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Couples Today are Rethinking Traditional Roles

By Bigg Success Staff

Work – Life Balance


If you’re half of a dual-income couple with kids, working out your work – life balance involves negotiating at home and at work. First, you and your spouse need to discuss how household duties as well as child care responsibilities will be divvied up. Who does what when?

The best solution is what works best for you, not what society has traditionally expected. If it works for the two of you and your family, it works!

Redefining roles

According to the Council on Contemporary Families, working couples have seen some significant change in responsibilities over the last 30 years. Men are assuming more duties at home and with the children.

This evolution has been a logical response. If a woman has greater career potential than a man, it may make sense for the man to shoulder more family duties. This is now the case about one-third of the time.

So if a couple decides that’s the best trek for them, the next step involves negotiating at work. For men, this can be difficult because society still often regards household chores and child-rearing as the woman’s role.

Pay vs. flexibility

One of the most effective ways to get the flexibility you need is during a review. Especially if your employer is not able to offer you the pay raise you feel you deserve. Perhaps you can negotiate greater flexibility in lieu of the full pay raise you might like.

Balance your costs with your gains. You may not make as much money as you like, but you may also lower your costs. You can spend more time with your kids rather than paying someone else to do it. That difference may almost offset the lower pay raise.

Pay vs. telecommuting

A question to ask yourself (and your boss) is – can you do more work from home? Save both the time and money of commuting. With today’s high gas prices, you’ll save a lot of money. It doesn’t even have to be every day. Any day you don’t have to drive is a plus.

Once again, it may be best to bring this item up as part of a discussion of pay raises. Perhaps a concession to accepting less of a pay raise is to let you telecommute at least some of the time. You can quickly figure out if your savings equals what you had hoped to earn in additional income. And don’t forget – more income gets taxed, saving money on fuel doesn’t. So compare the after-tax income to the savings from not driving as much.

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12 Ways to Make Your Next Meeting Your Worst Meeting

Studies show that we spend about 15 percent of our work week in meetings. If you’re lucky, right? Many of these meetings are a huge waste of time … and money.

We thought we’d list some ways to make sure the next meeting you run is a bad one:

#1 – Call a meeting even if you don’t have anything to discuss.
Better yet, just call a meeting on the fly because an important issue has come up for you, and you need answers now! It’s important to you so it must be the most important thing for everyone else.

#2 – If in doubt about whether someone should attend the meeting, invite them.

Or just call an all staff meeting, even if it only affects a small percentage of the group. It may be peripheral to their jobs, but they should hear it anyway!

#3 – Make your agenda so vague that no one knows what the meeting is about.

Don’t distribute it in advance so people can come to the meeting prepared. Keep them in the dark about what’s going to be discussed. The best way to do this – don’t have an agenda at all.

#4 – Don’t start the meeting on time.
Or up the ante … don’t be on time for your own meeting. It doesn’t matter if everyone is waiting for you. Your time is more valuable than theirs.

#5 – Kick off the meeting on a negative note.
Tell everyone how bad things are. Look for scapegoats – call them out in front of their peers. People just love that.

#6 – Don’t stick to the schedule.
Or don’t have a schedule at all. Who really cares when this meeting will be over? Nothing is more important than your meeting. Nobody else has anything to do.

#7 – Don’t ever defer a conversation to a later date.
Even if a point of discussion starts eating into precious time, keep it on the table. It was on your agenda, so it must be dealt with today. The meeting can either go long or you can just give the other points less attention.

#8 – Do most of the talking.
Don’t plan for participation. People love to hear you talk. Dominate the conversation. There’s no need for you to listen during a meeting. That’s certainly won’t help solve any problems.

#9 – When someone presents an idea, be quick to shoot them down.
There will be no free flow of ideas in your meeting! You’re in control. Who do they think they are anyway?

#10 – No matter how long your meeting runs, don’t take any breaks.
People love to just sit and sit and sit. It’s best to introduce new ideas to your staff or try to find the solution to an ongoing problem after they feel lethargic from a lack of activity. And of course, no one needs to use the restroom.

#11 – Let that guy (or gal), who loves to hear himself (or herself) talk, go on and on.
Don’t cut them off. Don’t bring the meeting back to its focus.

#12 – Make sure nothing gets accomplished.
When the meeting is finally over, there should be no plans for action, no decisions should have been made, no issues should get resolved, and no follow up should be scheduled. People love sitting around in meetings that don’t accomplish anything.

Our bigg quote today is by Steve Kaye:

“An employee who needs permission to buy a box of paperclips can spend
tens of thousands of dollars worth of employee time on bad meetings.”

Waste is waste … whether it’s paper clips or time.

What are your pet peeves about meetings? Leave a Comment and let us know.


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Defining Success at the Highest Level

By Bigg Success Staff

Life Skills


Sheik Mohammed bin Rashid al-Maktoum has created entire islands. He is building the world’s tallest skyscraper.

His horses have won many of the biggest races around the globe, but victory in the biggest race of them all has eluded him.

He hasn’t won the Kentucky Derby.

His “run for the roses” highlights an important principle – we can invest a great deal of time and money to pursue a goal, but still far short.

It’s a major accomplishment just to get a horse qualified to run in the Kentucky Derby. In the most competitive endeavors in a hyper-competitive world, it takes a certain amount of luck to win the bigg prize.

That’s why it pays to define success properly. If you’ve done everything you can possibly do to become everything you can possibly be, you’ve succeeded!

