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How to Deal with Rejection

rejection | BIGG SuccessRejection can be brutal. Some people take it better than others.

BIGG success is life on your own terms. But even if you’re living the BIGG life, things won’t always go your way.

You won’t reach the BIGG success you crave if you let rejection get you down.

So here are 4 tips to help you deal with rejection:

Stay confident

When you’re comfortable in your own skin, you won’t take rejection personally. You’ll accept it as part of your journey to BIGG success.

You’ll keep trying – one more thing, then one more. That’s what you have to do to succeed BIGG!

And don’t forget to take a confidence booster.

It’s a numbers game

What if you knew that every time you got a “No”, you were one step closer to “Yes”?

The most celebrated authors know this. So do actors and other entertainers.

It’s also true of job seekers. And sales people. And entrepreneurs.

See “No” as a positive – it means you’re one step closer to success!

Don’t take the rejection personally

It’s them. It’s not you.

That’s our fun way of saying it’s highly unlikely that they’re rejecting YOU.

We know this isn’t easy sometimes. It’s easy to listen to that little voice that tells you that it’s all about you.

Tell it to shut up! It’s really important to do so if you’re going to benefit from the rejection.

Yeah, that’s right…you can benefit from the rejection.

Try to find out why

If you take it personally, you won’t look for the reason underlying the rejection. Then you’ll get caught in a vicious circle.

You’ll be more likely to get rejected again because you’re not learning anything from each rejection.

You want to understand why it occurred so you can answer this question:

Is the reason for the rejection something you can control?

Maybe it’s the offer.

Or the presentation.

The design.

The wording.

Their circumstances.

Or any number of other things.

If you can’t find out why, or it’s something you can’t control, keep pushing.

If you do find out and it’s something you can control, celebrate the rejection!

You can make the necessary changes and try again. It’s how you find BIGG success!

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Famous People Who Succeeded by Not Listening

image of an ear There’s a great page on the Emory University site called They Did Not Give Up. It shows things that were said to, or situations that were faced by, a number of famous people.

Some examples

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Reject This Fear And Succeed

 

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 Many people get mired in fear. There’s one fear, in particular, that seems to hold many people back.

The root of this fear often stems from childhood. Do you remember being made fun of, not being included, or not being one of the cool kids? As adults, this fear is manifested by not asking for the sale, not reaching out to people, or just not going for what we want.

You have to reject the fear of rejection to succeed bigg!

Be confident.
If you need a confidence boost, check out our blog on how to build confidence. When you’re comfortable in your own skin, you won’t flat out accept the rejection. You’ll keep trying – one more thing, then one more. That’s what you have to do to succeed bigg!

Understand that success is a numbers game.
You have to hear “No” a certain number of times to get to “Yes”. Ask any published author. Any successful salesperson. Job seekers. Actors and actresses. The list goes on and on. Come to see “No” as a positive – it means you’re one step closer to success!

Don’t take rejection personally.
The odds are VERY high that they’re NOT rejecting you personally. It’s the offer, the presentation, the design, the wording, their circumstances, or any of so many other variables we can’t begin to name them all.

Try to find out why the rejection occurred.
If you take it personally, you won’t look for the reason underlying the rejection. Then you get caught in a vicious circle – you’re more likely to get rejected again because you’re not learning anything from each rejection.

You want to understand why it occurred, so you can answer this question: Is the reason for the rejection something you can control?

Here’s the good news – you’ve learned something important either way!

If “No” – move on! If “Yes” – try again after you’ve made the necessary changes.

Recipes for Rejecting the Rejection Blues
Even self-confident positive-thinkers who have mastered the fear of rejection can succumb to the blues when faced with rejection after rejection. We’re all only human!

On the show, Mary-Lynn and George shared their recipes for rejecting the rejection blues.

Mary-Lynn: Rejection emboldens me. I’m very competitive and I don’t like being told “no”. When it happens, I turn to some good rock and roll. There are a couple of songs I particularly like: Keep Pushin’ by REO Speedwagon and Foreigner’s I’m Gonna Win.

George:
I find it helpful to do something life affirming, like escaping to bigg water. I feel calm when I experience its massiveness. It makes anything I’m facing seem miniscule. If water isn’t an option, nature in any form can be helpful. I also like to go for drives in the country. If I can’t do anything else, Little River Band’s Cool Change makes me feel free. I start dreaming again. Then I’m ready to get back to work!

How do you give yourself a lift when rejection is bringing you down? Leave us a Comment below!

Our bigg quote today comes from Louis Ferdinand Celine.

“I think all great innovations are built on rejections.”

So don’t get bogged down in the pool of rejection when there’s an ocean of opportunity awaiting you.

Next time, we’ll offer some interviewing tips for a first-time manager. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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