Many people get mired in fear. There’s one fear, in particular, that seems to hold many people back.
The root of this fear often stems from childhood. Do you remember being made fun of, not being included, or not being one of the cool kids? As adults, this fear is manifested by not asking for the sale, not reaching out to people, or just not going for what we want.
You have to reject the fear of rejection to succeed bigg!
If you need a confidence boost, check out our blog on 35 how to build confidence]. When you’re comfortable in your own skin, you won’t flat out accept the rejection. You’ll keep trying – one more thing, then one more. That’s what you have to do to succeed bigg!
Understand that success is a numbers game.
You have to hear “No” a certain number of times to get to “Yes”. Ask any published author. Any successful salesperson. Job seekers. Actors and actresses. The list goes on and on. Come to see “No” as a positive – it means you’re one step closer to success!
Don’t take rejection personally.
The odds are VERY high that they’re NOT rejecting you personally. It’s the offer, the presentation, the design, the wording, their circumstances, or any of so many other variables we can’t begin to name them all.
Try to find out why the rejection occurred.
If you take it personally, you won’t look for the reason underlying the rejection. Then you get caught in a vicious circle – you’re more likely to get rejected again because you’re not learning anything from each rejection.
You want to understand why it occurred, so you can answer this question: Is the reason for the rejection something you can control?
Here’s the good news – you’ve learned something important either way!
If “No” – move on! If “Yes” – try again after you’ve made the necessary changes.
Recipes for Rejecting the Rejection Blues
Even self-confident positive-thinkers who have mastered the fear of rejection can succumb to the blues when faced with rejection after rejection. We’re all only human!
On the show, Mary-Lynn and George shared their recipes for rejecting the rejection blues.
Mary-Lynn: Rejection emboldens me. I’m very competitive and I don’t like being told “no”. When it happens, I turn to some good rock and roll. There are a couple of songs I particularly like: Keep Pushin’ by REO Speedwagon and Foreigner’s I’m Gonna Win.
George: I find it helpful to do something life affirming, like escaping to bigg water. I feel calm when I experience its massiveness. It makes anything I’m facing seem miniscule. If water isn’t an option, nature in any form can be helpful. I also like to go for drives in the country. If I can’t do anything else, Little River Band’s Cool Change makes me feel free. I start dreaming again. Then I’m ready to get back to work!
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Our bigg quote today comes from Louis Ferdinand Celine.
“I think all great innovations are built on rejections.”
So don’t get bogged down in the pool of rejection when there’s an ocean of opportunity awaiting you.
Next time, we’ll offer some interviewing tips for a first-time manager. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!