All you can do IS all you can do, but all you can do is what you must do.

If you can honestly say to yourself that you’ve given your “all”, you’re a winner!

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As He Retires, Brett Favre Teaches Us A Lesson On Peak Performance


Brett Favre will be remembered as one of the greatest quarterbacks of all time. He holds NFL records for passing yards, completions, touchdown passes, consecutive starts, and career wins. This three-time MVP took his team to two Super Bowls, and won the bigg prize once.

He knows about peak performance.

But as much as we have enjoyed watching him on the field (except when he beat the Bears), we found his press conference fascinating because it revealed an important lesson on peak performance.

Do you have the passion to prepare?
He best summarized his decision to retire, when he said,

“I don’t have the passion to practice and prepare.”

That’s the lesson we can learn from Brett.

We talk about passion quite a bit here at Bigg Success. We don’t always make this important distinction – it’s not about the passion to play the game; it’s the passion to prepare for it that really matters.

Brett mentioned this very thing in the press conference. He said if all you had to do was show up on Sunday, more people would play. He’s absolutely right – and it goes beyond football.

You need the passion to prepare. To keep fit – physically, mentally, and emotionally – and to practice, practice, practice.

It’s not passion for what you do. It’s passion for the things you have to do to get to do what you want to do. Isn’t that a bigg to-do list?

To discover your passion, envision 11 HOW you would spend your time and money if neither time nor money was an issue]. You have to enjoy the process because playing the game is a small part of it.

Are you having fun as you prepare?
Brett said that on Saturday nights, he was watching tape. On Sunday evenings, just hours after the game, he was already preparing for the next one. He had never done that before.

He wasn’t relaxing and enjoying it. His work was becoming work. He said he worried that it would affect his teammates and his family. 

How’s your balance?

If you can’t perform at peak level, and still maintain some balance, it’s probably time to move on. Preparation for peak performance takes time away from other things in your life.

Brett mentioned that he can vividly remember every game, down to individual plays, as far back as high school. But that’s his professional life. He went to say that there are things that have happened outside of football that he doesn’t remember at all. He’s not willing to miss out on them anymore.

We congratulate him on a great career. We thank him for going out with the same style that he played the game and teaching us a lesson in the process! We wish him bigg success as he moves on!

Our bigg quote today comes from Brett Favre quoting his wife, Deanna Favre, quoting Byrd Baggett:

“Look at life through the windshield, not the rear-view mirror.”

Peak performers know how to drive toward their goal – a skill that can be transferred to any field. So find your next destination and next thing you know, you’ll pass everyone on the road!

Next time, we’ll answer a question from one of our listeners who has an idea for a business, but doesn’t know what to do next. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!


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Get Rid Of Clutter And Save An Hour A Day With These Simple Tips


According to Newsweek (June 7, 2004), the average American loses 55 minutes EVERY day searching for things they can’t find. We thought that particularly appropriate as we prepare to “spring forward” this weekend, here in the U.S. We’ll “lose” an hour this weekend, but you can get it back every day!

Clutter can cost you more than time. You may have to pay late fees if your bills don’t get paid on time. If you miss appointments, relationships can be damaged. In some places, clutter is so pervasive that people have been injured when they tripped over it!

4 clutter-busters to save you time and money!

#1 – Use it or lose it.
If in doubt, throw it out! Many people do the opposite – they keep it unless they know they won’t use it. Apply the six-month rule. Have you used it in the last six months? Do you KNOW that you’ll use it in the next six months? If the answer is “no” to both of those questions, then lose it!

If it’s a document that you need to maintain, consider scanning it. Electronic storage takes up a lot less space!

#2 – Make a place for everything and keep everything in its place.
After the first tip, you should have a lot less to put away now. Find a place for everything you keep. Once you’ve put it there, keep it there. When you use something, put it back immediately after you’re done with it. Make it a habit.

#3 – Call on a pro.
You may not be the “do-it-yourself” type. Or maybe you just don’t have a knack for organization. Check out the National Association of Professional Organizers. You can search for organizers in your area and find some great tips on hiring a specialist.

#4 – Once you get uncluttered, make sure you don’t re-clutter.
Daily maintenance is the key. Create a system for handling incoming items like your mail, newspapers, and periodicals. For example, you may open your mail over your shredder. Sort any mail you save by action date and file it appropriately. When today’s newspaper is here, yesterday’s is gone. Same with magazines.

Clutter may be a symptom of a bigger problem.
There’s one final note we wanted to make about clutter – clutter may not be the problem. It may be a symptom of this bigger problem …

… You’re TOO busy!

If you find yourself diving right into your next project immediately after finishing your last project because you’re up against yet another tight deadline, you’re too busy!

Start living on human time. Stop expecting too much from yourself.

Slow down so you can catch up!

Being clutter-free is good for your well-being. It helps you think more clearly. It can save you an hour a day! So schedule some time to attack the clutter and prevent it from coming back!

Do you have some de-cluttering tips to share?

Leave us a Comment. We’ll gladly accept your help!

Our bigg quote today comes from educator and author, Dr. Laurence J. Peter:

“If a cluttered desk is the sign of a cluttered mind,
what is the significance of a clean desk?”

We’d like to come up with a witty comment about our bigg quote, but our mind’s blank!

Next time, we’ll interview a business networking expert who will share his 3 keys to effective networking. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!


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