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When a Wife Succeeds More Than Her Husband

who cares who succeeds more
Does it really matter who succeeds more in a relationship? George and Mary-Lynn share the results of a new study. Click play to listen to The BIGG Success Show Podcast.

A new study shows that when a wife succeeds more than her husband, his ego takes a hit. But if her success is less, he feels better about himself.

Old stereotypes and gender roles obviously come into play. But in this day and age, and with this economy, people in relationships should focus on their partnership. Envy undermines a relationship. It holds back success. It’s just plain silly.

Who Cares Who Succeeds More

As we’ve pointed out before, entrepreneurs don’t think win-lose. You can’t have a fulfilling relationship with this mentality. A good partner doesn’t place their self-interest above another.

Entrepreneurs that succeed think win-win. They build a relationship that shares an equal consideration of interests.

Coopetition is necessary in this competitive world. Sure, you can determine that you alone must be the one to succeed more to get the bigger piece of the pie. But isn’t it easier and more rewarding to work with someone to make the pie bigger?

To live life on your own terms, you have to be happy with yourself and proud of where you are. You can’t compare yourself to anyone else. Achieve your own goals. Don’t envy someone for achieving theirs.

We are fortunate to be partners in life and business:

  • A win for one of us is a win for the team.
  • We are both competitive but not towards each other.
  • We both strive for excellence which motivates us to achieve our best.
  • We both have weaknesses that are balanced by our individual strengths.

We bump in to other modern day power couples all the time:

  • She’s a professor at a University; he’s going back to school.
  • She’s a bank president; he’s taking care of the home and family.
  • She’s the team leader for a real estate company; he’s a realtor.
  • He’s a best-selling author; she’s taking care of his marketing and promotions.
  • He’s pursuing a career in public speaking; she’s overseeing their existing business.
  • He’s the company CEO; she’s taking care of the home and family.

It’s not about gender roles. It’s about teamwork. It’s not about competition. It’s about cooperation.

Relationships aren’t about who succeeds more, they’re about combined efforts to achieve BIGG Success.

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Getting banged up for BIGG Success

Why Getting Banged Up is a Good Thing

Getting banged up for BIGG Success

Getting banged up is a part of life as a kid! Hear George & Mary-Lynn share their stories on The BIGG Success Show Podcast (Duration 5:40)

We probably all have stories of getting banged up during recess: A fall from the monkey bars, a touch football game that got a little rough, or the sting of catching a line drive during kickball. But boo-boos come with growing up. Or at least they used to.

One school thinks recess can be dangerous, so they’ve banned footballs, baseballs, lacrosse balls, or anything that might hurt someone on school grounds. Oh, rough games of tag, or cartwheels are out too unless supervised by a coach – all to prevent injuries.

Some might argue the real injury the school is trying to prevent is one to the pocketbook via frivolous lawsuit. But we’ll go with the reason that they say which is they want to protect the kids from getting banged up. But are they protecting, or hindering?

Getting Banged Up to Overcome Fear

Think back to a game you played as a kid: baseball, football, soccer. In every case, you probably got hurt in some way.

[ML] I played 3rd base for a softball team, and took a hard grounder to the shin. It hurt and made me fearful of the ball coming at me. My coach pointed out that I hadn’t placed my glove correctly to stop the ball and worked with me to overcome that fear and become a better defensive infielder.

[GK] I made the winning catch during a football game right at the end of recess, but I had to dive to catch it head first into a fence. After I stood up to celebrate, one of my friends told me I was bleeding. I had a cut just above my eye and still have the scar today! But hey, sometimes it hurts to be a success.

Getting hurt can provide an opportunity to learn. If kids are “protected’ from this, they’ll only know the fear, therefore they won’t try.

Getting Banged Up Makes You Stronger Mentally

We live in a rough and tumble grown-up world filled with highs and lows, wins and losses, acceptance and rejection. It’s important to know who you are and what you want so you can keep your chin up.

Isn’t it amazing how those games played during recess as a child taught you things about yourself? What kind of role did you play on the team? How did you feel after a win or a loss? What strategies did you come up with for the next game? Who did you look up to, and why?

There’s a lot to learn from a good competitive game. When the game was on the line, and the quarterback threw a pass to you and you (unlike George) dropped it, how did you handle it? How did you get over it? These things happen. We all drop the ball from time to time in life.

We think you’d agree that it’s nice to have experienced this feeling as a child, and not for the first time as an adult!

The playground isn’t just a place for kids to run around and let loose. It’s also one of the first places where through games, and occasionally getting banged up, that they begin to learn important life lessons that lead to BIGG Success.

What did you learn on the playground as a kid?

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What Entrepreneurs Can Learn From the Post Office

mailbox | BIGG SuccessThe United States Postal Service (USPS) is in deep water. They face falling demand for their core product along with rising costs.

It’s a deadly combination for any organization. So what does it have to do with entrepreneurs?

There are a number of lessons that could be taken away from the USPS. But today we want to focus on one area.

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Competition

As we talk with startup entrepreneurs and small business owners, a mistake we often see them make is thinking they have no competition.

It’s a naïve point-of-view. EVERYBODY has competition.

If you think you don’t, you haven’t looked closely enough at the marketplace.

And you have to really think about how you define competition. Competition doesn’t necessarily mean other companies just like you.

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George KruegerBefore BIGG Success, my businesses all focused on serving property owners and managers. For some of our businesses, the biggest competition wasn’t other firms. It was people doing the work themselves.

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Mary-Lynn FosterGive a more specific example, George.

