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Stop Worrying and Be a Success

distraction | BIGG SuccessWhat’s the single, most destructive distraction on your path to success?

This may surprise you.

It’s not social media. Or the internet. It’s not your phone or your e-mail.

It isn’t music. Or even TV.

It’s worry.

We saw this great photo when we were working on a post about money problems. The author of the note nailed it. Worry keeps you from what’s important.

That’s why it’s the most destructive distraction of them all. Worry is a roadblock on your path to BIGG success.

Worry attracts more of the same

Your mind can work for you or against you. Worry is a distraction that leads to attraction. Unfortunately, it’s won’t attract what you want. Worry will only attract more of what you worry about.

Worry is an actionless activity

Have you ever known someone who only seemed happy when they had something to worry about? How successful were they?

We’ve known good people who were like this. Unfortunately, none of them have ever achieved any significant level of success.

Why do you suppose this is? Could it be that all they did was worry? They never actually did anything to turn their worry on its head.

3 steps to stop worrying

Worrying accomplishes nothing. As a BIGG goal-getter, when you feel yourself start to worry, remember these three steps:

  • Focus on what’s important

    BIGG success is life on your own terms. If you’re worrying about something that won’t move you forward on your path to BIGG success, stop!

  • Think solutions, not problems

    Here’s something we will guarantee you: If you only think about problems, you’ll get more problems!

    Spend the overwhelming majority of your time thinking about solutions. Then you’ll wind up with more solutions.

  • Act!

    Thinking alone won’t do you any good. You have to take action. Once you have a solution that you think will work, act immediately!

    Your solution may not work. That’s okay. By acting, you’ll gain valuable insight into the situation. Before you know it, you’ll be back on the path to BIGG success!

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The Question to Ask About Poor Performance

Back to School on chalkboard imageIt’s Back-to-School time and we’re doing ten posts on lifelong learning. It’s hard to believe but we’re already at Post #9.

Today, we want to discuss leadership. It pertains to personal leadership, but we’re going to focus on leading others. We’ve been looking at learning opportunities; we’ll discuss this subject as a teaching opportunity.


When the performance of someone in your charge falls short of expectations, there’s a very important question to ask. You start with this because the answer determines your next move. The question is:

Have I done everything in my power to help this person perform up to expectations?

If the answer is no, determine what else you can do. Then do it.

If the answer is yes, then you may have to take more drastic measures.

Start with yourself for two reasons:
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Little Things Make a Bigg Difference

little_big.jpgBigg Success is life on your own terms. Today we want to focus on growth, one of the five elements of bigg success.

Little things can make a bigg difference on our path to bigg success. Oftentimes, they’re mostly attitudinal adjustments. We’ll discus six of these little things today.

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Instead of taking an extra fifteen minutes, give an extra fifteen minutes.

Over the course of a year, if you were to show up fifteen minutes earlier and stay fifteen minutes longer, you’d have 120 more hours of productive time. That even allows for four weeks of vacation!

This doesn’t have to be work. It really depends on your objectives. You may get home fifteen minutes earlier, put an extra fifteen minutes into studying for that certification you want, or work on building relationships for an extra fifteen minutes a day.

Instead of telling someone about you, ask about them.

Ask your spouse or significant other about their day. Ask that person you just met about the work they do.

This makes a bigg difference in so many ways. It’s amazing how much we can learn from others. By letting the other person tell you about themselves, you learn about yourself and your world.

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marylynnI find this ironic. You seem more interesting when you let the other person talk about themselves. They find you more interesting because you’re letting them talk.

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georgeYou always tell me, Mary-Lynn, that the less I talk, the more interesting I am!

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Instead of sitting back, lean forward in your chair.

This is somewhat related to the last one. One benefit is that you’ll stay awake! But the other benefit is that you will be more engaged with the person with whom you’re talking. You appear more interested. So they feel better about themselves.

Instead of walking around with a frown, flash your bigg beautiful smile!

When you smile, it makes people wonder what you’re up to!

Tony Robbins says: “Motion creates emotion.” Even when you don’t feel like smiling, by telling yourself to smile you’ll soon see the world in a different way. Even in the worst of times, we can find something to smile about.

Instead of seeing the bad, see the good.

This applies in so many ways. We’ll just discuss a couple.

How about the people around you – like your co-workers? Look for their good traits. See what they do well. Compliment them on it.

How about your company? Don’t focus on all the things you don’t like about it. Focus on the things your company is doing well.

Along that line …

Instead of focusing on the problem, think about solutions.

There are a lot of problem-finders in the world; we don’t have enough problem-solvers.

It’s easy to find a problem; it’s a lot harder to SOLVE IT. But bigg goal-getters know that’s how you find bigg success!

What little things have made a bigg difference in your life?

We’d love it if you’d share that with us. You can do that by:

  • leaving a comment below
  • e-mailing us at bigginfo@biggsuccess.com
  • calling us at 888.455.BIGG (2444)

Phil Gerbyshak called us with a comment on our Lone Wolf or Lead Wolf show. He said:

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phil_gerbyshak“For a long time, I lived as the lone wolf but, in the last few years, I’ve realized that being the lead wolf is a lot more fun, a lot more rewarding, and a way to get a whole lot more done and experience some bigg success. So thanks for inspiring me with this article and podcast and for all you do to help us be a bigg success. Make it a great day!”

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Thanks Phil! You make it great every time we hear from you!

And thank you for reading our post today. It’s no little thing to us. We hope it makes a bigg difference for you!

