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How to Miss Your Opportunity to Be a Success

Dave stands in front of his staff, his hands in the front pockets of his pants. As he begins the meeting, his staff appear disengaged – sorting paperwork, reading the newspaper, etc.

Dave: Look, I really don’t want to be a hard ass but I think the key to an effective staff meeting lies in two simple words: paying attention.
Dave: Beth.
Beth: What?
Dave: What did I just say?
Beth: Oh, I’m sorry…something about pain and tension?

This conversation between Dave (Dave Foley) and Beth (Vicki Lewis) comes from Led Zeppelin II episode of the television show, NewsRadio.

While “paying attention” and “pain and tension” may sound alike, they certainly are not the same.

Yet paying attention creates pain and tension for some people.

Paying attention is asking too much.
Paying attention is hard.
And especially so today.

How many face-to-face conversations occur today without one or both people checking their phone?

How many meetings do you sit in where everyone is truly connected to the topic at hand.

Paying attention is hard.

A lot of people, think it’s asking too much.

But if you don’t want pain and tension, then pay attention.

The signal you send if you don’t pay attention

Pay attention to people. You can’t build a relationship if you don’t.

Worse yet, it’s disrespectful not to do so. It sends a signal.

You’re telling the other person they aren’t important enough to deserve your full attention. Something more significant than they are demands your attention.

BIGG success is life on your own terms. However, it’s not a license to treat other people with disrespect.

In the moment

When you split your distraction, you can’t be in the moment. You’re here. But you’re also somewhere else.

Just like no one can serve two masters, by definition you can’t give your full attention to more than one thing at once.

So enjoy the moment. Take it all in. You’ll feel less pain and tension.

The payoff of paying attention

And we haven’t even talked about the worst part of not paying attention. It will cost you plenty.

You will be less likely to reach BIGG success because of what you miss. Opportunities are all around you.

But you’re unlikely to see them if you’re distracted. They’ll pass right by without your notice.

You’re never too poor to pay attention. But you’ll never be rich unless you pay attention.

Paying attention requires focus. So does BIGG Success.

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How to Change Your Career

Tutors On TV | BIGG SuccessIt’s time for another edition of Tutors on TV.

On the season finale of Men of a Certain Age, Terry (played by Scott Bakula) is on a test drive with a customer. Terry is an actor turned car salesman.

He and the customer are sitting at a stoplight. The customer says he can’t pull the trigger right now.

Terry says, “Decisions are hard.” Amen, brother!

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Birds of a feather

Terry noticed a bunch of birds sitting on a utility line. He says, “Do you think they worry like we do?”

He continues, “One bird flies away. They all follow. He has wings. He can just go.”

The light turns green. Terry and the customer just sit there, watching the birds. Nothing is happening.

The person behind them honks their horn. All the birds fly off. Terry and the customer laugh. Terry makes the sale. He’s now the #1 car salesman at the dealership where he works.

Flying away

But in spite of his success, he isn’t happy. He had directed a commercial on the fly for the car dealership. It was a BIGG success.

In the next scene, Terry is talking to Owen, whose family owns the dealership. Owen is both Terry’s boss and one of his best friends.

Terry tells Owen he wants to quit. Owen tells Terry that he has a good thing going. He’s making good money. He’s getting comfortable. But he’s been uncomfortable for so long that it feels wrong.

But Terry says he felt like himself again. He was doing what he loved, only now behind the camera. Terry resigns. There was just one problem…

Terry hasn’t told his girlfriend yet. He’s notorious for not making commitments. But he’s committed to her. Or at least that’s what she thought…

He hadn’t told her he was going to quit. He told her he had quit. She doesn’t take it well.

Later, they meet up. He says, “Give me a year. If it doesn’t work, I’ll go back to selling cars.” She agrees.

6 lessons for changing your career

  • You have to lead

    Decisions are hard. But sometimes you just know it’s time to fly away.

    You can’t wait for others. You have to lead. It’s your life.

  • Communication is critical

    It’s your life but you affect others. So it’s important to communicate with those closest to you.

    You want them to feel good about flying away with you.

  • Stick to your convictions

    Your friends may not fully understand at first. They may try to talk you out of it. You have to hold your convictions. You have to do what’s right for you.

  • Your flight may be a short one

    Don’t think you have to fly too far away. Sometimes, your ideal career may be in the same field. You’re just suited for a different role.

  • Your job

    Almost nothing in life is all or nothing. Few things are permanent.

    Your life is a laboratory. No matter what your job is, your job is to conduct experiments. To test out new things.

  • Actdapt!

Some of the things you test out will work out. Great!

In others cases, they wont. Act and adapt – actdapt!

It leads to BIGG success!

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A Lesson on Crowds from Glee

tutors on tvWe did another installment of Tutors on TV on the show today. Here’s a summary of the conversation:



We caught a recent episode of Glee. The phenomenal Jane Lynch plays the hard-nosed, track-suit wearing cheerleader coach Sue Sylvester. Sue also does a segment on leadership and problem solving for a local television station. A quote from that show caught our attention. She said:

"There's not much of a difference between a stadium full of cheering fans and an angry crowd screaming abuse at you. They're both just making a lot of noise. How you take it is up to you. Convince yourself they're cheering for you. You do that, and some day, they will."

Isn’t that a profound way to looking at the crowd? It made us think of our definition of bigg success – life on your own terms.

The crowd could be your friends, your family or your co-workers. It may be people you just met.

There’s a lot of noise out there and sometimes it drowns out the voice that you need to listen to the most – your own!

You'll have those in the crowd that cheer. And those in the crowd that discourage.

You'll have people in the crowd that cheer while they talk with you. Then they jeer when talking about you with someone else behind your back.

You’ll have some individuals in the crowd who will literally call you out. Why are you doing it that way? Why are you doing it at all? Why do you do it differently than everyone else?

You'll also have your own cheerleaders. They lift you up during introductions at networking events. They point to your expertise on social media sites and recommend you to friends and colleagues.

Your crowd will also consist of your competition. They think they can do it better than you. They aren't better than you but they may market better than you.

And there will be those in the crowd who are just plain lazy. They will lie about you in an attempt to beat you.

You can't please everyone so crowd control is very important to help you keep pushing towards the goals you have set for yourself. Here are five tips to control your crowd:

Turn your back on the crowd

Sometimes you just have to turn away and tune them out to stay true to yourself.

Work the crowd
State your goals plainly so they can cheer you on. Make sure they know when you have achieved one of your goals.

Beware of the roar of the crowd
Be careful that you don't become addicted to their praise. Remember you are doing this for you. If you rely on their cheers, you may fall off your path.

Run with the right crowd
Surround yourself with people who are passionate about achieving their goals. We call these people bigg goal-getters.

Stand out in the crowd
Don't be afraid to be different. Show the crowd that it can be done, your way. After all it’s your life on your terms. That's bigg success!


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Thanks so much for checking in with us today. Please join us next time when we offer up some tips on cutting overhead. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!


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