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When a Wife Succeeds More Than Her Husband

who cares who succeeds more
Does it really matter who succeeds more in a relationship? George and Mary-Lynn share the results of a new study. Click play to listen to The BIGG Success Show Podcast.

A new study shows that when a wife succeeds more than her husband, his ego takes a hit. But if her success is less, he feels better about himself.

Old stereotypes and gender roles obviously come into play. But in this day and age, and with this economy, people in relationships should focus on their partnership. Envy undermines a relationship. It holds back success. It’s just plain silly.

Who Cares Who Succeeds More

As we’ve pointed out before, entrepreneurs don’t think win-lose. You can’t have a fulfilling relationship with this mentality. A good partner doesn’t place their self-interest above another.

Entrepreneurs that succeed think win-win. They build a relationship that shares an equal consideration of interests.

Coopetition is necessary in this competitive world. Sure, you can determine that you alone must be the one to succeed more to get the bigger piece of the pie. But isn’t it easier and more rewarding to work with someone to make the pie bigger?

To live life on your own terms, you have to be happy with yourself and proud of where you are. You can’t compare yourself to anyone else. Achieve your own goals. Don’t envy someone for achieving theirs.

We are fortunate to be partners in life and business:

  • A win for one of us is a win for the team.
  • We are both competitive but not towards each other.
  • We both strive for excellence which motivates us to achieve our best.
  • We both have weaknesses that are balanced by our individual strengths.

We bump in to other modern day power couples all the time:

  • She’s a professor at a University; he’s going back to school.
  • She’s a bank president; he’s taking care of the home and family.
  • She’s the team leader for a real estate company; he’s a realtor.
  • He’s a best-selling author; she’s taking care of his marketing and promotions.
  • He’s pursuing a career in public speaking; she’s overseeing their existing business.
  • He’s the company CEO; she’s taking care of the home and family.

It’s not about gender roles. It’s about teamwork. It’s not about competition. It’s about cooperation.

Relationships aren’t about who succeeds more, they’re about combined efforts to achieve BIGG Success.

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Women Can’t Win

According to Catalyst, an organization that studies women in the workplace, gender stereotypes still play a major role in how women are judged. If they act consistently with female stereotypes, their competence is questioned. But if their behavior is consistent with that of the stereotypical male, they’re viewed as being too tough.

Catalyst has done these studies all around the world. They’ve found that the characteristics of a good leader vary from region to region. But whatever is considered ideal, women fall short.

So it would seem that women can’t win.

We understand that you can’t change people’s perceptions. To be more direct, you can’t change bias that’s based on stereotypes. You can’t control anyone else.

So why worry about it? Focus on what you CAN control – how you conduct yourself and your business. You are the CEO of the most important organization in the world – YOU, Inc.

So today we’ll offer 3 tips to overcome stereotypes, gender-based or otherwise.

Tip #1 – Be yourself.
You can’t change opinions that can’t be changed. But if people like you, or at least respect you, you’ll succeed. So if you’re a nurturing person, nurture. If you’re assertive, be assertive.

Don’t try to please everybody. Don’t second guess who you are. Don’t try to become what someone else wants you to be. And don’t ever apologize for who you are.

Tip #2 – Promote yourself.

Make sure you’re getting the credit that you deserve. Don’t be so humble. Make sure you keep document what you’ve done. Make your boss aware of it. Then you’ll be in demand – with your current company or a new one.

Tip #3 – If all else fails, find a different workplace.
If your boss or your company isn’t supporting you, move on to a company that will. If you’re not completely ready, start making preparations. And that doesn’t have anything to do with preparation H! This isn’t an easy solution, but you have to go for what you want in life.

Tip #3B – Start your own business.
Create a workplace where you’d like to work. That’s the motivation for a lot of women starting a business. And women are starting businesses today at three times the rate of men.

Turning stereotypes upside down
Here’s something that we found very interesting – traits that are often viewed as negatives in the corporate world are being turned into advantages in the entrepreneurial world.

Margaret Heffernan wrote a great book, How She Does It: How Women Entrepreneurs Are Changing the Rules of Business. She says that female entrepreneurs emphasize values and relationships. They create a culture that includes employees, customers, and the community at large.

The result – they are building companies that last AND make a contribution. Doesn’t that sound like good leadership?

How have you beat stereotypes, gender or otherwise?
Share it with us by leaving a Comment below!

Our bigg quote is by Anonymous.

“Some leaders are born women.”

But no one is born a leader. You have to take action, but you can do it! After all, you’ve come a long way, baby!

Next time, we’ll sit down at the negotiating table for some delicious tips to negotiate your next deal. The women are having steak … the men are having quiche … how’s that for beating stereotypes?

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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Ask and You Shall Receive

By Bigg Success Staff
05-07-08

Bigg Success With Money

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There are two pieces to building your nest egg: you need to have money to invest and you have to invest it wisely. In this article, we’ll explore the first one – finding the money to invest.

Other than winning the lottery or inheriting money, there are only two ways to get money to invest: make more or spend less of it. We’ll look at the first one – making more money.

Here’s one of the secrets to making more money … ask for it!

That’s right – negotiate for a better compensation package when you’re offered a job. Ask for a pay raise at your current job. Ask and you shall receive!

Or for certain, we can say that if you don’t ask, you won’t receive.

Women are much less likely than men to negotiate for a better deal. In fact, Linda C. Babcock, a Professor of Economics at Carnegie Mellon University and author of the book, Women Don’t Ask: Negotiation and the Gender Divide.

She found that about half of all men negotiate for higher pay when considering a job offer while only one in eight women do the same!

Now here’s something to consider, especially if your position involves negotiating deals of any kind for your employer. If you won’t ask for a better deal for yourself, how can your employer count on you to negotiate a better deal for the company?

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