You know they could be a bigg success, but they just can’t stay focused. They start a project but then something else captures their attention. Kind of like the interruption we just had with the song.
The list itself doesn’t contain any real surprises:
lose weight
manage debt
save money
get a better job
get fit
eat right
get a better education
drink less alcohol
quit smoking now
reduce stress overall
reduce stress at work
take a trip
volunteer to help others
As we discussed this list, we realized that there is one word that can often make all the difference in keeping our resolutions.
That word is … No!
You can’t keep putting yourself, or your goals, on the back burner and expect anything to change. You have to say, “No!”
Say no to everything that doesn’t help you achieve your goals.
Say no and get fit
For example, assume your resolution is to “Get fit.” Depending on your commute to your preferred fitness center, it will take at least an hour every time you work out.
But it’s really important to you so you’re going to make time to do it.
Then a co-worker or a friend asks you to serve on a committee or join a club that has weekly meetings. Just say No!
Your “No” doesn’t have to be forever. It just has to be for right now while you fit (pun intended) exercise in your daily routine. Once you’ve made it a habit, then you can consider something else.
Say no and get out of debt
Another common resolution is to “Manage debt.” Of course, the first step is to stop getting further in debt.
Since this is really important to you, you’ll find ways to control your spending.
Two common things that hurt our budgets are major purchases and daily decisions. Get in the habit of saying no to things you don’t need so you stop getting further in debt and save money to pay your debt down.
No – it’s a negative word that will positively help you reach your goals!
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We really appreciate you checking in on us today. Next week, we’ll look at what’s hot in 2009. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!
There’s a trap that’s easy to fall into when it comes to spending our time. We spend time how we want to, instead of how we need to. Then we end up with a must do.
If you think of a pyramid, with wants at the base, needs in the middle, and musts at the top, we tend to focus too much energy at the bottom of the pyramid at the expense of the top.
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I may have a lot of things on my “must list” but I’ll zip over to Facebook to see what my friends are up to!
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While we need to do quite a bit of research for Bigg Success, I can just get lost in it. I’ve already learned what I need to know, but I’m still interested so I just keep going.
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Why do we work on wants? Without a doubt, there are many reasons. The task at hand is difficult. It’s easier to work on something else. We may prefer to work on something else. It may be more fun to do something else. These are just a few of the reasons.
Start by defining
With our money, our musts are easy to determine – food, clothing, shelter and transportation. They’re a constant. With our time, our musts are much more flexible. They are things that are deadline-driven or crisis-related.
Our needs involve personal growth and interpersonal relations as well as activities that get us ahead of that deadline or prevent the crisis. Our wants then are everything else – generally activities that we like to do.
The time paradox
So why does this happen …
on those days when we have a full schedule, we get a lot done, but …
on days when we don’t have so much to do, we don’t seem to accomplish much?
When we’re required to really focus, we can get it done. When the pressure is off, we’re more likely to drift. We do what we want. If we’re not careful, if we don’t do the things we need to do, the needs move up to musts in the form of a pressing deadline or a crisis that could have been prevented.
Daily starter
So start each day with a blank piece of paper. Write “Musts” at the top, “Needs” in the middle, and “Wants” toward the bottom. Then, map out your day by making your list under each item. When you get done with your “Musts”, you can work on “Needs” and once they’re complete, you get to work on your “Wants”. It’s like a reward!
Musts, Wants, Needs – keeping these three categories in mind helps you best allocate your time!
We really appreciate you reading our post today. You’ve heard of stepping stones … join us next time when we’ll discuss overstepping stones. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!
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The List Universe recently published their list of ten lost rules of etiquette. The one that really got our attention was their #1 reason – talking about money and possessions.
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"24/7" finished ninth on the list. Can we add 365 to it?
"With all due respect" came in fifth. It made us think of one that irritates us. Why do people say, “I’m not trying to be rude” when they are getting ready to say something rude?
And the phrase that the wonderful people at Oxford found most irritating – “at the end of the day.”
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I love The Apprentice, but have you ever noticed how many contestants use that phrase over and over again?
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I think I just figured out my New Year’s Resolution for 2009. I’m going to start using the phrase, “at the beginning of the day” because I’m an optimist!
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These phrases are crutches gone mainstream. They made us think about our own crutches.
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I say “that’s right” a lot which is similar to “absolutely” which finished sixth on the Oxford list.
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I find myself saying “you know” more often than I would like. That’s definitely my crutch.
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Getting off crutches
Record yourself. In order to stop using crutch words, you have to become aware of them. Record yourself and listen to the words you’re using as a crutch.
Create substitutes. Come up with two or three alternates to the word or phrase you use over and over. When you feel yourself ready to rely on your crutch, or you know you’ve already said it, force yourself to use a different word or phrase.
So let’s look at “you know.” Why not lead with …
“You’re probably aware of this.” “You may find this interesting.” “I bet you can relate to this.”
Don’t those phrases sound better if you’re going to use one?
“That’s right” could be “Good point” or “You’re dead on.”
Pause to think. We won’t speak for you, but sometimes when we talk, our mouths seem to get ahead of our brains! So we lean on our crutches to fill the space. That’s because, as humans, we’re uncomfortable with … silence.
There’s no reason to be. A second of silence gives you time to fully digest what has been said. It actually improves communication.
What’s your crutch? What alternatives could you use? And, while we’re at it, what word or phrase drives you crazy?
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