How to Miss Your Opportunity to Be a Success

Dave stands in front of his staff, his hands in the front pockets of his pants. As he begins the meeting, his staff appear disengaged – sorting paperwork, reading the newspaper, etc.

Dave: Look, I really don’t want to be a hard ass but I think the key to an effective staff meeting lies in two simple words: paying attention.
Dave: Beth.
Beth: What?
Dave: What did I just say?
Beth: Oh, I’m sorry…something about pain and tension?

This conversation between Dave (Dave Foley) and Beth (Vicki Lewis) comes from Led Zeppelin II episode of the television show, NewsRadio.

While “paying attention” and “pain and tension” may sound alike, they certainly are not the same.

Yet paying attention creates pain and tension for some people.

Paying attention is asking too much.
Paying attention is hard.
And especially so today.

How many face-to-face conversations occur today without one or both people checking their phone?

How many meetings do you sit in where everyone is truly connected to the topic at hand.

Paying attention is hard.

A lot of people, think it’s asking too much.

But if you don’t want pain and tension, then pay attention.

The signal you send if you don’t pay attention

Pay attention to people. You can’t build a relationship if you don’t.

Worse yet, it’s disrespectful not to do so. It sends a signal.

You’re telling the other person they aren’t important enough to deserve your full attention. Something more significant than they are demands your attention.

BIGG success is life on your own terms. However, it’s not a license to treat other people with disrespect.

In the moment

When you split your distraction, you can’t be in the moment. You’re here. But you’re also somewhere else.

Just like no one can serve two masters, by definition you can’t give your full attention to more than one thing at once.

So enjoy the moment. Take it all in. You’ll feel less pain and tension.

The payoff of paying attention

And we haven’t even talked about the worst part of not paying attention. It will cost you plenty.

You will be less likely to reach BIGG success because of what you miss. Opportunities are all around you.

But you’re unlikely to see them if you’re distracted. They’ll pass right by without your notice.

You’re never too poor to pay attention. But you’ll never be rich unless you pay attention.

Paying attention requires focus. So does BIGG Success.

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Meet Count Clockula


We had some fun with sound effects on The Bigg Success Show today. You can read our summary here, but you might have more fun listening!



With Halloween approaching, we felt we should warn you about a monster you may not know about. This monster lives off of your most precious resource – time. It’s downright frightening how much of our time can be wasted.

See if you can relate to any of these haunting situations:

Chatty co-worker

You’re working on that bigg project. You reach a point where you just seem stuck. Maybe getting away from your desk will help. So you get up to stretch your legs and grab a cup of coffee. You’re in the break room when that chatty co-worker walks in. Fifteen minutes later, you’re finally back at your desk.

You’ve been bitten by Count Clockula!

He lives off wasted time, sometimes using other people to feed his ravenous appetite.

E-mail alerts

You’re busy working at your computer. You see the alert that your friend just sent you an e-mail. You can’t resist. You have to see what it is. It’s a fun video. Well, you might as well watch it now. Wow, it’s funny. Better e-mail your friend. Five minutes later, you’re back to work.

Count Clockula got ya again!

He sucks your time away by tempting you with things that are appealing. They seem like more fun than the important things you need to work on.

Lost keys

You’re running late for work. You rush into the kitchen to get a cup of coffee for the road. You grab your laptop bag. Your keys! Where are your keys? You can’t find them anywhere. You look everywhere. Ten minutes later, you find them underneath yesterday’s mail.

Count Clockula strikes again!

By keeping you from paying attention to seemingly little things, he can suck away a lot of your time.

Misplaced files

You have a meeting in five minutes and you can’t find the file you need. Where did you put that file? Is it in this stack? No. How about this one? No. You keep looking. If you don’t find it soon, you’ll just have to go without it. Ah, there it is – at the bottom of that overflowing “In” box.

Closely related to the last issue, Count Clockula thrives on disorganization.


You went to yet another meeting. The project leader was late. Then he didn’t keep the group on track. The conversation just floated from one issue to another without accomplishing anything.  

Count Clockula sinks his teeth in again. He thrives on dead time – where groups of people are completely unproductive. 


You have a major report due in a couple of weeks. As you were doing some research for it, you found a great site full of information. You spent a lot of time there. Sure, it was still research, but it was more than you needed for the project.

