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Decide what to do next

Decide What to Do Next

Decide what to do next
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Hey – want to go out for lunch today?

Sure. Where do you want to go?

I don’t know…where do you want to go?

I asked you first!

Um…well let’s see – we could…

And the conversation continues.

How long does it take to make a decision?

Too long, in many cases. After all, this isn’t a BIGG decision. But we’re not through yet…

What are you going to have?

I’m thinking about the special, but I should get the salad.

I know – the special sounds so good. But the last time I was here, I had their signature sandwich and it was fantastic!

Oh, I hadn’t noticed that.

Here comes our server. Do you know what you want?

No – let’s tell ‘em we need more time.

Why does it take so long to make a simple decision – like what you want for lunch?

It’s the perfect example for a challenge we see many people facing today.

Brain static
“I have too much static in my brain.” That’s how one entrepreneur described it to us.

It’s a common theme – we hear it over and as we talk with people who are considering a career change, starting a business or trying to grow an existing business.

Brain overload

Our brains are overloaded. We’re overwhelmed with options.

Which one should we choose?

We’re afraid of making the wrong decision. We’re afraid to choose because another choice might have been better.

The great unknown

And especially when it comes to changing careers, starting a business, picking a strategy to grow a business and other major decisions, we’re afraid of the great unknown.

We can’t see what might lie ahead. And things change so fast these days.

Sure, you can set goals. But how do you hit a moving target?

Change creates uncertainty. Making decisions in the face of uncertainty is scary.

The result? Buffering Brain

The result of all of these choices, complexity, changes, and uncertainty?

Many people freeze up. They don’t make decisions; they defer them.

They end up in this infinite loop – kind of like the little wheel you see when a video is buffering. And it never loads – it just keeps spinning and spinning and spinning.

They’re suffering from one of the worst ailments we face today…

Buffering Brain Syndrome!

We’ve been there. We felt this way when we moved from separate careers in the bricks-and-mortar world to BIGG Success. We felt this in our early days as we weighed our options to offer products, programs and services.

Fortunately, we developed a process which we’ve been able to use on more recent decisions – like turning our podcast, The BIGG Success Show, into a syndicated radio show, BIGG Success in a Minute and starting The BIGG Success Enteprenurturing™ Center.

How did we do it? What’s the cure for Buffering Brain Syndrome? How can you decide what to do next?

We answer that question in a FREE special report we just created. It’s called DECIDE! 5 Keys to Know What to Do Next. In it…

  • We discuss five things you’ve been told true which hold you back today.
  • We also share the single, simple secret to making decisions today about what to do next.
  • And, as the title says, you’ll discover five keys to moving forward in spite of the clutter, complexity, change, and uncertainty.
  • So you know you’re making the best decision for you.
  • So you can feel completely confident that you’re making the right move.
  • And so you can move forward with no fear.

So what’s your next step?

Get instant access to DECIDE! 5 Keys to Know What to Do Next by simply entering your name and e-mail in the box below.

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The Number One Reason You Are Not Getting Ahead

getting ahead in life for BIGG SuccessBIGG success is life on your own terms. The number one reason people don’t get ahead can be stated in just one term:

Choices.

Choose something

Many people are frozen by fear. So they do nothing. They don’t see this as a choice, but it is.

It’s a choice to remain average and ordinary. It’s a choice for the status quo. It’s a choice to remain stuck.

If you want to get ahead, do what the winners do: Choose to do something – even if it’s wrong!

When you try something, you learn. You now have a competitive advantage over the person who chose to do nothing.

Choose to live now

Okay, so you got out of your comfort zone. You tried something. Things didn’t turn out the way you hoped they would.

It’s at this point that many people make another harmful choice. They choose to demean themselves for the choice that didn’t work out.

For some people, there’s a ritual revolving around experiences like this. They feel bad. They feel like they failed. They start to beat themselves up – and not just for this one choice, but for almost every choice they ever made.

It’s a death spiral. It kills the spirit.

Winners know that outcomes won’t always equal expectations. So they choose to not worry about coming up short. They choose to tweak what they’re doing or to try something else.

They choose to live now, rather than in the past. They choose to only invest additional energy on things they can control, not things they can’t.

They choose to persevere, even if that means starting from scratch. And ultimately, it leads to BIGG success!

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A Simple Way to Make a Decision

Do you have a decision to make? Are you unable to make decisions? Here’s a tactic we heard on the To the Lost episode of Boardwalk Empire:

Flip a coin.

Whether it comes up heads or tails barely matters. What does matter is how you feel when it’s in the air. What are you hoping for?

It’s your intuition at work. And ultimately, it can be an important decision-making tool. If you prefer, you can use a Magic 8 ball to make your next decision.

(Unless you usually get it wrong. Then you may want to use
George Costanza’s technique.)

Whatever you do, there’s an important concept underlying these methods. It’s a systematic way to apply your intuition. Once you grasp it, it will help you make decisions in life.

Frame your options as a binary choice: heads or tails, yes or no, this or that, either or.

For example, let’s say you want to start a business. One question you may ask is when.

