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When Will You Be a Success?

Overcoming Discouragement for Your BIGG SuccessYou work and work and work.
When will you be a BIGG success?

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Day after day. Week after week. You push and push and push.
When will you reach BIGG success?

You try and try and try. Again and again and again.
When will you be a BIGG success?

You learn and learn and learn.
When will you finally reach BIGG success?

You do everything every expert tells you to do.
When will it happen for you?
When will you be able to live the life of your dreams?

Screw that, when will you be able to live like a normal person?
When will you have weekends to yourself?
When can you get at least part of your evenings back?

Success seems so close

At times, success seems so close. You know it is.
But you don’t really KNOW it is. You HOPE it is.

You hope, beyond all hope, that – the next time you pull yourself up, the next time you try again – the next time will bring BIGG success.

So you dust yourself off. You work up the courage. You go for it.

And still you come up short.

Discouragement. That doesn’t even begin to describe it.
You are dejected. You want to crawl into a cave and cry.
You’re so tired. Sleep. Maybe you just need some sleep.

So you struggle to get to sleep. You’re scared. But you finally drift off.

The next day you wake up. You’re still discouraged, but at least that overwhelming feeling that your world was collapsing around you has passed.

You know you have to act. Action crushes worry. So you do act.

Maybe today will be different.
But it isn’t.

So you try again tomorrow.
With the same result.
When will you be a BIGG success?

When doubt enters

You see others succeed. It seems like it came easy.
How did they do it? What do they have that you don’t have?

Maybe you’re just not lucky.
Maybe you were never destined to succeed. Maybe the status quo is your lot in life. Maybe God has conspired against you, instead of for you.

Belief has turned to doubt. You doubt yourself. You doubt everything.

You never knew it would be this hard. If you did, you wouldn’t have tried. But here you are.

You never know

So you keep plugging away. You keep going. You keep adapting.

Because you never know when you will be a BIGG success until you are a BIGG success.

You just know you will. At some point in time.

As long as you don’t quit. History has shown us that people often quit just before success. They finally run out of fuel. They just can’t do it anymore.

A perfect process

This is a game of belief and endurance.

As long as you can maintain the belief you can succeed, you’re still in the game.

If you persevere, you will reach BIGG success. You just don’t know when.

So you must keep pushing. And once you hit BIGG success, you’ll realize how perfect the process is.

Each step of the way, you learned something that ultimately led you to BIGG success.

You’ll recognize that, each step of the way, you became stronger. Your strength enabled you to conquer obstacles that keep most people from ever reaching BIGG success.

You’ll see that the joy is ever bit as much in the journey, complete with all its struggles, as it is in reaching BIGG success.

When will you reach BIGG success?

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5 Biggest Regrets in Life

book page | BIGG SuccessThere’s a new book coming out by Bronnie Ware, a nurse who worked with people who had been sent home to die. It’s called Regrets of the Dying.

It’s ironic – if you want to learn how to live, talk to people who are about to die. She has a great post where she summarizes the top 5 regrets of the dying.

We want to share them with you today.

Hear George & Mary-Lynn share the 5 regrets on The BIGG Success Show Podcast. Click a player to listen.

1) “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

The #1 regret sounds a lot like our definition of BIGG success. BIGG success is life on your own terms. You and you alone are the entrepreneur of a very special enterprise – your life. You have to take control so you have no regrets.

She makes an interesting point – her patients apparently realized less than half of their dreams. One of the reasons she cited for the shortfall is choices. It’s the choices they made or didn’t make.

It’s the life you choose. Too many people conform too much to other people’s expectations. The choices you make or don’t make determine your outcome.

Another interesting point is that health equals freedom. She says dying people wished they had pursued their dreams while they still could, while they still had their health.

If you put off everything until you have the time, you may not have the health to enjoy it.

2) “I wish I didn’t work so hard.”

She said every single man she cared for cited this regret. She hastens to add that her patients largely grew up in an era where women were not breadwinners.

We think that one of the great lessons of the Great Recession is really a reminder. Material possessions not only don’t make us happy; they may actually keep us from being happy.

We have to work more to pay for them. So we have less time for people and projects we love.

We get a short-term bump in happiness. But it comes at the expense of long-term fulfillment.

BIGG success is life on your own terms.

You don’t have to keep up with your neighbors.

You don’t have to live like a celebrity.

You may live more by buying less so you work less.

3) “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”

Keeping peace with others means little if it leaves you with no peace of mind.

Remember, when you express your feelings, the good people in your life will care. They want you to feel good.

The people who don’t care? Well, you probably know what needs to be done there for your own peace of mind.

4) “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”

We believe that, ultimately, life is about two things: relationships and experiences. Experiences with people you love.

Once again, you need to reach out to these people before it’s too late. While you still have your health. While you can both still enjoy the time together.

5) “I wish I had let myself be happier.”

Bronnie says, “Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice.” How true.

Based on what she learned from her patients, she warns us to not get stuck in old patterns and habits. Don’t be afraid of change. Laugh. Be silly again.

We’ve talked many times before about the importance of maintaining your child-like nature.

Note the term – child-like, not childish.

We’re so afraid of looking immature that we don’t play.

We’re so serious that we completely miss out on the fun.

We’re so worried about being embarrassed that we’re afraid to look naïve.

We’re so busy being cynical that we’ve lost our innocence.

Yes, happiness is a choice. It’s not about what you have or what you’ve done. It’s about being who you are to become all that you can be. Happiness leads to BIGG success and BIGG success leads to happiness.

