When Fear Sounds Like Good Judgment

On this episode of the BIGG Success Show: When Fear Sounds Like Good Judgment.

BIGG Success with The Professor and Mary-Lynn.

Imagine fear walking into a business meeting.

You know Mary-Lynn my immediate image to that is fear walks into a bar.

Yes.

But in this case, fear walks into a business meeting.

It's wearing a nice suit, it has a briefcase at the end of its extended arm.

And when it gets a chance to speak, it doesn't say, "I'm scared," or "I'm going to scare you".

No, it says: "The timing isn't right," or "We need more information," or "Let's be realistic about this."

And that's what makes fear so hard to recognize.

When you're an experienced, capable adult, your fear can sound remarkably reasonable.

And that matters when you're considering a meaningful move, a career change, business opportunity, investment, difficult conversation,or life change.

You've learned to respect risk.

You know that rushing into a decision can be costly.

But sometimes what sounds like good judgment is fear giving you perfectly sensible reasons to stay where you are.

Welcome to The BIGG Success Show where we help you create the life you want.

Hi, I'm Mary-Lynn.

And I'm George, The Professor.

So, how do you know when you're being wisely cautious or when fear is quietly making the decision?

In this episode, we'll explore: Why fear can change the way you see risk;

How to recognize when careful preparation has become avoidance; and how to make a courageous decision without becoming reckless.

Let's start with something fear can do without us even realizing it.

Fear doesn't just affect how you feel it, it can influence how you evaluate a situation.

Research found that fearful people tended to make more pessimistic judgments about risk and more risk averse choices.

That doesn't mean you should ignore fear.

Fear serves an important protective purpose.

But when you're afraid, the downside can become much easier to see than everything else.

Suppose you're considering leaving a secure job for a promising opportunity.

Your mind quickly goes to: Well, what if it doesn't work out?

Or, what if I lose income?

Or, what if I regret leaving?

These are legitimate concerns and good judgment should consider them.

But a complete risk assessment also looks at the other side.

What if you spend another five years in work that you've already outgrown?

What if you miss the opportunity to develop new skills, earn more, or do something more meaningful?

What might staying cost you?

That last question is powerful because the familiar choice rarely feels risky.

You already know it.

So when a decision scares you, get specific about the concern.

"The timing isn't right", tells you very Little.

"I'm concerned that my income could drop 30% for the first six months."

That gives you something to evaluate and perhaps do something about it.

What we see here is fear thrives in vague possibilities.

Good judgment get specific.

How do you recognize when careful preparation is becoming avoidance?

This is a tougher distinction.

Good judgment gathers information. But you can always find one more article to read, one more person to ask, one more spreadsheet to run, or one more reason to wait another month.

At some point, additional information stops improving the decision.

It simply postpones it.

One of the clearest warning signs of this is moving goalposts.

You said you'd move forward when you saved $20,000. You saved it.

Now you need $30,000.

You wanted evidence that customers would buy. Three customers bought.

Now you need 10.

You wanted advice from someone you trust. They encouraged you.

Now you need another opinion.

When the conditions for action keep changing, pay attention to that. Because you may be trying to eliminate something that no amount of preparation can eliminate, and that's uncertainty - something we've talked about quite a bit here at BIGG Success, and how to navigate that.

Instead, define what you genuinely need before making the decision.

If you need six months of savings, then you have a target.

If you need three paying customers, that's your target.

If you need an attorney to review the agreement, schedule that meeting.

And then look for ways to reduce the risk without requiring certainty.

Run a pilot.

Freelance before quitting, Test before launching.

Invest a little before investing a lot.

Have the difficult conversation before making assumptions about how the other person will respond.

Personal entrepreneurs manage risk.

They don't wait for a world where risk disappears.

Ooh, that's a BIGG Insight right there, Professor!

And how do we make courageous decisions without becoming reckless?

Here's where it gets practical.

Once you've identified the real concern and gathered the information that matters, widen the decision.

Consider these three:

What could go wrong? What could go right? And what matters enough to accept some uncertainty?

And that third consideration changes the conversation.

You shouldn't judge whether a risk is worth taking without considering where you're trying to go.

That's one reason we put so much emphasis on direction in our Life Map Course.

When you know what matters most to you personally, professionally, and financially, you have a better standard for evaluating opportunities.

Does this choice move you toward the life you want?

And what happens if you don't make the move?

There's this thing out there Mary-Lynn called Status Quo Bias.

And research on Status Quo Bias has shown our tendency to favor an existing course of action.

The familiar choice can feel safer simply because it's familiar.

Yet staying where you are carries consequences too.

And oh, that's the one we seem to forget.

Oh yeah.

That staying in the same same career has risks.

Avoiding an important conversation has risk.

Waiting until another year has gone by has risks.

So compare the risk and opportunities of moving forward with the risks and opportunities of staying where you are.

Then make the best decision you can with the information that you already have.

Courage doesn't require you to ignore the downside.

It means fear gets a voice in the discussion without automatically getting the deciding vote.

And that brings us to this episode's BIGG Assignment from The Professor.

Take one meaningful decision that you've been delaying.

Give yourself a deadline to make the decision.

Now take a sheet of paper and create three columns.

1) No 2) Fear 3) Control

Under No, list what The evidence actually tells you.

Under Fear, list what you've worried might happen but don't actually know will happen.

And and under Control, list the things that you can do to reduce the downside.

And then choose one of three actions:

Move, Modify, or Decline.

Move if the evidence supports going forward and the remaining barrier is uncertainty, you're willing to accept.

Modify if the opportunity makes sense but you can take reasonable steps to reduce the downside first,

And Decline if the evidence shows that the risk doesn't fit your priorities, resources, or direction.

And if you truly need more information, identify exactly what you need and keep your decision deadline.

Don't let "I'm still thinking about it," become the decision you make by default.

Now for our BIGG Takeaway...

Good judgment considers fear.

It doesn't automatically obey it.

Let fear point out the risks.

Let the evidence help you understand them.

Then let the life you want help you decide what which risks are worth taking.

It leads to BIGG success.

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