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Why My Way is the Wrong Way

music-lessons.jpgToday we introduced a new segment on The Bigg Success ShowMusic Lessons. You really might enjoy listening because we can’t fully replicate the experience in text!



Bigg success is life on your own terms. The five elements of bigg success are money, time, growth, work and play. Today we’ll focus on growth.


marylynnI took a lot of music lessons in my clarinet and saxophone playing days. But our Music Lessons are different. They’re about the things we can learn from songs.



georgeI love the Rat Pack. One of the songs that Frank Sinatra is most known for is My Way. I’ve heard other people sing it, but never quite like Frank. It’s often thought of as his signature song, but I’ve read that he wasn’t really that fond of it.


Most of you probably know the words. It’s about a man looking back on his life. He’s certain that he’s lived his life on his own terms. He has few regrets. He planned his life and lived it his way.

He persevered “without exemption” even when “he bit off more than he could chew.” He did it boldly and experienced all that life had to give through love, laughter and, yes, even tears. He concludes by saying he was true to himself. He “took the blows” and did it all his way.

From me to we

Paul Anka, who wrote the song, said it was inspired by all the publications he read. Wherever he looked, he saw “my this” or “my that”. It was the age of the “me” generation. That’s why this great song, which we love, just doesn’t go far enough.

We’re in the “we” generation. We need to move beyond my way to our ways.


marylynnI still want to live my life on my own terms. That’s bigg success. But I’ll reach bigg success faster if I can help you live your life on your own terms. That’s moving “our ways”.



georgePicture two roads running near each other for mile after mile. Every now and then they intersect. You’re on your path to life on your own terms. I’m on my path. If we can find those points of intersection, we can work together so we both reach bigg success faster.


It only takes four little steps to work together for bigg success

Two winning attitudes
It begins with an attitude that we must possess – win / win or wait.

If we can’t work together so that we both benefit, let’s wait to work together. Our time will come.

An engaging conversation
Next, have an engaging conversation with each person with whom you would like to work. Discover what life on their own terms means to them. If they’re interested, share what life on your own terms means to you. If they’re not interested, you know you’re talking with the wrong person!

From this conversation, you’ll discover ways that the two of you might work together to reach bigg success faster.

A pilot program
Now you’re ready to do something together. Go for it and learn. What worked? What didn’t? What would you do differently next time?

Adapt and try again
“If at first you don’t succeed” doesn’t just apply to individuals. Figure out whether to zig or zag and give it another shot together.

Think our ways, not my way. Add value to your life by adding value to the lives of others. That’s how you reach bigg success faster!


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Thanks for clicking our way today. Until next time, here’s to your bigg success!


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How Do I Find My Passion?

Bigg Challenge
Amy knows she’s not passionate about her career, but she doesn’t really know what she would love to do. She wants to know how to discover her passion.

Bigg Advice
We recommend that you get a notebook to write down your thoughts and answers to the following questions, Amy.

These things all revolve around one simple theme –

Look to the past to discover your future.

#1 – What did you want to be when you grew up?
Now you may think that’s a silly question to ask at this point in your life, but it’s not. Because it leads to the more important question …

Why? Why did you want to do that one thing when you grew up?

Mary-Lynn wanted to be a singing star. She wanted to be like Cher – up on stage performing in front of an audience with a microphone. Unfortunately, she couldn’t sing!

But today, she does perform in front of an audience with her very own microphone. It’s not exactly what she envisioned as a kid, but the elements are there.

#2 – What classes did you really enjoy?

You probably thrived in these classes. What were they, from grade school all the way up through college? And more importantly …

What about that particular class did you enjoy so much?

George loved philosophy – learning how to think logically and debate a subject. He’s used those skills his entire career. He has found that the work that’s most enjoyable to him often has to do with problem-solving.

#3 – What extracurricular activities did you love?

And more importantly, what did you love about that activity?

Mary-Lynn loved music. She loved being in the pep band and going to competitions. These additional benefits were a bonus to learning to play an instrument well. It appealed to her competitive nature and fulfilled her social needs.

#4 – What jobs or roles have given you the greatest satisfaction?
More importantly, what common themes were there?

George has been an entrepreneur and a teacher. As his career as a business owner advanced, he found that teaching and inspiring others was what he really enjoyed. He got great feedback about meetings he conducted. He also got positive reviews from his students. Today, Bigg Success gives him that outlet to share knowledge with others.

#5 – What is, or was, your favorite hobby?

What do you, or did you, do for free?

Mary-Lynn has loved writing since she was a kid. It taps into her creative side. That desire to be creative has guided her throughout her career. She once left a job because it didn’t offer creative freedom. Her need for creative control in her job spills over from her hobby. Being in touch with what you naturally do, even without pay, can help you discover your passion.

So as you ponder these five questions, think about the elements of the activity, rather than the activity itself, to discover your passion.

Thanks, Amy, for sharing your bigg challenge with us. We’re confident you’ll discover your passion soon!

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Our bigg quote today is by Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel, who said,

“Nothing great in the world has been accomplished without passion.”

So find your passion to uncover your greatness.

Next time, we’ll discuss what to do if working harder isn’t working anymore. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!


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