Count Clockula flies again! Sometimes he overwhelms you with his charms.

Lack of focus

You don’t really have a sense of direction. Sure you think about your goals near the end of every year. But you don’t keep them in front of you like you should.

It’s the worst bite Count Clockula can deliver.

How can you allocate your most precious resource effectively if you don’t know what you’re trying to accomplish?

Word of warning

We’d be remiss if we didn’t warn you about one more thing. Unlike other vampires, Count Clockula doesn’t just come out at night – he’s out all the time. Beware!


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There’s an old saying, “I’m so poor that I can’t even pay attention.”

We’ll grant you it’s a funny one-liner. But here’s probably a more accurate saying,

I’m so poor because I don’t pay attention.

There are a lot of things competing for our eyes and ears. It’s important to focus on the right things to succeed bigg. 

#1 – Pay attention to your finances
You’re the CEO (and the CFO) of the most important organization in the world – You, Inc. If you’re in a relationship, your significant other may take care of the financial duties. But the point is, just like any other successful organization, you want to make sure you have more income than expenses.

A lot of people don’t pay attention to their finances until there’s a problem – too much month and not enough money! Then it’s a much more difficult situation than if you pay attention all along.

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#2 – Pay attention to what needs to be done
A lot of people spend a lot of time paying attention to what they want to do. Bigg goal-getters focus on those things that will advance them toward their dream life.

It’s easy to get sidetracked. Many people seem to have a sort of attention-deficit disorder when it comes to focusing on their goals. They keep bouncing from one idea to another, but never make any real progress on anything.

People who succeed bigg, zero in on what’s important. What needs to be done to get one step closer to your ultimate goal?

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#3 – Pay attention to people
On the show, George said that there have been a number of times that he had a problem for which he couldn’t find a solution. Then, in a short conversation with someone, they helped him arrive at an answer.

You can learn a lot from people. Listening to others is important for several reasons:

  • The one we just mentioned.
  • You may also help them find a solution to a problem they’re having. They won’t forget it.
  • Opportunities that result from relationships.

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#4 – Pay attention to yourself
This is probably the most important one. It’s vital that you keep yourself energized and inspired. George said that as a business owner, time is always so precious. At times, he would let days, even weeks, would go by without replenishing his spirit. He found that he needed to read or listen to things that kept the cobwebs out of his head and inspired him to keep pushing.

That’s one of the reasons we started Bigg Success … five minutes or so every day to get your mojo going! So pay attention to yourself by stopping by Bigg Success every day!

Our bigg quote today comes from Edward de Bono, who said:

“An expert is someone who has succeeded in making decisions and
judgments simpler through knowing what to pay attention to and what to ignore.”

It pays to pay attention to the things that pay off.

What have you found pays to pay attention to? What doesn’t pay? Share your thoughts!

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Make a Note: Paying Attention Pays Bigg

By Bigg Success Staff

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sharing_successOne of the greatest product success stories of all time has to be 3M’s Post-It Notes. You may or may not be familiar with the story of their development. In case you’re not, the year was 1968. Dr. Spencer Silver discovered the “secret sauce” – the special adhesive that makes Post-It Notes … well, Post-It Notes.

There was just one problem – Dr. Silver talked about it to anyone who would listen, but no one could figure out how to use it. 

That was until six years later … 

Art Fry sang in the choir at his church. He also worked at 3M. He used a bookmark in his hymnal so he could quickly find the next song. There was just one problem – the bookmark kept falling out.

He remembered Dr. Silver’s special adhesive. He tried it out. Sure enough, the lightly- glued note gripped well, but it didn’t tear the page when it was removed. It was the perfect solution!

So what’s the point, you ask?

Dr. Silver wasn’t looking for the glue that makes Post-It Notes possible. The product idea never entered his mind. However, when he discovered the glue, he was alert enough to realize how unique it was. So he started spreading the word.

Art Fry didn’t make the initial discovery. However, he did pay attention. He remembered Dr. Silver talking about his discovery. Now he had a problem for which it was the solution! By being alert to what was going on around him, he was part of the team that created the product we know as Post-It Notes!

What’s happening around you? 

3M’s Post-It Note History 

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