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TMI Is Not So Gr8

We’re not talking about TMI in the typical sense – someone reveals too much about themselves. We’re thinking about information overload.

Something we all know about. It takes skill to manage all this information. You don’t learn that skill in school. So here are some thoughts on how to manage it all.

Set limits
Establish times when you you’re available, or when you’re NOT. Some occupations require more accessibility than others. But everybody can set limits.

You don’t have to read every e-mail when it comes in! Set times to view it.

For example, you may check it first thing in the morning. Then again around lunch. Finally look it over near the end of your day.

Do what works for you, but don’t become a slave to your incoming messages.

Turn off your alerts, so you don’t see every incoming message. Use filters to automatically divert some types of messages – like those that are fun or personal – to another designated place.

If you’re like most people, it’s easier to resist temptation if you don’t see it.

Also spend a pre-determined amount of time reading and responding to e-mail. This will force you to write more efficiently. Short and to the point!

Now, let’s look at another “Inbox” – the one on your desk.

Set up three Inboxes – low, normal, and high priority, like you have with e-mail. Let the person placing something in your box establish the priority. You’ll see who the abusers are soon enough.

How about those pesky phone calls? You need to filter them, too.

Use voice mail as your virtual assistant. Then you can listen to all your messages at one time and respond accordingly.

Prioritize
Many people spend their time on what’s in front of them, instead of focusing on what’s most important.

Take some advice from Stephen Covey, as described in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Ask yourself two questions:

  • Is it important?
  • Is it urgent?

Obviously, if it’s important AND urgent, you have to react.

The more time you spend on important, but NOT urgent activities, the better. You’ll have fewer important AND urgent items on your agenda over time if you focus on these important, but NOT urgent things.

You’ll also have opportunities that are urgent, but NOT important.  It’s in front of you, and it may even be important to someone else. You know … they have an emergency. But it’s NOT important to you.

So here’s our question – aren’t you too important to deal with anything that’s not important?

Important people work on important things because
that’s how they will become even more important.

We’ve barely scratched the surface. We need more information!
Let us know how you cope with information overload. We can use the help!
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Our Bigg Quote today is by Erma Bombeck.

“I have a theory about the human mind. A brain is a lot like a computer.
It will only take so many facts, and then it will go on overload and blow up.”

So don’t lock up – scan your system for fragments of information that you don’t need so you can run more smoothly and efficiently.

There’s a lot of talk about a coming recession. We’ll offer some tips on surviving, and thriving, a recession next time. Just in case!

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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The Single Most Destructive Thought You Can Have

Here we are – the holidays are over and we’re back to work. We’re ripe with enthusiasm as we consider the possibilities for the New Year. With that in mind, we want to talk about the single most destructive thought you can have.

Think of people you know who have one or more of the following traits:

  • Need constant recognition.
  • Often angry, or depressed.
  • Complain about how unfair life is.
  • Scared to take any risk, or sometimes even make a decision.
  • Unsuccessful time after time, attempt after attempt, job after job.
  • Unable to trust. They have few friends.
  • They’re emotionally unhealthy, and that is even leading to physical ailments.
  • Addicted to one or more of the following: alcohol, drugs, gambling, etc.

Why do people exhibit such behaviors? It’s often because of how they think. If you find yourself exhibiting one of these traits, you, too, may have fallen prey to the single most destructive thought you can have …

You think you’re not solely in control of your life.

Not accepting that you are in full control of your life is the easy way out. When life treats you badly, blame it on circumstances. Your parents. Your spouse. Your kids. Your boss. Anything or anyone, other than you! It’s much easier to blame outside forces than to accept responsibility yourself.

But some people look at this responsibility as a burden. It’s not a burden – it’s a blessing. It means you are free to create your dream life. It’s empowering!

Responsible means “response-able.”
You may be saying, “That all sounds great, but you’re kidding yourself if you think you can control everything.”

We’re NOT saying “you control everything.” We ARE saying you control your life. There is a difference.

Obviously, you can’t control everything that happens to you. But you can control how you respond. Steven Covey calls this “response-able” in his great book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Thinking freed him from captivity
Victor Frankl, in his great book, Man’s Search for Meaning, tells his inspiring story as a prisoner in the concentration camps of World War II. He seemingly lost everything – his family, his friends, his clothes, his dignity. However, there was one thing nobody could take away from him … his thoughts.

