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How to Save Money on a Midlife Crisis

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A midlife crisis can be costly. Fortunately, a new discovery offers us a new way to save ourselves and our money.

We talked about midlife crises and happiness on The BIGG Success Show today. This episode (#947) was inspired by the book The Happiness Curve* by Jonathan Rauch. Here’s a summary of that discussion.

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Step 3-Find Abundance in a World of Scarcity

abundanceWe’re right in the middle of a five-part series. First we talked about feeling fortunate. Last time, we discussed the importance of building a reserve in your schedule and in your finances.

Defining what bigg success means to you – what it means to live your life on your own terms – is a critical component of building a reserve. It’s also a part of the third step which we’ll discuss today. Step 3 is …

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Conquer Clutter

There are two kinds of clutter – physical (the one we most often think about) and mental. As long as you have clutter, you won't feel abundance in your life.

Physical clutter
There are three levels of physical clutter, according to Julie Morgenstern, author of Organizing from the Inside Out

  • Level 1 clutter means simple mistakes that are relatively easy to fix. Have a place for everything that’s easily accessible. If you don’t have a place, get it out of your space!
  • Level 2 clutter is about outside forces. You may simply have too much responsibility. You may be going through a transition. Maybe you don’t have the space you need. It could even be the person with whom you live!
  • Level 3 physical clutter stems from deeper issues. Some people fulfill their need for abundance by having an abundance of “stuff”. Others like the thrill of the hunt. It may symbolize a lack of goals. Maybe there’s some sentimental attachment to the “stuff”. It can even indicate a perfectionist, believe it or not.

Mental clutter
It's also important to clear out the clutter in our minds. We get bogged down in the past.

  • Holding grudges holds us back. Forgiveness frees up our minds and spirits to press forward.

    Not only do we need to forgive others, we need to forgive ourselves. In fact, if you can’t truly forgive yourself, how can you possibly forgive others?

    Cut yourself some slack, for crying out loud! You deserve a break today!

  • We also need to learn the right lessons from the past. As kids, we put our hands on a hot stove and got burned. So we didn’t put our hand on a hot stove again.

    As adults, we’ve put our hand on a symbolic hot stove and gotten burned. How did we respond? We don’t turn on the stove anymore!

    Life is full of risk. Try as you might, you can’t avoid it. More importantly, you shouldn’t avoid it!

    Bigg success comes to those who take calculated risks. Sometimes it works out; sometimes it doesn’t. Either way, learn from it and then turn that stove on again and cook up some bigg success for yourself!

  • Finally, it's important to understand our strengths and weaknesses. But we clutter our mind with our weaknesses.

    Then we reinforce those thoughts by telling ourselves all of the reasons why we can't do something. Stop telling yourself what you can’t do. Focus on what you can, and will, do!

    We need to believe that we can do it so we will find a way to get it done. Then we will find abundance. That’s bigg success!

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Thanks so much for the gift of your time today. Please join us next time when we’ll take the fourth step to abundant living. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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A New Beginning for Bigg Success

budding_spring It’s the first day of spring, a day many of us look forward to every year. It represents transition from winter to summer, dark to light. We think of new beginnings and new life. It’s the season of growth.

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But spring is also a verb. We spring forward or spring into action. It implies moving forward by leaps and bounds.

Bigg news

We’re happy to say that we have some bigg news to spring on you. We wanted to share it with you, our regular readers, first. We started Bigg Success about one-and-a-third years ago.

We said we were the how-to, can-do place. But we felt the need to refine that description and to simply define bigg success. So we got to work on it. What is bigg success? What does it mean?

About six months ago, we found the answer. So we started researching, studying, and talking with people. We searched for the answer to two questions:

What makes people a bigg success? What keeps people from being a bigg success?

So here we are … the first day of spring. We’re ready to announce a new beginning for Bigg Success. We’re ready for the transition, to share what we’ve learned.

Five shows

We’ll do that next time when we kick off the first of five shows that will help you really understand what bigg success means.

What are the elements of bigg success?

How do you get from where you are now to where you want to be – from success to bigg success?

How do you keep the risk of moving to this new level as low as possible?

What challenges can you expect to face? How do you overcome them?

How can you make it all work together so you’re not constantly pulled between your personal and professional lives?

Still the same

Our knowledge has sprung forward. We have so much we want to share with you and we’re looking forward to it. But we do want to reassure you …

We’ll still do five shows a week.

We’ll still offer a lesson and, hopefully, a laugh in five minutes or so.

We’re still all about personal and professional development.

What’s new is a framework for Bigg Success to help you build your bigg success even faster!

Sharing leads to bigg success

Because we still firmly believe that all of us know more than any of us, we hope you will bring your insights so we can all benefit. We encourage you to get in on the conversation and share both what you know and what you want to know.

If just one person benefits from every show, then Bigg Success is a bigg success. If we work together as a community, we can help each other reach bigg success even faster!

Please check in next time as we kick off this series of five shows. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!  

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Dealing With The Loss Of A Job

By Bigg Success Staff
01-24-08

Life Changes

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One of the most stressful events anyone can endure is the loss of a job. It can create a crisis of confidence, since we often link our self-worth to our performance at work.