Please join us next time when we talk about why, when it comes to your career, the second time’s a charm. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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Lead Your People to Lead

leading.jpgBigg success is life on your own terms. The five elements of bigg success are money, time, growth, work and play. Today we’ll focus on time.

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Bigg Question

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marylynnRenee called us with her bigg question. She’s been a manager for a few months. She’s having trouble getting all of her work done because her employees keep coming to her with problems that they could easily solve themselves. She feels herself getting more and more stressed about this situation. She wants our suggestions.

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Results, not tasks

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georgeRenee, you’re not alone. This is a common problem with first-time managers. I’ve fought this myself. We’re told, “If you want the job done right, do it yourself.” So we don’t empower people like we need to so they feel comfortable making decisions. We need to help our people build their personal leadership skills.

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You do that by focusing on the results, not the tasks. It’s a conversation about the “what”, not the “how”. What are you trying to achieve as a group? Then break your overall plan into who is to do what by when.

Now every individual in your charge knows for what they’re responsible. Be sure they (and their peers) know they have the authority to do what needs to be done to reach the desired result.

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Guiding principles

Let them know you believe in them. Tell them you’re there to help them when they run into something they can’t solve on their own. However, there are two guiding principles when they think they need your help.

1st – If we’ve discussed it before, follow the precedent.

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georgeThere’s no need to rehash old turf. I want my people to show me that they can learn. I’ll tell them exactly that!

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marylynnYou don’t want to hit your head into the same wall again and again. There will be challenges. Let’s make them new ones! I’m here to help you as long as we aren’t just dealing with the same old problem stated in a different way.

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2nd – When you present a problem, offer a solution.

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georgeI remember discovering this principle, for exactly the reason Renee is saying in her question. I had to find an answer for people constantly bringing up problems without taking any responsibility for the solution. This guiding principle took care of that.

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marylynnHelping your people develop their personal leadership skills leads to bigg success … for them and for you!

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What have you done to get your people to take a leadership role?

Please share that with us by leaving a comment below, calling us at 888.455.BIGG (2444) or sending us an e-mail at bigginfo@biggsuccess.com.

Thanks so much for the gift of your time today. Please join us next time when we talk with a person who used vision boards to reach bigg success. Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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When Life on Your Own Terms Creates Conflict

problematic.jpgBigg success is life on your own terms. We recently talked about how empowering it is to define your terms.

We got a great comment by Andrew R. Timms about this. He says, “… just because we decide on our terms doesn’t mean the rest of the world is going to agree or accept them.”___

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Andrew raises a very good point. It’s something we need to keep in mind as we seek bigg success

What do you do if life on your own terms creates conflict with the people around you?

Andrew goes on to say that, in some cases, a person may think that your terms are keeping them from living their life on their terms. He suggests that we assume that they’re right! Then we’re at least common ground. Now with that in mind, we can explore solutions that work for both of us.

That’s an excellent suggestion. It’s Stephen Covey’s “Seek first to understand.” We have a personal example of this.

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marylynnBefore we were married, we both talked about our career goals. I was in radio and life on my own terms meant growing as a broadcaster and sharing my talent with more and more people. That meant moving to a larger market.

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georgeI was in business for myself and teaching part-time at our local University. I loved what I did, but my businesses were here as was my part-time gig. Life on my own terms meant growing without moving.

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marylynnThese weren’t the only factors at play, but they were definitely part of the equation.

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So we had conflicting terms and we started looking for solutions.

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marylynnThat’s when the idea for Bigg Success came up. It allowed me to broadcast to the largest audience I could imagine – the whole world!

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georgeIt allowed me to expand my business without moving. The conflict forced us to work together to find a solution. Because of that, we both found a better opportunity than we would have had otherwise. That’s synergy!

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What if you can’t find common ground?

We were able to find a solution that allowed both of us to live our lives on our own terms. But what if we weren’t able to do that?

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marylynn

Let’s say I was determined to stick with radio.

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georgeEarlier, we alluded to the fact that there were other factors at play in how we got to Bigg Success. And Mary-Lynn, I think what you saw in the future of radio is one of those factors.

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marylynnYeah, the industry was, and is, going through some significant changes. I felt like there was a lot less opportunity for me to really grow like I wanted to, if I stayed in the business. But let’s pretend that wasn’t the case. I would have had to move for my next bigg opportunity and, George, that would have meant a long-distance relationship for us.

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Life on your own terms isn’t idyllic

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georgeNow that’s not how either of us defines life on our own terms. But there’s an important point to understand here – life on your own terms isn’t idyllic. It involves setting priorities. A long-distance relationship may not be consistent with life on my own terms. But I’d rather do that than not have a relationship with you at all, Mary-Lynn.

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marylynnWe’d both be living life on our own terms, career-wise, but obviously not the way we would prefer in our personal lives. Sometimes you can’t have it all and you just have to accept that.

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It’s a timing problem

But here’s the key – we may have to accept it for now. In the meantime, we keep looking for solutions and opportunities that get us to our ideal life, to life on our own terms. In most cases, it’s a timing problem, not something we have to accept for our whole lives.

We’re talking about the closest of relationships here, the relationships on which you place the highest priority. In other relationships, the dynamic may change as a result of living your life on your own terms. You’re willing to accept that because you know you’re headed for bigg success!

What do you do when your terms conflict with others?

You can share that with us by leaving a comment below, calling us at 888.455.BIGG or sending us an e-mail at bigginfo@biggsuccess.com. Thanks Andrew for your thoughtful comment. And thank you for reading our post today.

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Join us next time as we help a member of our community who’s looking to get back into the workforce after an extended time off.

Until then, here’s to your bigg success!

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