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George KruegerOkay, one of them was a carpet cleaning franchise. One group we did a lot of work for was apartment owners. I always kept in mind that they could do the work themselves.

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Mary-Lynn FosterBut to do that, they would have to invest in equipment and people?

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George KruegerThat’s true, but they could do it. So it set a limit on the price we could charge. Even if all other firms like mine charged the same amount as me, the customer could always compete with all of us directly.

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Mary-Lynn FosterSo your customer could be your competition. This is just one example of where to look before you say, “We don’t have any competition.”

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Now you might be saying, “What does this have to do with the USPS?”

It’s another form of competition you have to think about when you’re in business.

The Postal Service is a monopoly by law. Yet they are being hit hard by substitutes:

We can e-mail.

We can text.

We can connect online.

These digital forms of communication are impacting the USPS in a way telephones never did.

You can’t ignore substitutes when you’re thinking about starting your business. And as the Post Office proves, you can’t ignore substitutes as long as you’re in business.

Don’t get tunnel vision when you think about the market for your product or service. Look at it through your customer’s eyes. It leads to BIGG success!

Do you have a business idea but aren’t sure how to determine if it’s a good opportunity? Are you facing competition from substitutes?

Maybe we can help.

Thanks so much for checking in with us. Until next time, here’s to your BIGG success!

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5 Reasons to Love Your Competition

5 Reasons to Love Your CompetitionYou may think it would be nice to be the only operator in your industry. You may be right. But you may find that there are reasons to love your competition. Here are five:

Competition makes the pie larger

Think about this…if you were the only competitor in your industry, you alone have to educate your customers and promote your industry to the marketplace.

Competitors pile on. They help make ore people aware of the need your product or service fills.

Sure, they may get a piece of the pie, but if the pie becomes much larger, who cares?

Competition keeps you on your toes

With no competition, you get sloppy. Unnecessary costs creep in. Mission creep may result.

Competition keeps you on your toes. You operate more efficiently when you have competition. You’re sharper. You may make just as much money with competition as you could without.

Competition ramps up your creativity

Your competitors aren’t standing still. You’ll be much more likely to keep pushing forward with competition than you would without it.

Competitors force you to keep thinking creatively. You must come up with new ideas. You must find new and better ways to serve customers. You must innovate.

Competition may motivate you

Most humans perform better when facing a deadline. Similarly, most humans are more productive when competition is present.

You pick up the pace. You work harder and longer and smarter. You’re more motivated than you would be if you didn’t have any competitors.

Competition may make you more money

Collaboration is the real opportunity today for entrepreneurs and small business owners. You may be able to work with your competitors to save money. You may be able to combine forces to reduce certain costs. You may be able to open new markets together that you couldn’t on your own.

You may actually make more money by working with your competition. The love of money may be the root of all evil. Finding reasons to love your competition just makes good business sense today.

What do you love about your competition?

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Clutter Contest

cluttered_desk.jpgBigg success is life on your own terms. The five elements of bigg success are money, time, growth, work and play. Today we’ll focus on play, but like many of the subjects we talk about there is overlap. Time is definitely part of today’s topic.

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In our corner of the world, it’s finally starting to feel like spring. And here we are almost at the beginning of summer!

We’ve been busy cleaning up outdoors. Washing the windows. Cleaning out the gutters. Trimming the bushes. Picking up sticks in the yard.

Sometimes homeownership feels like work!

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marylynnPicking up sticks has its own reward because we bought a fire pit last year. I just love sitting around a fire and smelling the burning wood! It’s fantastic on those cool nights.

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georgeWe had a lot of great evenings last year relaxing around the fire. I’d say it’s already paid for itself. Plus it keeps your fire burning in a contained area, Mary-Lynn!

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Planning for a rainy day

We know what we’re going to do the next time we have a rainy day on the weekend. We’re going to have a Clutter Contest!

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marylynn
You win, George. You have the most clutter!

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georgeThe idea is to get rid of the clutter, Mary-Lynn. But thank you for pointing out my clutter!

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marylynnWe’re going have a contest between the two of us – the person who clears out the most clutter wins. Can you tell that we’re competitive?

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The prize

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georgeSince it’s just the two of us, we can cater the prize however we want. So, if you win Mary-Lynn, I’ll give you a back massage.

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marylynnOoh, I love massages. That will be great. I’ll tell you what, George, since you do most of the cooking … if you win, I’ll cook you dinner!

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george
I’m not sure that’s such a good prize!

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We’re really trying to highlight that you don’t have to spend money (hey there’s another one of the elements of bigg success) on prizes. They can be personal.

For your family, the prize could be the winner’s favorite home-cooked meal. He or she could choose the next movie to watch or game you all play. It’s completely customizable.

You can have more the one prize. For example, you might have a prize for the person who donates the most. You get stuff out of the house and a favorite charity gets goods they can sell. How’s that for win/win?

Even if you’re not a clutter bug, there may be someone in your house whose clutter drives you crazy. They’ll be more likely to clean it out if they can win a prize they really want. And think about it … they should be the odds-on favorite to win because they have the most stuff!

Household chores aren’t the most exciting way to spend our time off. However, this is one thing that can really ramp up your productivity. Studies show that the average American could save about an hour a day if they cleared out their clutter!

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marylynnWhen I heard that statistic, it really made me think about how to get more organized.

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georgeIt made me realize that it was time to clear out my clutter. Now I need to go get the ladder so I can start looking through that pile on my desk!

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Thanks so much for the gift of your time today!

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