It’s natural to feel a roller-coaster of emotions immediately after a dismissal. So how do you deal with it?

Understand what you’re going through
You’re grieving. Sounds strange, doesn’t it? But that’s what it is. You are grieving the “death” of your job.

In her book, On Death and Dying, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross identified the five stages of grief: 

  • denial
  • anger
  • bargaining
  • depression
  • acceptance

Can you relate to any of these states? Of course you can. It’s only natural.

Allow yourself to be human
Give yourself permission to ride this emotional roller-coaster. You may go through the stages sequentially, but it’s more likely that you’ll jump around.

Let yourself go through it. Grieving is a process. You won’t be over this loss overnight. Don’t set unrealistic expectations for yourself.

Talk to people who care about you. Seek professional help if it will help. Allow yourself to be human, if only this once.

Plan to move on
Here’s some good news – you can replace your job! It may not be easy. It may not come quickly. But you can do it!

Plan to move on. Picture yourself in your new job. Maybe you envision a career change. Or a business of your own. Develop a plan to get what you want.

Perhaps you’ll need some more education. You may need to get some experience first. Your plan can factor in all of these things.

You may still be grieving, but you’ll likely reach the acceptance stage faster if you focus on your future, instead of the past. Then do something about it. Try to do something every day that moves you toward your new life.

Losing a job is tough to accept. You have to go through the grieving process. Don’t rush it, but push yourself every day to get on with your life.
Many people have found their passion when they were forced to do so. Maybe you’ll be the next one!

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Finding The “Good” In Good-Bye

By Bigg Success Staff
December 06, 2007

Life Changes

sun_clouds_jpg Knowing when it’s time to move on is one of the toughest decisions we ever have to make. Carlin Flora writes about this in Adieu to All That in the current issue of Psychology Today. You should check it out, especially if you’re facing or are in the midst of, a life transition.

Some people leave too soon.
The grass isn’t always greener. These people (“quitters” in the article) may miss out on the opportunities that come to those people who dedicate themselves to an organization. Changing jobs and/or careers is not a sure-fire way to advance your career. Sticking with it may serve you better.

Some people stay too long.
These people (“lingerers” in the article) are at the other end of the spectrum. They may miss out on the alternatives being created in a dynamic marketplace. Staying put doesn’t mean moving up. Moving on may serve you better.

Understand your underlying fears.
Quitters may suffer from an abnormal fear of intimacy. Lingerers may have an inordinate fear of failure. Understand what’s driving your desire to consider leaving or staying. Face your fears so you make the best decision for your future.

Learn from your past experiences.
Analyzing past exits will help you avoid making the same mistakes again. Did you burn a bridge? Did you hurt others? What caused you pain as you recalled the event.

Think carefully about what you did right and what you would change, if given the chance. Then apply that to your current situation to guide you to make the right decision.

Cut yourself some slack.
Flora does a great job of describing closure in this article. It’s worth reading it just for that. Once you’ve made your decision, accept it. Or change it. Just don’t continue to fret about it on and on and on …

We live our lives in eras. We have many simultaneous eras running at all times. It’s only natural that one or more of these eras is coming to an end at any given point in our lives. Learning when it’s time to say when, and how to do it, will make your transitions smoother.

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Finding The "Good" In Good-Bye

By Bigg Success Staff
December 06, 2007

Life Changes

sun_clouds_jpg Knowing when it’s time to move on is one of the toughest decisions we ever have to make. Carlin Flora writes about this in Adieu to All That in the current issue of Psychology Today. You should check it out, especially if you’re facing or are in the midst of, a life transition.

Some people leave too soon.
The grass isn’t always greener. These people (“quitters” in the article) may miss out on the opportunities that come to those people who dedicate themselves to an organization. Changing jobs and/or careers is not a sure-fire way to advance your career. Sticking with it may serve you better.

Some people stay too long.
These people (“lingerers” in the article) are at the other end of the spectrum. They may miss out on the alternatives being created in a dynamic marketplace. Staying put doesn’t mean moving up. Moving on may serve you better.

Understand your underlying fears.
Quitters may suffer from an abnormal fear of intimacy. Lingerers may have an inordinate fear of failure. Understand what’s driving your desire to consider leaving or staying. Face your fears so you make the best decision for your future.

Learn from your past experiences.
Analyzing past exits will help you avoid making the same mistakes again. Did you burn a bridge? Did you hurt others? What caused you pain as you recalled the event.

Think carefully about what you did right and what you would change, if given the chance. Then apply that to your current situation to guide you to make the right decision.

Cut yourself some slack.
Flora does a great job of describing closure in this article. It’s worth reading it just for that. Once you’ve made your decision, accept it. Or change it. Just don’t continue to fret about it on and on and on …

We live our lives in eras. We have many simultaneous eras running at all times. It’s only natural that one or more of these eras is coming to an end at any given point in our lives. Learning when it’s time to say when, and how to do it, will make your transitions smoother.

(Photo by: johnwilson1969)