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Teamwork Makes the Dream Work

heart Happy Valentine’s Day!

Couples all over the world are proclaiming their love for each other. In many cases, that love is shown with gifts – diamonds, chocolates, teddy bears, and roses.

It’s the roses we want to talk about today. Do you remember the song Rose Garden, first popularized by Lynn Anderson? It goes like this …

“I beg your pardon, I never promised you a rose garden.”

Did that help you remember it? The song continues …

“Along with the sunshine, there’s gotta be a little rain sometimes.”

Well, boy it sure is pouring right now! 

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Piling on

We face an economy that we haven’t seen before (or we were too young to really remember). And of course, financial disagreements are a leading cause of divorce as we discussed on a recent show.

When couples disagree, it makes a bad situation even worse. If relationship troubles get piled on top of financial challenges, it’s likely that the financial situation will only deteriorate more.

So you risk not only losing the roses, you may lose the whole rose garden! But there is a way to get the garden blooming again.

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My sister says something that I love … “Teamwork makes the dream work.”

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No one is an island. We all need key partners in life – personally and professionally. But the personal partners – whether you call them your husband, wife, significant other, life partner, mate, or something else – are the most vital part of our lives.

H.E.A.R.T.

So this Valentine’s Day, no matter what other gifts you exchange, give each other these give great gifts:

Help

Encouragement

Admiration

Respect

Teamwork

Help
We need to listen, really listen, to our mates. To what they’re saying and what they’re not saying. Because what they’re not saying may be more important.

They may be scared. They may be stressed. It’s important to try not to assume, to not try to read minds. Because we may very well assume the wrong thing.

Open up to your spouse. Don’t judge them. Be a refuge, a helper, in this time of storm.

Encouragement
We need to go beyond a willingness to help. We should actively encourage the person we love the most. Let them know that:

  • You have every confidence in them.
  • Together, you just know you’ll work through any difficulty you may be experiencing.
  • You will stick by them through thick and thin.

Admiration
We’ll keep going … moving beyond a willingness to help and some encouragement. Do you see how we’re stepping into this?

You started out as a fan. Are you still? Brag about him or her now and then. Publicly. Out loud. You used to!

Hollywood portrays love mostly as a noun in the movies and on television. Love is something that just “happens.” But love is also a verb. It implies action. We sometimes forget that.

Respect
Once we’ve reached the admiration level, respect will come relatively easily. We are so careful about what we say to other people. But sometimes we fail to use the same filters with the person closest to us.

We see each other all the time so we just say what’s on our mind. It’s only human, but it can harm our relationship. We should treat our spouses with more respect than we treat anyone else. After all, they deserve it … they put up with us!

Teamwork

Now with the other four pieces of H.E.A.R.T. in place, we’re ready for teamwork. Make quality time for each other so your relationship remains strong. Work on your problems together. If opposites attract, use that to your advantage. Your two brains can find a solution that neither of you would have thought of on your own.

Teamwork really will make the dream work!

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Thanks so much for spending some of your time with us today. Join us next time as we talk about a group of people that is really suffering during these tough times. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

 

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Success Building Blocks: Competitive Greatness

By Bigg Success Staff
09-17-08

Timeless Principles

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John Wooden, arguably the best coach in the history of college basketball, developed the Pyramid of Success.  It’s a wonderful tool to succeed bigg in any endeavor you choose.

So far, we’ve discussed four rows of his Pyramid.  Industriousness, Friendship, Loyalty, Cooperation, and Enthusiasm form the foundation. The second row consists of Self-control, Alertness, Initiative, and Intentness. The third row, which sits right in the middle of the Pyramid, includes  Condition, Skill and Team Spirit.

The fourth row, which is also the second from the top, is made up of Poise and Confidence

This week, we’ll look at the single block that sits at the top of the Pyramid.

Competitive Greatness

This success building block sits atop Poise and Confidence. Without these two, Wooden asserts you won’t achieve Competitive Greatness. But it goes beyond that – this block sits at the top because it is the result of all the rest. Putting in place all the other attributes helps you achieve this one.

The great performers bravely step forward when others are afraid. They thrive when others wither. So they want to be the point person in attacking the bigg challenge. After all, who is better suited to lead the cause? They believe it is up to them. This is their opportunity to shine … and they do! 

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Success Building Blocks: Confidence

By Bigg Success Staff
09-11-08

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We count ourselves among the many people who believe that John Wooden was the best coach in the history of college basketball. But his contributions go far beyond the court. He developed an incredible tool called the Pyramid of Success that will help you succeed in any endeavor you choose.

