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This Advice Is Not For The Faint-of-Heart

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 On the show, George said he once had a student who underperformed, primarily due to sporadic attendance. As the semester wound down, he found out the reason – his student had a severe acne condition. Most of the time, it was under control. But it occasionally flared up, and this student wouldn’t leave his apartment.

George said that, had he known what the problem was, he could have helped. The University has fantastic support services for students. But this student didn’t take advantage of it.

So why don’t people, who need help, ask for it?

  • Youth and inexperience
    Some people just don’t know any better. They may have never faced the situation before. 
  • Insecurity
    Other people don’t ask for help because they lack self-confidence. They’re afraid they’ll be embarrassed or “look stupid”. 
  • Ego
    Yet other people are too proud to admit that they’re in over their head. 

All of which leads us to the common perception that keeps many people from succeeding:

They think that they will look weak if they ask for help.

George has a friend who is a multi-multi-millionaire. He owns many businesses. He has real estate all over the country. He travels extensively. He is a well-respected leader in the community.

But it hasn’t always been easy. A few years ago, he almost ran out of cash in his franchise business. He approached anyone and everyone within the franchise organization that he thought could help him. Together they found a solution that helped him get back on his feet!

The moral to these stories … only the strong ask for help.

So, assuming you’re strong enough, here are three tips to get the help you need.

#1 – Know who to ask.
Don’t ask people who can’t help you, but ask anyone and everyone who can. George’s student may have talked to friends, but they didn’t know what to do. The businessman talked to the appropriate people with the franchisor. They helped make it happen!

#2 – Present your situation properly.
People respond best to opportunities. So, whenever possible, frame your situation as an opportunity, not a problem. Obviously, this won’t apply to all situations.

The student didn’t have an opportunity to offer, per se. However, there are people at the University whose entire job is to help students in that type of situation. This was an opportunity to fulfill their mission.

The businessman presented an openness to consider anything, but a desire to help his franchisor solve their problems, too. He ended up partnering with them in yet another business, which led to his fortune.

#3 – Be willing to accept advice and act upon it or don’t ask in the first place.
You’ll demonstrate that they’ve helped you by implementing their solution and letting them know how it goes. Otherwise, don’t waste their time.

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Our bigg quote today is by Ric Ocasek, the lead singer of The Cars.

“Refusing to ask for help when you need it is refusing someone the chance to be helpful.”

So “let’s go” ask for help. I usually get “just what I needed” to “shake it up” and create some “magic.”

Can you tell we’re bigg Cars fans?

The title of our next blog says it all – “Help! My Spouse Spends Too Much Money!” We’ll help one of our newsletter subscribers stop the bleeding without getting bloody! Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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The Respect Reward: Letting Your People Know They Matter Matters

By Bigg Success Staff
06-19-08

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Judy Bardwick wrote an interesting book called One Foot Out the Door: How to Combat the Psychological Recession That is Hurting American Business. In her book, she claimed that as many as two-thirds of America’s workforce feel insecure about their future.

Ineffective leaders reinforce this feeling by scolding employees publicly while being stingy with praise. This results in their troops feeling unappreciated.

Effective leadership calls for the opposite approach.
Let your people know what you expect from them. Set high, yet achievable, goals. Let them know that you realize you’re asking a lot, but you have confidence in their ability to do it.

Then let them do it. Praise them publicly when they do well. Offer constructive criticism privately when they don’t.

The reward for respect
Bardwick says that there’s a direct relationship between leaders who treat their employees like this and positive outcomes. People who are respected and trusted work more efficiently and effectively. They feel like they are part of something bigger. That they matter.

As a leader, letting your people know they matter matters a lot.

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