So get out your coin. Heads you’ll go into business now. Tails you’ll wait.

Flip the coin in the air. Do you feel a knot in your stomach? Which side do you want to come up?

More importantly, don’t stop there. Take the hoped-for answer and expand on it. Create a series of choices:

Part-time or full-time? Online or off? Start or buy? Independent or franchise?

Of course, the choices will be determined in part by the type of business you want to own. Step-by-step, you’re creating a decision tree.

By getting it on paper, you’ll be able to quickly see how choices now affect options later. You can weigh what you’re giving up against what you’re getting. Then you’ll be able to make a decision that leads to BIGG success!

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5 Biggest Regrets in Life

book page | BIGG SuccessThere’s a new book coming out by Bronnie Ware, a nurse who worked with people who had been sent home to die. It’s called Regrets of the Dying.

It’s ironic – if you want to learn how to live, talk to people who are about to die. She has a great post where she summarizes the top 5 regrets of the dying.

We want to share them with you today.

Hear George & Mary-Lynn share the 5 regrets on The BIGG Success Show Podcast. Click a player to listen.

1) “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

The #1 regret sounds a lot like our definition of BIGG success. BIGG success is life on your own terms. You and you alone are the entrepreneur of a very special enterprise – your life. You have to take control so you have no regrets.

She makes an interesting point – her patients apparently realized less than half of their dreams. One of the reasons she cited for the shortfall is choices. It’s the choices they made or didn’t make.

It’s the life you choose. Too many people conform too much to other people’s expectations. The choices you make or don’t make determine your outcome.

Another interesting point is that health equals freedom. She says dying people wished they had pursued their dreams while they still could, while they still had their health.

If you put off everything until you have the time, you may not have the health to enjoy it.

2) “I wish I didn’t work so hard.”

She said every single man she cared for cited this regret. She hastens to add that her patients largely grew up in an era where women were not breadwinners.

We think that one of the great lessons of the Great Recession is really a reminder. Material possessions not only don’t make us happy; they may actually keep us from being happy.

We have to work more to pay for them. So we have less time for people and projects we love.

We get a short-term bump in happiness. But it comes at the expense of long-term fulfillment.

BIGG success is life on your own terms.

You don’t have to keep up with your neighbors.

You don’t have to live like a celebrity.

You may live more by buying less so you work less.

3) “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”

Keeping peace with others means little if it leaves you with no peace of mind.

Remember, when you express your feelings, the good people in your life will care. They want you to feel good.

The people who don’t care? Well, you probably know what needs to be done there for your own peace of mind.

4) “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”

We believe that, ultimately, life is about two things: relationships and experiences. Experiences with people you love.

Once again, you need to reach out to these people before it’s too late. While you still have your health. While you can both still enjoy the time together.

5) “I wish I had let myself be happier.”

Bronnie says, “Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice.” How true.

Based on what she learned from her patients, she warns us to not get stuck in old patterns and habits. Don’t be afraid of change. Laugh. Be silly again.

We’ve talked many times before about the importance of maintaining your child-like nature.

Note the term – child-like, not childish.

We’re so afraid of looking immature that we don’t play.

We’re so serious that we completely miss out on the fun.

We’re so worried about being embarrassed that we’re afraid to look naïve.

We’re so busy being cynical that we’ve lost our innocence.

Yes, happiness is a choice. It’s not about what you have or what you’ve done. It’s about being who you are to become all that you can be. Happiness leads to BIGG success and BIGG success leads to happiness.

Get on Bronnie’s mailing list so you can be notified when her book is available. There’s a lot more to learn.

We never regret when you spend some time with us. Thanks so much.

Until next time, here’s to your BIGG success!

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Is There Room for God in BIGG Success?

Is there room for God in your definition of success | BIGG SuccessBIGG success is life on your own terms. We were talking with a friend recently who asked an interesting question…

Is there room for God in our definition of BIGG success?

She said she strives to live on God’s terms. She seeks to understand God’s will for her life and live accordingly.

So did we get it wrong?

Did we unknowingly exclude God from our definition of BIGG success?

We don’t think so.

Did we accidentally exclude a whole segment of people who feel just like our friend?

We hope not. It certainly wasn’t our intention.

You choose your life

We don’t think the two are mutually exclusive. The point to our definition of BIGG success – life on your own terms – is that you, and you alone, make choices about how you live your life.

Your choices, along with the actions you take in line with those choices, largely determine whether or not you will be a BIGG success.

We believe that God leaves the choice up to you. Our friend has done that.

She is living her life on her own terms. She chooses terms that coincide with God’s terms. She is a BIGG success!

Now, don’t take this discussion as us trying to proselytize you. As we said, it’s your choice.

The paradox of your choices

Your choices are made individually. But they are usually not individual choices.

Sure, they all affect you. They affect your outcomes. They affect whether or not you will be a BIGG success.

But, in many cases, they also affect other people.

The BIGG idea behind BIGG success is synergy.

BIGG success comes when you improve the lives of other people. In doing so, you’ll reap the rewards yourself.

That’s win-win. That’s BIGG success!

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