We’ve completed our discussion of three rows of his Pyramid.  Industriousness, Friendship, Loyalty, Cooperation, and Enthusiasm form the foundation. The second row consists of Self-control, Alertness, Initiative, and Intentness. The third row, which sits right in the middle of the Pyramid, includes  Condition, Skill and Team Spirit.

We’ve also looked at one of the two blocks that form that fourth row – Poise. This fourth row is also the second row from the top, right below the apex of the Pyramid. This week, we’ll look at the block that makes up the other half of this row. 

Confidence

Wooden points out that, if you don’t have all three blocks in the middle row of the Pyramid – Condition, Skill and Team Spirit – in place, you’ll never have Confidence. Confidence and Poise are closely related, but Wooden felt the need to include both in his Pyramid.

When we’re confident, we respect the task at hand but we don’t fear it. We know we’re prepared. That’s why the three blocks in the middle row – Condition, Skill, and Team Spirit – are so vital. We know the fundamentals of our craft. Even beyond that, we know that we know them. That’s not a subtle difference!

There’s a fine line between confidence and cockiness. Peak performers get right up to the line, but they don’t cross over it. We don’t strive to be cocky, but it can happen over time. We have to guard against it by keeping all of the other success building blocks in mind.

With that in mind, we won’t succeed bigg if we aren’t confident. We have to win mentally to win physically. We must think we can win or we won’t. We must believe we can succeed or we won’t. When we have this mindset, we’re ready to take action. We’re ready to succeed bigg! And we can’t wait to get going! 

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Success Building Blocks: Poise

By Bigg Success Staff
09-04-08

Timeless Principles

success_pyramid

John Wooden was arguably the best coach in the history of college basketball. His contributions to success literature, though, possibly exceed his accomplishments on the court. He developed the Pyramid of Success, a wonderful tool that will help you succeed bigg in any endeavor you choose. 

So far, we’ve discussed three rows of his Pyramid.  Industriousness, Friendship, Loyalty, Cooperation, and Enthusiasm form the foundation. The second row consists of Self-control, Alertness, Initiative, and Intentness. The third row, which sits right in the middle of the Pyramid, includes  Condition and Team Spirit.

Now we’ll move to the fourth row, which is also the second row from the top. It consists of two blocks. We’ll look at the one on the left this week.  

Poise

This success building block sits atop Condition and Skill, but Wooden points out that it also comes from Team Spirit. You’ve worked hard to master the fundamentals of your craft so you know you’re ready to execute.

You’ve practiced every situation so you will be at ease when you’re playing the game. Even when things get tough, you’ll exhibit grace under pressure. You’ll just be yourself, because you know you’re ready! This leads to a calm, cool exterior because you’re calm and cool on the inside. That intimidates rivals who aren’t as prepared as you.  

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Success Building Blocks: Skills

By Bigg Success Staff
08-26-08

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In our minds, John Wooden was the best coach in the history of college basketball. Even more than that, though, we love what he contributed to the field of personal success. Perhaps his greatest gift has been his Pyramid of Success, a wonderful tool that will help you succeed bigg in any endeavor you choose.  

So far, we’ve discussed the bottom two rows of his Pyramid.  Industriousness, Friendship, Loyalty, Cooperation, and Enthusiasm form the foundation. The second row consists of Self-control, Alertness, Initiative, and Intentness. We’ve now covered two of the three blocks that sit in the middle of the Pyramid –  Condition and Team Spirit.

Now we’ll move to the success building block that sits at the heart of the Pyramid, above Alertness and Initiative. 

Skills

The science of peak performance has come a long way. Wooden hits on the “flow” concept with this building block – body and mind working effortlessly, completely immersed in the moment, to accomplish some task.

He felt that his athletes needed to know the fundamentals so well that they didn’t have to think about them. They could just execute instinctively given the situation.

Just like great athletes, we need to know the fundamentals of our game so well that we can quickly pull them out when they’re needed. We’re prepared to deal with any situation because we’ve practiced it over and over again. We know what to do without thinking about it and we’re able to perform at our highest level at every moment.

We’re in the flow, or the zone. We know what we know so well that we don’t have to think about it. When we see it in others, we admire it. When we feel it ourselves, it’s one of the greatest experiences we can have!

Hear today’s lesson and laugh on The Bigg Success Show.

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