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I Lost My Job Because of Organizational Downsizing! Now What?

Bigg Challenge:
We received an e-mail from Christina who was one of a number of people let go in a corporate downsizing. She’s feeling a mix of emotions right now. She gave 100 percent to her employer and was identified in the community by her job. She’s having a hard time and wondered if we might be able to offer some tips to get through this. 

Bigg Advice:
We’re so sorry to hear about your situation, Christina. It’s natural to feel a roller-coaster of emotions immediately after a dismissal. So how do you deal with it?

Find a way to mentally escape for a bit.
One way to do this is to turn to music. On the show, Mary-Lynn shared some favorites:

  • Ramble On (Led Zeppelin)
  • Freefallin’ (Tom Petty)
  • Cool Change (The Little River Band)
  • Don’t Give Up (Peter Gabriel)
  • Roll With the Changes (REO Speedwagon)

It’s a grieving process
You’re going through a grieving process, Christina. Sounds strange, doesn’t it? But that’s what it is – you’re grieving the “death” of your job.

In her book, On Death and Dying, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross identified the five stages of grief: 

  • denial
  • anger
  • bargaining
  • depression
  • acceptance

We’re sure you can relate to some, or all, of these. It’s only natural. Allow yourself to be human and give yourself permission to ride this emotional roller-coaster.

You may go through the stages sequentially, but it’s more likely that you’ll jump around. Let yourself go through it. Grieving is a process. You won’t be over this loss overnight so don’t set unrealistic expectations for yourself.

Talk to people who care about you. And seek professional help if you think it will help.

Moving on
The good news is … you can replace your job! It may not be easy. It may not come quickly. But you can do it!

So when you’re ready, start planning to move on. Picture yourself in your new job. Maybe you envision a career change. Or a business of your own. Develop a plan to get what you want.

Perhaps you’ll need some more education. You may need to get some experience first. Your plan can factor in all of these things.

You may still be grieving, but you’ll likely reach the acceptance stage faster if you focus on your future, instead of the past. Then do something about it. Try to do something every day that moves you toward your new life.

Sometimes what seemed like a bad thing turns out to be a blessing. Many people have found their passion when they were forced to do so. Maybe you’ll be the next one!

Our thoughts are with you, Christina. E-mail us anytime to let us know how you’re doing.

If you have a suggestion for Christina, leave a Comment!

Our bigg quote today comes from Kenji Miyazawa:

“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.”

And as Journey would say … Don’t Stop Believin’

Next time, we’ll talk give out 100 tips to succeed bigg. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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Reject This Fear And Succeed

 

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 Many people get mired in fear. There’s one fear, in particular, that seems to hold many people back.

The root of this fear often stems from childhood. Do you remember being made fun of, not being included, or not being one of the cool kids? As adults, this fear is manifested by not asking for the sale, not reaching out to people, or just not going for what we want.

You have to reject the fear of rejection to succeed bigg!

Be confident.
If you need a confidence boost, check out our blog on how to build confidence. When you’re comfortable in your own skin, you won’t flat out accept the rejection. You’ll keep trying – one more thing, then one more. That’s what you have to do to succeed bigg!

Understand that success is a numbers game.
You have to hear “No” a certain number of times to get to “Yes”. Ask any published author. Any successful salesperson. Job seekers. Actors and actresses. The list goes on and on. Come to see “No” as a positive – it means you’re one step closer to success!

Don’t take rejection personally.
The odds are VERY high that they’re NOT rejecting you personally. It’s the offer, the presentation, the design, the wording, their circumstances, or any of so many other variables we can’t begin to name them all.

Try to find out why the rejection occurred.
If you take it personally, you won’t look for the reason underlying the rejection. Then you get caught in a vicious circle – you’re more likely to get rejected again because you’re not learning anything from each rejection.

You want to understand why it occurred, so you can answer this question: Is the reason for the rejection something you can control?

Here’s the good news – you’ve learned something important either way!

If “No” – move on! If “Yes” – try again after you’ve made the necessary changes.

Recipes for Rejecting the Rejection Blues
Even self-confident positive-thinkers who have mastered the fear of rejection can succumb to the blues when faced with rejection after rejection. We’re all only human!

On the show, Mary-Lynn and George shared their recipes for rejecting the rejection blues.

Mary-Lynn: Rejection emboldens me. I’m very competitive and I don’t like being told “no”. When it happens, I turn to some good rock and roll. There are a couple of songs I particularly like: Keep Pushin’ by REO Speedwagon and Foreigner’s I’m Gonna Win.

George:
I find it helpful to do something life affirming, like escaping to bigg water. I feel calm when I experience its massiveness. It makes anything I’m facing seem miniscule. If water isn’t an option, nature in any form can be helpful. I also like to go for drives in the country. If I can’t do anything else, Little River Band’s Cool Change makes me feel free. I start dreaming again. Then I’m ready to get back to work!

How do you give yourself a lift when rejection is bringing you down? Leave us a Comment below!

Our bigg quote today comes from Louis Ferdinand Celine.

“I think all great innovations are built on rejections.”

So don’t get bogged down in the pool of rejection when there’s an ocean of opportunity awaiting you.

Next time, we’ll offer some interviewing tips for a first-time manager. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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