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The Secret to Making Good New Year’s Resolutions

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Click the player to hear us share the secret to making good New Year’s resolutions on the BIGG Success Show Podcast. – George  “The Professor” & Mary-Lynn

The most successful people make good New Year’s resolutions. It begs the question…

What makes good New Year’s resolutions?

Good New Year’s resolutions are:

1) “Keepable”

It’s our way of saying it’s a goal that’s believably achievable. You’re pretty sure you can reach your objective.

2) Material

But it’s a missed opportunity if it’s too easy to achieve. It must make an impact to be meaningful.

3) Quantifiable

It has to be binary – a “Yes” or “No” answer to a simple question. The question is always: Did you accomplish what you set out to accomplish?

Good New Year’s resolutions come in two types

1) Result goals

This is the traditional approach. When we think of New Year’s resolutions, most people think of outcome-based goals.

2) Activity goals

This is how entrepreneurs approach goal-setting. (And even if you never plan to own a business, thinking like an entrepreneur will be very beneficial.) Entrepreneurs focus on the inputs.

For example…

Let’s say you want to lose weight. How does this work with the two approaches?

Result goal
Determine how much you want to lose and by when you plan to lose it.
Then decide how will you do it.

You will likely come up with things like “go on a low-carb diet” and “go to the gym every day.”

Activity goal
Here, you may start with something simple like “walk 3 times a week for 30 minutes” and/or “eat veggies instead of candy in the afternoon.”

The secret to making good New Year’s resolutions

There are two problems with results goals: The natural response is to try to change everything at once. And you don’t know what works and what doesn’t. You only know whether it all works.

All along, it’s a fight against yourself.

So, the traditional approach leaves many, if not most, people discouraged and disillusioned.

When you set an activity goal, you experiment with one thing at a time. (Although you may choose to test multiple things at once, according to your resources.)

And here’s the secret: You see what works and what doesn’t. THEN you can adapt. EVENTUALLY, you’re able to set a good results goal based on the feedback you’ve received.

You see, with this approach to goal-setting, it’s a game.

It’s uplifting and empowering. So you’re more likely to keep the New Year’s resolutions you make. And that leads to BIGG success!

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Here’s to your BIGG success!

George “The Professor” & Mary-Lynn
Co-Founders, BIGG Success

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3 Keys to Setting Goals for Success

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Here we sit at the end of the first month of the year. Most New Year resolutions are distant memories at this point.

If you’re one of the people who gave up, you’re going to love today’s topic. It’s your second chance!

And if you’re still pursuing a goal, these three goal-setting tips will help you achieve what you want.

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Dr. Shane Lopez is the world’s leading researcher on hope. He says goal-setting and hope have a lot to do with each other. But it requires three types of thinking, all working together.

We’ve put our BIGG spin on the labels by making them all start with “w”. So here we go – three keys to setting goals for success.

What

Think what.

  • What do you want to change?
  • What do you want to improve?
  • What do you want to make better?

Dr. Lopez calls this “goals thinking”. You define what you want by starting with where you are.

Ways

Think about your “what” long and hard o you discover many “ways” to get it. Dr. Lopez calls this “pathways thinking”.

  • If there’s only one way to reach your goal, you may want to rethink it.
  • You need contingency plans.

Wherewithal

  • Do you have the means to achieve what you want?
  • If not, can you get it?

It starts with your own time and energy:

  • Will you commit the time, effort and energy to get what you want?
  • If you can’t say “Yes” honestly and enthusiastically, pick another goal!

But it goes beyond you. For example, what about money:

  • Will it take an investment of money to get what you want?
  • If so, do you have it?
  • If not, do you know where you can get it?
  • Or do you know someone who would know?

You’ll also want to think about your own strengths and weaknesses:

  • Are there skills required that you don’t have?
  • If so, will you commit to developing them?
  • Or do you know someone who has them?
  • Are they available to help you?
  • At this point, you may need to go back to the money questions – How much will their help cost?

The full combination

These three keys interdependently. You need the full combination to unlock hope so you move forward on your goals for BIGG success.

