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When a Wife Succeeds More Than Her Husband

who cares who succeeds more
Does it really matter who succeeds more in a relationship? George and Mary-Lynn share the results of a new study. Click play to listen to The BIGG Success Show Podcast.

A new study shows that when a wife succeeds more than her husband, his ego takes a hit. But if her success is less, he feels better about himself.

Old stereotypes and gender roles obviously come into play. But in this day and age, and with this economy, people in relationships should focus on their partnership. Envy undermines a relationship. It holds back success. It’s just plain silly.

Who Cares Who Succeeds More

As we’ve pointed out before, entrepreneurs don’t think win-lose. You can’t have a fulfilling relationship with this mentality. A good partner doesn’t place their self-interest above another.

Entrepreneurs that succeed think win-win. They build a relationship that shares an equal consideration of interests.

Coopetition is necessary in this competitive world. Sure, you can determine that you alone must be the one to succeed more to get the bigger piece of the pie. But isn’t it easier and more rewarding to work with someone to make the pie bigger?

To live life on your own terms, you have to be happy with yourself and proud of where you are. You can’t compare yourself to anyone else. Achieve your own goals. Don’t envy someone for achieving theirs.

We are fortunate to be partners in life and business:

  • A win for one of us is a win for the team.
  • We are both competitive but not towards each other.
  • We both strive for excellence which motivates us to achieve our best.
  • We both have weaknesses that are balanced by our individual strengths.

We bump in to other modern day power couples all the time:

  • She’s a professor at a University; he’s going back to school.
  • She’s a bank president; he’s taking care of the home and family.
  • She’s the team leader for a real estate company; he’s a realtor.
  • He’s a best-selling author; she’s taking care of his marketing and promotions.
  • He’s pursuing a career in public speaking; she’s overseeing their existing business.
  • He’s the company CEO; she’s taking care of the home and family.

It’s not about gender roles. It’s about teamwork. It’s not about competition. It’s about cooperation.

Relationships aren’t about who succeeds more, they’re about combined efforts to achieve BIGG Success.

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Are Good Looks an Advantage or a Disadvantage at Work?

A lot of attractive people complain that people assume things about them without getting to know them. It’s assumed that they’re unintelligent, superficial, and even arrogant.

You’ve been given the gift of physical attractiveness, which has to mean you’re lacking in other areas. In the social world, you’re just the pretty boy or girl.

But does that perception carry over into the professional world? Is there a bias against people who are good-looking?

 

Green Without Envy
Economists Markus Mobius of Harvard University and Tanya Rosenblat of Wesleyan University did a study to see how looks affected the hiring process. They divided participants into five groups:

  • Two of the groups never saw a photo of the candidate or the candidates themselves
  • The other three either saw the candidate’s photograph or in-person.

The groups who saw the candidates were much more likely to hire the more attractive candidate, even though the less attractive candidate was just as qualified.

These employers predicted that the attractive candidates would be more productive, and would be rewarded for it with higher pay.

Even Greener Pastures
Daniel Hamermesh, an economist at the University of Texas, is one of the world’s foremost authorities on the economics of beauty. Dr. Hamermesh has focused on how beauty effects financial success in the workplace.

His research confirms the results of the study we just referenced – that beauty gains an advantage because the doors of opportunity open more frequently. So they make connections, learn skills, and grow professionally. Then they’re able to leverage that first opportunity into many more opportunities, which results in even higher pay.

He also offers little hope for the unattractive. His research has shown that spending money on things to enhance your looks is a waste. You’ll only get back about 15 cents in pay for ever dollar you spend.

Our bigg quote today is by an unknown author:

“We could learn a lot from crayons; some are sharp, some are pretty,
some are dull, while others bright, some have weird names,
but they all have learned to live together in the same box.”

The more colors you have, the more colorful your world can be.


Questions for you

Socially, we often hear pretty people complain that they’re discriminated against. But research seems to show that it works to their favor in the workplace.

From your experiences, do you think good looks are an advantage or a disadvantage?

Is there a difference between men and women? Are good looks more important in the workplace for men or for women?

How about age? Is this something you think affects young people more than older workers or vice versa?

What do you think of Dr. Hamermesh’s finding that it doesn’t pay to try to package yourself better? Do you think it makes a difference?

Share your thoughts by leaving a Comment.

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