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Conquer This Paralyzing Pair of Fears

overcome paralyzing fears for BIGG SuccessMany people are too afraid to succeed. They are driven by the fear of failure.

The fear of the unknown is a frequent companion to this fear of failure. With this pair, it’s easy to get stuck like a wooly mammoth in a tar pit.

Only with humans, it leads to emotional death rather than a physical one.

BIGG success is about entrepreneuring your life – taking control to create the life of your dreams. Your life is your enterprise and you are the owner.

Do entrepreneurs experience this dismal duo – the fear of failure and the fear of the unknown?

Certainly.

As the entrepreneur of your life, how can you conquer these frightful fears? Let’s take them one at a time.

The fear of failure

You probably won’t really think about it this way. But you’ll feel it when it happens.

It will eat at you. You’ll have a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. It will spur you to overcome inertia and take action.

Once you sense it, you will use the replacement technique. You will replace one fear with another.

Wait just a minute…isn’t fear something you need to stare down? Can fear be positive? Can fear drive you forward?

Absolutely.

You will replace your fear of failure with the fear of not trying.

More specifically, you’ll know you’re ready to do something BIGG when your fear of not trying overwhelms your fear of failure.

It’s really a conscious choice. You get to choose your regret.

The regret menu only has two items on it. You can regret what you did or you can regret what you didn’t do. Order one and it will be yours.

Most people don’t think about the second one. They are driven by the first. If they try something and fail, they’ll feel regret.

But both research and anecdotal evidence from people close to death show that regrets about what you didn’t do are tougher to overcome.

John Greenleaf Whittier said it best:

“For all sad words of tongue and pen, the saddest are these, “It might have been.”

You’re not most people. You’re a winner. You will be driven by what might be.

You can live with failure. You cannot accept not trying.

But it’s more than just that…

The fear of the unknown

We live in incredibly uncertain and volatile times. It terrifies the average person.

But you’re no ordinary human being. You’re extraordinary.

You accept the fact that you can’t predict the future. You have to create it yourself.

This isn’t a naïve point-of-view. In fact, it’s quite sophisticated. Because with this realization, like all successful entrepreneurs, you focus on the downside.

More specifically, you work to limit the risk of trying something. You begin actively engaging your mind with how to make it work.

Note that, while you’re doing this, most people are still listing off all the reasons that it won’t work. They continue to convince themselves that they would be a failure. And they will be.

But you’re busy mitigating the risk. Once you get the downside to an acceptable level, you give your idea a try.

You start small. You test it. You’re still in the research & development stage.

You’re learning while most people are worrying. Learn. Grow. Prosper. It leads to BIGG success.

How did you conquer your fears?

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Give Up Your Beliefs to Be a Success

give way to your beliefs | BIGG SuccessDo you have to give up your beliefs to be a BIGG success?

Yes and no. Let’s tackle the “no” first.

Core beliefs

On a recent post, we asked: Must you sell your soul to be a BIGG success?

Some beliefs are sacrosanct. These core beliefs are part of a dynamic duo.

You need a vision. It is the star toward which you press.

Your core beliefs are your compass. They help you see the boundaries over which you must not cross.

If you do, any success you achieve will have little meaning. You will have lost yourself in your quest for success.

Discovering yourself is BIGG success.

Mistaken beliefs

But beliefs can work against you. These are beliefs you must give up to be a BIGG success.

We’ve all heard it said over and over: Perception is reality.

No it’s not.

The world is not flat. Yet many people said it was. It kept mankind from exploring new worlds for century upon century.

Perception may be reality. Or it may not.

Stated directly, your perception may be wrong. If you want to be a BIGG success, you must always guard against misperception.

You must discover the objective reality.

You will only make the right choices when you aren’t mislead.

You can only make the best decisions when you aren’t misguided.

Yes, your beliefs can work against you. Give up mistaken beliefs to be a BIGG success.

Limiting beliefs

These are really a special form of mistaken beliefs. But they are so pervasive that we felt they deserved a special mention.

Robert Anthony said, “You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.”

Well said.

Do you believe that you can’t get a promotion? You’re right.

Do you believe that you can’t succeed in business? You’re right.

Do you believe you are a loser? You’re right.

Do you believe you’re a winner? You’re right.

Tell your mind what you want it to think. Internalize those thoughts into beliefs. And your mind will begin to find ways to prove you right.

Even if you’re wrong!

Even if you told yourself you couldn’t do it when you could have!

You can achieve everything in your wildest dreams. But you won’t if you believe you can’t. Your mind will work to keep you stuck right where you are.

It’s your choice.

Choose disappointment, defeat and despair.

Choose to lose.

Choose a life of hardship and pain.

Or…

Choose enthusiasm, energy and elation.

Choose to win.

Choose BIGG success!

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Improve Your Strategic Decision-Making Skills with this Simple Game

which_wayAnita Bruzzese is the author of 45 Things You Do That Drive Your Boss Crazy. We were fortunate to meet her at a conference we attended a few months back. She had a great post recently, where she discussed a game she played with her kids called, “Which would you rather?”

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georgeWith this game, you present your fellow players with a choice. For instance, I asked Mary-Lynn which she would rather give up for a month – chocolate or her cell phone.

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marylynn That was a tough question, but I would give up chocolate. My phone is my mobile device; there’s no way I could live without it for a month!

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georgeHmmm … Mary-Lynn with no chocolate. I’d plan to be away that month!

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A fun way to keep a conversation going

When we discussed conversation continuers recently, we said that games are one way to keep a conversation going. This is a great example of a game you could play to do that. For example, you could ask … 

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marylynn Who would you rather work for – a boss who’s super-demanding or a boss who’s never around? Anita posed more great questions in her post.

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georgeIf you check out her post, you can see how I answered the questions she asked.

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A fun way to improve strategic decision-making

Decision trees are a great way to visualize possible business strategies, since a business can be thought of as a series of either / or options. Sounds like a ramped-up version of “Which would you rather”, doesn’t it? Question 1 leads to Question 2 and so on.

For example, let’s say you plan to start a restaurant. Play “Which would you rather?”

  • Which would you rather open – a big restaurant or a small restaurant? Let’s say you choose bigg … with two g’s of course!
  • Which would you rather be – part of a franchise system or an independent? You really want to create your own brand, so you want to be independent.
  • Where would you locate – in a strip center or a free-standing building? You could do some research to determine which one seems to work better for restaurants like the one you plan to start.

We could keep going, but you get the idea. The reason you create the decision tree is to see the impact of your choices. For instance, if you chose “franchise” for the second question, they may specify whether you’re inline or free-standing.

A fun way to teach your kids critical entrepreneurial skills

Play this game with your kids and help them develop critical entrepreneurial skills! Just add the “decision tree” dimension one question at a time. So instead of asking your kids to think of one question, ask them to think of three – the initial question and a follow-up question for each of the possible answers. They’ll be thinking like an entrepreneur in no time!

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Next time, we’ll examine a highly-touted way to pay off your mortgage early. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

 

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