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Why My Way is the Wrong Way

music-lessons.jpgToday we introduced a new segment on The Bigg Success ShowMusic Lessons. You really might enjoy listening because we can’t fully replicate the experience in text!



Bigg success is life on your own terms. The five elements of bigg success are money, time, growth, work and play. Today we’ll focus on growth.


marylynnI took a lot of music lessons in my clarinet and saxophone playing days. But our Music Lessons are different. They’re about the things we can learn from songs.



georgeI love the Rat Pack. One of the songs that Frank Sinatra is most known for is My Way. I’ve heard other people sing it, but never quite like Frank. It’s often thought of as his signature song, but I’ve read that he wasn’t really that fond of it.


Most of you probably know the words. It’s about a man looking back on his life. He’s certain that he’s lived his life on his own terms. He has few regrets. He planned his life and lived it his way.

He persevered “without exemption” even when “he bit off more than he could chew.” He did it boldly and experienced all that life had to give through love, laughter and, yes, even tears. He concludes by saying he was true to himself. He “took the blows” and did it all his way.

From me to we

Paul Anka, who wrote the song, said it was inspired by all the publications he read. Wherever he looked, he saw “my this” or “my that”. It was the age of the “me” generation. That’s why this great song, which we love, just doesn’t go far enough.

We’re in the “we” generation. We need to move beyond my way to our ways.


marylynnI still want to live my life on my own terms. That’s bigg success. But I’ll reach bigg success faster if I can help you live your life on your own terms. That’s moving “our ways”.



georgePicture two roads running near each other for mile after mile. Every now and then they intersect. You’re on your path to life on your own terms. I’m on my path. If we can find those points of intersection, we can work together so we both reach bigg success faster.


It only takes four little steps to work together for bigg success

Two winning attitudes
It begins with an attitude that we must possess – win / win or wait.

If we can’t work together so that we both benefit, let’s wait to work together. Our time will come.

An engaging conversation
Next, have an engaging conversation with each person with whom you would like to work. Discover what life on their own terms means to them. If they’re interested, share what life on your own terms means to you. If they’re not interested, you know you’re talking with the wrong person!

From this conversation, you’ll discover ways that the two of you might work together to reach bigg success faster.

A pilot program
Now you’re ready to do something together. Go for it and learn. What worked? What didn’t? What would you do differently next time?

Adapt and try again
“If at first you don’t succeed” doesn’t just apply to individuals. Figure out whether to zig or zag and give it another shot together.

Think our ways, not my way. Add value to your life by adding value to the lives of others. That’s how you reach bigg success faster!


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Thanks for clicking our way today. Until next time, here’s to your bigg success!


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9 Presentation Tips to Make You a Star


Performing live didn’t bother Dean Martin at all. On the other hand, Frank Sinatra got quite nervous before shows. One night, right before a show, Dean noticed Frank’s anxiety again. Dean said, “Why are you so nervous, Frank? It’s just singing!”

Some people would rather walk on a bed of hot coals than make a public presentation. But it’s just speaking! Getting good at presentations is a sure-fire career builder. Just be prepared going in! 

#1 – Define your purpose.
What is the desired outcome of your presentation? Know this before you do anything else. You’ll make a lot of choices as you build a great presentation; know your purpose so you make better decisions.

#2 – Know your audience.
What’s their background? What are their preferences? What has worked well for people who have made presentations to them before? What didn’t work? Design your presentation for their needs and wants.

#3 – Develop the appropriate collateral materials.

With your purpose, audience, and content in mind, develop needed support materials.  For example, believe it or not, some people hate PowerPoint presentations. If you know that in advance, you might use flip charts or some other tool instead.

#4 – Develop a back-up plan.

Ask yourself, “What could go wrong?” For example, we’ve all witnessed technical difficulties. Prepare for it in advance. Your show must go on!

#5 – Plan for interaction.
Think about questions and comments that might arise. In some cases, you’ll respond on-the-spot. In others, you may defer to a follow-up discussion. Some questions or comments may not be relevant. In all cases, know how you’ll stay on track.

#6 – Put yourself in the role.

Refer to our blog, 24 The Role of Role Playing]. Rehearse by yourself, but also find someone who will listen to your presentation and follow-up with questions.

#7 – Focus on making a connection.
Seek to build trust. Make eye contact. Relax. Just plan on having a conversation so the real you shines through.

#8 – Don’t waste time.
A little small talk goes a long way. Get to your points early. Stay on point. Allow us to elaborate …

Whoops! We just about went against our own advice!

#9 – Call for action.
You started by determining your purpose. Now we’ve come full circle. Fulfill your mission by asking your audience to do what you set out to accomplish.

So keep these points handy. The next time you’re asked to present, review them, apply them, and you’ll be a star!

Our bigg quote today is by Philip Crosby.

“No one can remember more than three points.”

Wow, we just did nine points. Good thing our readers are three times smarter than no one!

Next time, we’ll talk about how to be rich today. Except we guess it will actually be tomorrow! Until then, here’s to your bigg success!


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