Most people sort of whimsically think about the “what”. In most cases, even that’s not really thought through thoroughly enough.

For the few that do, even fewer go to the next two…

Yet that’s where you should make the greatest investment – in determining the ways and making sure you have the wherewithal, you have the resources required or can get them.

Why

But here’s another BIGG spin – “Why?”

Before you proceed past the “What” to goal-setting for your BIGG success, think about your motivation for your goal.

Your “Why” gives you the resiliency you’ll need to keep pushing when things get tough.

It leads to BIGG success!

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Set Goals Like Goldilocks

Set goals like Goldilocks for BIGG SuccessA friend of ours told us a funny story recently. Her son was sitting with her mother in front of his computer.

He called up Skype video. They were looking at themselves.

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Grandma said, “Oh, that’s a nice picture.”
Our friend’s son replied, “Grandma, that’s us right now.”
To which Grandma responded, “Oh, I look so old.”

Isn’t that exactly what we do to ourselves?

If we looked at ourselves like a stranger in a picture, we can be complimentary. But as soon as we realize we’re looking at ourselves, we become very critical.

When you look at yourself, what do you see?

This is a particularly important question this time of year as we shift from one year to another. Let’s talk about two mistakes you’ll want to avoid when you look back and two to avoid as you look forward.

Reflection mistakes

Reflection mistakes are common errors when looking back.

  • Hyper-Critics Condition

    Are you like Grandma? When you look back, are you too hard on yourself? It’s a mistake. We call it Hyper-Critic’s Condition.

    Filter yourself by pretending you’re evaluating a close friend. You’ll be more likely to see the good with the bad.

Plus, even when you see negatives, you’ll frame them in a positive way.

  • Underdog Disease

    Some people are the opposite of Grandma. They’re too easy on themselves.

    They see themselves as underdogs. So they don’t push themselves hard enough.

    You can diagnose yourself to see if you’ve been infected. Ask yourself a question:

    Did you accomplish everything you set out to accomplish this year?

    If not, why?

    Resist the urge to just give yourself a pass. Pretend you’re reviewing a subordinate who has under-performed.

    As his or her leader, your job is to discover the reasons for the shortcomings and then help coach them to improve performance. That’s what you’ll do with yourself.

Projection mistakes

These are common errors people make when looking to the future.

  • The Slacker Symptom

    Your goals – or your New Year’s resolutions – should be attainable. But not easily attainable.

    Easily attainable is boring. As humans, we don’t sustain activities that bore us.

    We need meaning. And meaning comes from growth, which comes from challenge.

    So set goals that push you a little bit beyond where you’ve gone before.

    Stretch goals aren’t boring. Stretch goals are challenging. Stretch goals are meaningful.

  • Superhero Syndrome

    Superheroes set unrealistic goals. Your goals must excite you.

    They must spur you on. But they have to be attainable.

    There are two risks from setting your goals too high. You may realize quickly that they aren’t attainable. So you abandon your plan without really giving it a chance.

    You may keep telling yourself you can do it. You’re a BIGG goal-getter. BIGG goals are great. But not if you burn out trying to reach them. It only leads to disappointment, despair, and maybe even depression.

    You aren’t able to push yourself to the next level. You keep hitting the wall. So you give up. And nothing changes.

Taking some time to reflect on the past year to find the lessons is a healthy exercise. Investing time to plan out the coming year, make some projections, and set some goals is also valuable.

But think like Goldilocks. When looking back, don’t be too hard or too easy on yourself. When planning ahead, set goals that are challenging, but realistic.

We tend to have a bias. Understand yours so you can guard against it and you’ll live happily ever after! That’s BIGG success!

Do you tend to be too hard on yourself or too easy? Do you tend to set goals are too challenging or not challenging enough?

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3 Questions for a Brighter Future

questions You and you alone create your future. You are the only person, place or thing with that power. With that being the case, it's up to you to create the future of your dreams.

One way to do that is to look back so you can look forward. Reflecting upon the past and pulling lessons away so your future is bigger and brighter. With the New Year upon us, now is a great time to review last year so next year lives up to its promise for you.