Sometimes, he chose to escape his circumstances and envision himself far, far away. He chose to learn from his experiences – from the guards and fellow prisoners. He was free from the day-to-day brutality of the concentration camp because of his thoughts. Because of how he responded to his circumstances.

Our quote today is by author and speaker Roger Dawson.

“The most self-destructive thought that any person can have
 is thinking that he or she is not in total control of his or her life.
That’s when, ‘Why me?’ becomes a theme song.”

So you, and you alone, write the song that makes the whole world sing. Make your life a melody and enjoy inner harmony.

Next time, we’ll discuss why shy people make the best networkers. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

Live Your Dream With Purpose – Part I

About thirty days ago, we asked you to visualize the life you want. Specifically, we asked you to remove the two constraints – time and money – and answer this question:

If neither time nor money was an issue,
how would you spend your time and money?

Mary-Lynn said that, as a long-time broadcaster, her dream is to develop her own content that helps people. She’s doing that with Bigg Success. George says his dream is to travel more, especially spending more time on the beach.

Dreaming is great, but we all have responsibilities. Money is limited. Time even more so. How does it help to dream without considering that fact?

Understand that this is a process. We’ll bring the two constraints back in … but not just yet. First, find your passions by dreaming about the life you want. But you won’t have peace of mind if you’re not living your values.

And, if you remember, we defined success as peace of mind. You’ll never feel successful without it. So, now we want to define our core values.

What’s most important to you? You’ll find your core values at the point where your passions and your beliefs intersect. They’re the combination of what you want and what you believe (i.e. your morals).

Everyone lives according to a set of values. Sometimes consciously, sometimes subconsciously. We have all sorts of values … our own, things our parents taught us, influences of our society …

The question is NOT, “Are you living by a set of values?”
The question is, “Are you living by YOUR core values?”

Many people default to a subconscious set of mostly external values. Defining your core values should be extremely personal. What is most important to YOU? If you don’t live your life in line with your answer to that question, you’ll never achieve peace of mind. You’ll experience frustration, stress, burnout … all things diametrically opposed to peace of mind!

If you’re like a lot of people, you may say that your core values interfere with pursuing your passions. For example, supporting your family may be an overriding value of yours. You’re not happy but you have to do what you have to do, right? 

Keep in mind that seeing the big picture – aligning your core values with your passions – energizes you. You may come to see your current situation as a stepping stone to the future of which you dream. Doesn’t that change how you look at things as they are now?

We’ll revisit this topic next time. Between now and then, think about what’s most important to you, given your passions and beliefs. Tomorrow, we’ll talk about two techniques that will help you discover your core values so you can live your dream life with purpose. 

Our quote today is by Steven Covey. 

“Personal leadership is the process of keeping your vision and your
values before you and aligning your life to be congruent with them.”

So values your values and your vision … and live your life with purpose, on purpose.
Next time, we’ll continue on this track. You’ll get two techniques to discover your core values so you can live your dream life with purpose. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

Define Success For Your Peace Of Mind

Today we’ll discuss two definitions of success. We thought that this was the best place to start our first blog here at Bigg Success. How do you define success?

We’re sure you’re familiar with the first definition of success – it’s the classic.

Success is accomplishing something you set out to do.

Can you see the power in this simple definition? It focuses on a tangible result. You can see it. You can announce it to the world, and everyone knows whether or not you did it. That’s the strength of this definition.

However, it does have a weakness. We may accomplish a lot in the short-term, but the overriding question is:

Are these accomplishments taking us in the right direction?

We may be the victims of speed without direction! We’re moving fast, but not in the direction we really intend to go. Now, that’s a serious problem. Picture it – the faster we go, the harder we work, the further we get from our desired destination. Ouch!

We end up frustrated, burned out, tired, stressed, unhappy, and unfulfilled. That’s why we like the second definition of success. You may not be familiar with this one. In his book, They Call Me Coach,John Wooden, UCLA’s great coach/teacher/author, defined success this way:

“Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result
of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best
to become the best that you are capable of becoming.”

So Wooden’s definition focuses on the long-term you that you want to be. Yeah, we wrote that right!

You want peace of mind, right? Freedom from panic, from fear, from anxiety, from worry, from stress? You want harmony, contentment, happiness, fulfillment. Ah, such lovely words. We all want these feelings, don’t we?

We think this definition is the best we’ve seen. It begins with the end in mind, as Steven Covey said in his great book, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.You’ve probably read it, but if you haven’t you should. Even if you have, it deserves another look. We think it’s the foundation of your success studies. Well, second to Bigg Success, of course!