leave the first grade.

We need to learn to ask “Why?” all over again. Only there’s not much to learn.

It’s more a state of being. But as adults, we have to begin with a state of consciousness.

We need to make asking “Why?” a habit. It won’t happen overnight. But you can develop this practice day by day.

What in your world demands asking “Why”?

The question to move forward

However, there’s another question which is just as important. In fact, it may be more important. Ask:

Why not?

What do you really want to do with your life? What’s holding you back?

Why not ask yourself “Why not”?

Why not go for it? Why not try? Why not just do it?

Why not stop regretting? Why not start living?

Why not give up the grind? Why not pursue your passions?

Most people are driven by fear. So ask yourself “Why not” so you really start to understand what you’re afraid of.

Many people tend to magnify the negative possibilities. They quickly get too scared to try to do anything to make their lives better.

People who reach BIGG success understand the negatives. They quickly work to minimize the negatives so they can take action without much risk.

Why not start living life on your own terms today? If you’re not sure where to start, maybe we can help.

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