There's a simple three-stage framework for performing this exercise. It involves asking yourself three questions:

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What?

Start with the actual events of this year. What happened? Describe major events in your life. As you record your answers, test your perceptions to make sure they reflect the reality of the situation. If it helps, pretend that you are a reporter objectively recording the facts of the event.

So what?

At this stage, you move from reporting to understanding, from logic to emotion. That's why it was so important to get the facts right in the first step. What did this experience mean to you? How did it make you feel? Why did you feel that way? What have you learned?

Now what?

The previous two questions lead to this one. How will you apply the lessons you learned? What specific actions will you take as a result of the events you've outlined?

These three simple questions serve as a great outline to review major events in your life and develop forward-thinking plans to be a bigg success.

Let’s look at a couple of examples, using events from 2008.

Example: Volatile stocks

What?
The stock market can be very volatile.

So what?
I can lose money if I don’t understand the risk and how to manage it.

Now what?
I will learn more about investing and asset allocation. I won’t invest money in stocks that I will need in the next ten years. I will pay closer attention to my quarterly reports to make sure I maintain the proper asset allocation given my age and goals.

Example: Layoffs

What?
Times are tough at work; layoffs are possible.

So what?
It makes me nervous. I think I could lose my job.

Now what?
I will look for ways to help my company save money. I will make sure my boss is aware of the projects I complete successfully. I will look for opportunities to add additional skills so I’m more competitive.

Solid goals

In our examples, the “Now what’s” are a little bit fuzzy. You really want to refine them to turn them into solid goals. For instance, looking at the second example, instead of saying “I will look for ways to help my company save money,” turn that into “I will find one way to save my company $X (you pick a relevant amount) in the next 30 days.”

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We really appreciate you taking the time to read our post today. Join us next time when we look at the most important people of 2008. We think you’ll be surprised at our choices! Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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Is E-Mail Diluting Your Message?

communicate Albert Mehrabian, Professor Emeritus of Psychology at UCLA, is the author of Silent Messages. This book discusses his legendary research into the relative importance of verbal and non-verbal communication.

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Mehrabian’s rule

When you’re trying to communicate emotions, think about the three V’s: verbal, vocal, and visual. They are the three parts of what has become known as Mehrabian’s Rule – 7% of your message is given verbally (the words you use), 38% comes vocally (the tone you use), and 55% is delivered visually (your facial expressions and body language).

We see from his research that, when we’re trying to convey feelings or attitudes, the overwhelming majority of the message comes through non-verbally. If the verbal and non-verbal don’t agree, people will rely on the non-verbal.

Choosing your medium

Therefore, understanding the three V’s of communication helps you prevent misunderstanding. If the recipient of your message can’t hear and see you say the words, your message may get diluted.

E-mail is convenient, but it can be easily misunderstood because it’s only words. What about text messages?

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marylynnA friend of mine told me that her husband’s ex-wife texts her husband about problems with their kids. My friend gets frustrated after several rounds of nothing getting solved. She says she tells him to just call his ex-wife.

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So choose your medium carefully if you’re trying to convey feelings or attitudes. Some media only use one part of the communication trio, and a very minor one at that!

If you’re just relaying facts, e-mail is fine. If you want to express more than that, your message may get diluted. A phone call enriches the conversation because you bring in the voice. And while it’s not always possible to meet face-to-face, it is your best bet for your most sensitive communication.

Speaking of which …

Let’s apply this to a presentation, whether your audience is one or many. How you say what you say, and what you do when you say it, are actually more important, in getting your message across, than what you say.

What?

It’s hard to explain this in just words. Hey, that illustrates our point!

You can say, “I’m excited.” If you say it with enthusiasm in your voice while standing straight up, your audience will believe you. If you say it like Droopy says, “I’m happy” and slouch while you’re saying it, your audience may doubt you.

People remember the impression more than the words. So if you want to connect with an audience, it’s important to practice your inflections and your gestures to make sure they’re congruent with your words.

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We really appreciate you reading our post today. If you listened to our show, you could’ve heard our appreciation in our voices! Join us next time when we get a visit from a very special guest – Santa Claus. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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