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The Most Important Person To Laugh At

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We’ll stray from our traditional show summary format so you can read how George and Mary-Lynn put this concept to use!

George: Today, we’ll talk about laughing at yourself and the benefits that go along with it. Laughing is good for you. Research shows that people who get in a few bigg belly laughs every day are healthier! And I find that the older I get, the bigger my belly laugh gets!

Mary-Lynn: That just means there’s more belly laugh to love! Another benefit is that it keeps you from taking yourself too seriously. And I learned a long time ago not to take myself too seriously … nobody else does!

George: It also endears people to you. People like people who can laugh at themselves.

Mary-Lynn: And, if they may relate to what you said, that makes it even funnier. I always feel good when someone makes fun of themselves, because then they’re not making fun of me. And believe me, I provide a lot of material!

George: I’ll say, Mary-Lynn!

Mary-Lynn: Now you’re making fun of me!

George: I found that it can also release the pressure in a tense situation. The conversation heats up as people stake out positions. If I say something silly about myself, everybody takes a brief break. Then the conversation can be productive again.

How to learn to laugh at yourself

Mary-Lynn: Some people just don’t have that sense of humor. So let’s offer some tips on how to learn to laugh at yourself.

George:
All you have to do is look like me! First, talk to yourself. My dad said, “Talking to yourself is the best way to make sure intelligent questions get asked and intelligent answers are given!” The point is to make yourself laugh, but do it quietly.

Mary-Lynn: Second, become a student of humor. As you watch a show or listen to a comedian, think about how you could use the funny line. Review conversations. Have you ever thought, “Oh, I wished I had said …” The more you rehearse, the quicker you’ll get.

George:
Third, it has to be spontaneous. That’s what normally makes it funny – the element of surprise. One easy way to do this is to take something that’s memorable from the discussion you’ve been having and bring it up again, turning it on yourself.

Mary-Lynn:
Well, George, if we had said anything memorable I would give an example! So we’ll just move on!

2 things to avoid with self-deprecating humor

Mary-Lynn: Don’t make fun of things you’re insecure about. It serves no purpose and it makes other people uncomfortable. You have to laugh at yourself with confidence, because then people know it’s a joke.

George:
Don’t create a bad perception with your self-deprecating humor. For example, you may be confident in your work ethic. You might look bad if you talk about how lazy you are.

Mary-Lynn:
But George, one of your favorite lines, when people ask you what you do is, “As little as possible.”

George: That’s because it’s true!

Mary-Lynn: See, there you go again!

George:
Yeah, but I immediately follow it up with the real answer.

Mary-Lynn:
After they’ve laughed WITH you laughing AT yourself! What’s your favorite self-deprecating line? Share it with us by leaving a Comment! What’s our bigg quote today, George?

George: Our bigg quote today comes from Shirley MacLaine, who said,“I’ve don’t know which life to make fun of me in!” Seriously, she said …

“The person who knows how to laugh at himself will never cease to be amused.”


Mary-Lynn:
And thanks to myself, I’m easily amused!

George:
Next time, it will be St. Patrick’s Day. So we’ll ask a question – is it better to be lucky or smart?

Mary-Lynn:
Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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Great Bigg Ideas are Born Bad

By Bigg Success Staff
10-01-08

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Cavas Gobhai has consulted with some of the world’s largest companies. He helps them implement bigg ideas. Over the years, he has noticed something about ideas that succeed bigg. Here’s a quote from The Wall Street Journal:

"Big ideas don't get built incrementally. You back into big good ideas from big bad ideas."

Most good ideas may look a bit odd at birth. They may sound crazy or outrageous at first. But these bigg bad ideas are the seed for break-through ideas that help you succeed bigg.

We became familiar with Gobhai’s work through the book, The Predators’ Ball, written by Connie Bruck. One of his most famous clients, Drexel Burnham, ultimately failed for reasons that aren’t relevant to our discussion. However, during the time Gobhai consulted with them, they went from being a no-name firm to become one of the most formidable investment houses on Wall Street. 

While Gobhai’s techniques are largely geared for companies, we can also use these ideas in our personal lives. Here are nine steps to find your great bigg ideas:

#1 – Schedule time

If you don’t plan time for creative thinking, the odds are that it won’t get done. Dedicate a block of time at least every quarter to creative thinking. In a short time, you’ll see what a valuable investment this is.

#2 – Create the right environment

Some people think most creatively in absolute silence. Others work best with some noise. Whatever works for you works! Just make sure you place yourself in an environment where you can be most productive as you seek bigg bad ideas.

#3 – Accept spontaneity

While it’s important to dedicate time, it’s also crucial to develop a system to record your bigg bad ideas as they occur – on your commute, in the shower. Make sure you archive your bigg bad idea, whenever or wherever it pops into your mind.

#4 – Focus on challenges and opportunities

What’s the biggest challenge you face right now? What’s the biggest opportunity you have right now? Your opportunity may come from your own challenge or somebody else’s. By concentrating your energy on your biggest issues, you’ll move ahead further and faster.

#5 – Suspend reality

When you find yourself coming up with all of the reasons why something won’t work, suspend reality for a bit. Picture yourself free from all constraints – time, money, and your own self-imposed limitations.

Think about why it could be done and how you would do it. Don’t reject any idea out of the gate; remember that your great bigg idea will come from a bigg bad idea. In fact, allow yourself to think of it the opposite way – the more outrageous the idea seems at first, the better!

#6 – Use images

This is another Gobhai technique. Use pictures, drawings, metaphors, animals or anything else you can think of to bring your ideas to life. By visualizing your idea, you come to a deeper level of understanding. You may realize that your image isn’t right; there’s a better analogy. Fantastic! You might be moving from the bigg bad idea to the great bigg one!

In The Predators’ Ball, Bruck discusses a Drexel session with Gobhai. One of the Drexel employees suggested that most of their competitors operated like a pride of lions. These companies had a definite pecking order among their employees. As the group discussed this, they realized their model should be a wolf pack, where everybody would feast together. 

#7 – Form a Master Mind Alliance

Here’s the bad news – you don’t have all of the world’s best ideas. The good news is that you can align yourself with others to discover more great bigg ideas.

Napoleon Hill, in his great book, Think & Grow Rich, defined “master mind” as:
“Coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people, for the attainment of a definite purpose.”

Find people who skills and goals are complementary with yours. Play off of your different strengths to discover ways you can mutually succeed bigg.

#8 – Review all your ideas

At regular intervals, but no less than once a week, sit down and review your inventory of bigg bad ideas. Upon further reflection, you’ll be able to categorize your bigg bad ideas in three ways:

  • truly just bad ideas that won’t go anywhere. You can ditch these.
  • bigg bad ideas that don’t solve your most immediate challenges and opportunities. You’ll want to archive these ideas for future use.
  • bigg bad ideas that you can implement now. You’ll develop these further and act upon them.

#9 – Reduce your idea to buzzwords

For that last category of ideas, reduce your great bigg idea to buzzwords – a word or phrase that you can easily call upon. These words should excite you to act now. You’ve turned a bigg bad idea into a great bigg idea!

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