Get on Bronnie’s mailing list so you can be notified when her book is available. There’s a lot more to learn.

We never regret when you spend some time with us. Thanks so much.

Until next time, here’s to your BIGG success!

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Entrepreneurs Must Be Stupid

cautionIn his fantastic book Think Like a Black Belt, Jim Bouchard says: “The absence of fear is stupidity.”

Entrepreneurs must be stupid. They forge ahead boldly while smart people cringe with fear.

Risk? Ha!

Entrepreneurs laugh at it. They love it. No amount of risk will stop them.

That’s the story if you believe popular lore.

Jim says that Black Belts exhibit courage in the face of fear. Entrepreneurs gain courage by minimizing the risk.

They shift it away. They share it with others. They manage it. They act once the risk is brought down to an acceptable level.

It’s calculated fearlessness, not an absence of fear. After all, entrepreneurs aren’t stupid.

Some people would just like to think they are. They’re the people sitting on the sidelines wasting their lives away.

If you’re ready for life on your own terms, maybe we can help minimize the risks. E-mail us at bigginfo@biggsuccess.com or leave a voice message at 888.455.2444.

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These 5 Factors Make You a Bigg Dog

dog_daysToday we’re wrapping up our five-part Dog Days series. Mark Twain said:

“It’s not the size of the dog in the fight; it’s the size of the fight in the dog.”

Bigg dogs aren’t bigg because of their size. They’re bigg because of their attitude.

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There are 5 C’s that put the fight in the dog:

Calling

Bigg dogs just know they were put on this earth to do something special. They can feel it deep in their gut. It consumes them. They have to live up to their full potential. It drives them each and every day.

Courage

Sure, bigg dogs have fears, but they don’t let their fears drive them. They conquer their fears by confronting them head on. That’s one of the first victories we experience in our quest for bigg success: victory over our fears.

Confidence

They have confidence that their time will come. They don’t doubt that they will find their bigg opportunity. They know they will have their moment in the spotlight. They believe they will live their bigg dream.

They also have confidence that they will be ready. They know they will do whatever it takes to prepare for it. They will work harder and smarter than anyone else to be ready when their time comes.

For these reasons, they have confidence in themselves. They have prepared – mentally and physically – for this day that they knew would come. Now that it is here, now that the game is on the line, they want the ball. They are the go-to person and they will find a win to win.

Contemplation

Bigg dogs are thinkers and doers. They are always on the look out for opportunities that match their passions, preferences and proficiencies. When they see potential customers with a problem, they know they may be on to something.

They determine how easy these customers are to identify and reach. If it can be done, that spells opportunity.

Then they look at competitors. They know they don’t want to go head to head with large companies. They also look at competitors of all sizes.

If there aren’t any large companies dominating the niche and if there aren’t too many competitors in total, they get going!

Contempt

They know they will face adversity. They show scorn in its face. They press on to bigg success and that what makes them bigg dogs!

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Thank you for reading our post. Check out the entire Dog Days series. You'll find the links below under 'related posts'.

A lot of us have seen our portfolios take a huge hit. Please join us next time when we’ll talk about investments that don’t lose value. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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What Makes a Hero a Hero?

hero You’ve probably seen the photos and the news stories of the “miracle on the Hudson” Captain Chesley Sullenberger was able to save over 150 passengers by making an emergency landing on the Hudson River after both engines of his plane failed.

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He’s received accolades from across the country, including Michael Bloomberg, the Mayor of New York and two Presidents – President Bush who was the President at the time this happened and now President Obama who invited Sully, as his friends call him, to the Inaugural Ceremony.

The story is fascinating. We heard over and over again how calm and collected he was. His coolness kept the passengers calm and collected too.

What makes someone a hero?

The Carnegie Hero Fund Commission defines a hero as “a civilian who voluntarily risks his or her own life to an extraordinary degree while saving or attempting to save the life of another person.”

That definition fits the mission of their organization, but is it expansive enough?

We turned to Merriam Webster. Two of their definitions of a hero stand out:

  • a person admired for his or her noble achievements
  • someone who shows great courage

We crafted our own definition:

A hero is an ordinary person who does something
extraordinary for the good of someone else.

It is a gift, not a sacrifice (although it may involve sacrifice) in the mind of the hero. It is the opposite of narcissism, but it is definitely not martyrdom.

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3 steps to heroism

Do you want to be a hero? We thought about this and it seems to us that becoming a hero is a three-step process:

Heroism starts with an attitude
Almost all of us think we have a duty to prevent harm to others as long as it doesn’t cost us too much. A hero expands upon that attitude. They feel a duty to serve others – to do good – whether or not it costs them something. 

It continues with preparation
This sense of a bigger duty drives them to preparation. They have a drive to be ready when the time comes.

Going back to Sully … as the pilot of a plane, he knew at some point there might be a crisis. So he gave a great deal of his free time studying everything situation he might encounter. It was his duty to be as fully prepared as possible should a crisis arise.

It completes itself with an action
The act of a hero is the manifestation of an underlying attitude. The success of that act depends on the preparation for it.

Sully had to respond because it was his duty. But his response didn’t start when the birds knocked both engines out of his plane. It began years earlier when he began studying flying.

So when the situation arose, he was ready because he felt a sense of duty and he had prepared.

Heroes, heroes everywhere

Heroism doesn’t always show itself in actions that make the news. There are heroes all around us. That’s what we’re going to talk about in our next two posts. Next time, we’ll discuss the hero behind the hero.

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